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probly the same old story, but i'd appreciate help

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alright so ive been friends with a guy for a long time and i always kinda got the feeling he was gay, but i was never sure so i didnt want to try anything on him cause if hes not gay or bi or curious or whatever i dont wanna ruin our friendship.

but recently i found gay porn on his laptop so im guessing he is gay/bi whatever. but i still have absolutely no idea how to make a move on him... i never did anything with a guy before and i only really wanna try things with a guy to see if i like it so i can get it out of my system i guess.

so if any1 out there has any experience with something like this or could give me some advice, id really appreciate it.
 
Re: probly the same old story, but i'd appreciate

Welcome to JUB! :wave:

Your best bet? If you haven't already, come out to him. He's probably gay, but even if he isn't, he's certainly gay-friendly. So he won't have any problem with you being gay/bi/curious. That will let him know you're at least "on the market", and you can see where that leads.

...oh, and stop snooping on laptops. It's kinda rude. :)

Lex
 
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I'd also refrain from mentioning what you found on his laptop. I'm assuming he isn't out yet, and you don't really wanna put him on the defensive.
 
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thanks for the advice, but idk if im gay or bi yet i just wanna try stuff with a guy to see if i like it... sounds stupid, but is there any way to say that to him lol

and i didnt snoop on his laptop lol i was over his house and he let me use it nd i saw the stuff in the history. sorry if i came across as a snooper haha
 
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accidental snooping is still snooping..

my mom snooped... thats how she found out about me...

I agree that your best bet is to come out to him first even if you are not sure and you just want to experiment you should just bring up that you are bi-curious

just spike up a conversation about sex somehow... and slip in that you'd like to try it with a guy sometime and ask if he ever has and if he says he hasn't ask him if he ever wanted to
 
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>>>thanks for the advice, but idk if im gay or bi yet i just wanna try stuff with a guy to see if i like it... sounds stupid, but is there any way to say that to him lol

"You know, I don't even know if I'm straight, or bisexual, or gay, or what. I'd really like to try having sex with a guy to see what it's like."

Lex
 
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"I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with a guy, but I've never had the balls to ask anyone, 'cause I don't know anyone who'd want to try it."

And just leave it at that for a few days.

I seriously doubt he would suddenly jump up and say, "Hey, I'm gay! Let's fuck!" LOL. But I guess you never know.

Let him digest that for a while. See if he brings the topic up later, or see if he continues the conversation. Just start slowly.
 
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^^ Exactly. And he may not be the right one even though you're attracted to him, but it won't hurt to find out. I think this could form a comfortable bond if done carefully. If insensitive, it could get awkward between you two.
 
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thanks for the advice guys, it sounds pretty good. he's coming over tonight to hopefully ill have the balls to bring it up lol.

where do any of u think it would go after we talk about it? i dont think we would do anything right after but u never know i guess lol
 
Re: probly the same old story, but i'd appreciate

Where will it go? It totally depends on your personalities. Are you risk-takers? Maybe you'll go all the way. Are you both risk-averse? Nothing might happen other than talk or--maybe--a blowjob.
 
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im more of a risk taker then he his, so idk how that would work out. sometimes we drink beer and stuff maybe if we were a little "under the influence" it would make things easier? hahah idk if thats a good idea wat do u all think?
 
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It works for a lot of guys (but not me). You run the risk of "I didn't know what I was doing because I was drunk." Although the fact that he has gay porn suggests he probably wouldn't go down that route.

Maybe have a few beers, but don't get rip-roaring drunk. You want to smooth things out, not clobber him over the head. :-)
 
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hahaha yea thats what i mean like just to get him a little loosened up to things. i want to remember what happened that night after all lol
 
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ok well... i didnt do anything that night. was way too nervous about it. the words were like right there but they wouldnt leave my mouth lol. i guess im kinda waiting for him to make some kind of move but if hes even thinking what im thinking hes probly gunna be doing the same... ughh this annoys me so much.

idk what else any1 can offer, but if any1 thinks of something pleasee help
 
Re: probly the same old story, but i'd appreciate

Alex277: This is one of those cases where the truth will set you free. But you know that, don't you?
 
Re: probly the same old story, but i'd appreciate

I'm pretty much out of advice. You've finished the analysis phase and the planning phase - all that's left is the action.

Lex
 
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