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Pretend it didn't happen?

he seems like for now just a once off..no strings attached sex..I wud wait..but I'm not the most experience to say..I'm sure there will be other opinions :)..
 
Tell him "I believe you when you say this doesn't mean we are boyfriends and I'm cool with that if that is your final word on the subject. But it was really good sex and I definitely want to do it again because we both enjoyed it and neither of us is stupid enough to turn down good sex."

You really have to be able to trust him when he says he's not interested in more. If you truly believe he is telling the truth then you can have a fun time with him and enjoy it, and be happy for him when he falls in love with someone else and let him go willingly .

But if there is any part of you that thinks he is not being truthful and that he is actually hiding romantic feelings for you that he is afraid to act on, then your simple crush and your hopes for more will feed off that doubt and turn this into a nasty mess unless you both deal with the unresolved feelings.

You have friendship. You could have sex and friendship. You probably can't have sex, friendship and love with this man. Who knows? Maybe it could happen. But there is no obvious way from here to there. He's left himself an out, and he's free to take it. Maybe he won't. But who knows, maybe not even him...
 
Well you can't really FORCE yourself to ignore it. Obviously, if you are having to try to make yourself not think about him "that way", then you are thinking about "that way".

I'd say that since you are going to think about it regardless, it has already had an impact on your relationship and so why not address it with him?

I'd just get drunk-ish and discuss it with him. Just make sure that you don't lead into it in a "sexy" way but just in a "let's talk about it" way. That is, unless you want it to be a sexy way lol
 
give him chance to digest it. he remembers exactly what happened and exactly how he liked it. he's not going to say or act differently, but in his head he remembers. So play cool and even suggest a repeat. Play your cards right and don't seem eager. it seems like you spend all your time with him so it's not like he's going anywhere or meeting other people.


and yes, that's a fantasy come true.
 
ERg.

Ok, first... do not get your friend drunk to do it again.

But you might want to say.. if you wanna go again... no strings attached... great.


However... it seems more like you want a boyfriend.. not just a fuck buddy. This guy might be gay.. but he's not ready. If you're willing to wait... hey, wait.

If you're not.. find a guy who's out and ready to settle down.
 
Might not be a bad idea to put yourself out there and try to meet a few more out guys.

All the desperation looking for clues and then waking up in the morning to that "I was so drunk last night I don't remember what I did" crap.

Who needs it?
 
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