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So, I think I've fallen for a girl, and apparently it's consentual (her friend called one of mine up asking about me), but I know that I'm gay and just waiting for the right time to come out. It's weird, though, because I'm falling for her even though I know that I'm not sexually attracted to her; I just feel an emotional love for her. Well, the issue of prom came up and she's been hinting that she wants me to ask her, but I feel that I'd be cheating her if I did and I care for her too much to do so. But I can hardly tell her the reason why, and I honestly want to go with her, although it will be awkward if I get pressure to make out or grind with her or whatever. I also feel as if it would be a step backward in my comfort level with my orientation if I did so. What do you all think I should do?
 
You do not have to go to prom with someone because they are a date. You can come out to her that night if you think she is worthy of knowing when you are trashed and tell her that you like her as a friend.
 
come out to her...

"I really really like you.. and I'd love to ask you to the prom.. but I'm not sexually attracted to you... but if you had a penis I'd be all over you"
 
One day down the road your going to kick your self in the ass because you did not go. You dont have to make out, use that time to talk about your selfs and little hints here and there to see what her feelings are and then tell her some or all . But make sure you at least tell her your feelings for her and you value it alot and would not want to her to get hurt. You can be real good freinds and do alot more than you think. But if your not honest on how you feel about her then you may not be honest to yourself later on. So go to Prom with her,have a great time, Prom doesnt always mean you have to have sex, save it for a special time /person.
 
I do think it would be best for her to understand you prior to you taking her out.
That said, your Prom is special, so if you enjoy being with her or around her and she is agreeable, going with a friend would make for a great night.
 
its just prom, and its just dancing...just have fun and come out to her when you are ready
 
Well we don't really have Prom here in Canada the same way you guys do, but that being said, I went by myself, but not by myself.

I went with my friends, and actually one of the girls I know who asked me (I declined and came out to her) introduced me to another gay guy who she knew and I had a great time spending the evening with him. It didn't get any further than that because he's notorious for standing people up and forgetting about stuff, but it was still fun.

Just make SURE that she knows you're not interested in her "like that" if you plan on asking her, because it's her night too, not just yours.
 
Well we don't really have Prom here the same way you guys do, but that being said, I went by myself, but not by myself.

I went with my friends, and actually one of the girls I know who asked me (I declined and came out to her) introduced me to another gay guy who she knew and I had a great time spending the evening with him. It didn't get any further than that because he's notorious for standing people up and forgetting about stuff, but it was still fun.

Just make SURE that she knows you're not interested in her "like that" because it's her night too, not just yours.
 
When HS prom came around, I hadn't come out even to myself. (Had no idea, in fact.) But when a female friend of mine got dumped two weeks before prom, I asked, "Would it be OK if I took you instead?" She knew we were going as friends, and I should say that we ended up having a MUCH better time than the "daters". There was no awkwardness, no unspoken "how might this end up" sort of things. We went, danced, chatted, laughed, went to the after-prom party, and dragged ourselves home at 6am as the sun came up. I'm very happy I went.

Lex
 
Relax and have a great time. You're not obliged to fuck her and indeed if you feel just one teensyweensyiest bit interested in sex at the same time as she does remember you have fingers and a mouth as well, and using them could be a lot more fun than an unintended and insincere pronging.
I had great time at proms (May Balls as they are called at Cambridge University) and friends' big parties with or without a female companion. If you want to go and go with her, at least though give her the chance to know what the long-term likelihood is before you both walk through the door, so she has time to back out, if that's what she wants to do, and recover from her disappointment. Are you afraid she'll tell all her friends, by the way?
Merry
 
Ugh. I have a date with her tonight.

Should I tell her? I'm not out to anyone yet.
 
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