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So I'm thinking of getting some sort of a bracelet as a public display of my homosexuality, but not sure if it's a good idea. I mean I realize I could be be exposing myself to danger, but I'm fairly confident that the area I live in (urban Calgary) people aren't too terribly judgemental, but I will exercise caution, worry not. More than that, what I'm more worried about is the message I might be sending to other people, as I don't want to be defined by my orientation, but I would like people to know, so that hopefully by word of mouth, I'd meet other like individuals and avoid homophobic people. Opinion?
 
In my experience even when I wear something as benign as a green bandanna when i'm in the city (NYC) I get the occasional remark.
 
If you're worried about the message you'll be sending to people... then don't wear one.
 
For years I've worn my keys hanging from my belt on the left side and my light blue and/or yellow hankies in my left hip pocket although they're usually inside so they dont show. Nobody knows the codes unless they're older gay men so I've had only one man notice in over three decades.

Truth in labeling would be nice but not in a world overpopulated with sexuality-bigots.
 
if you want people to know, then come out with the ones you care about, why do the rest of the people would even care about your sexual orientation? Do they really need to know?
 
I think just being honest about being gay and letting people close to you know is a better idea. If you tell your friends and others, word will get around and your prospects should open up.
 
Screw them. Wear what you like.

You'll never get a pleasant life as a homosexual if you constantly have to be afraid of what other people might think.
 
^What Harke said.

It's a great idea. Do whatever you want. There's always a slight risk everywhere, but that doesn't mean a black man can't be president.
 
Well, I tell anyone who asks that I'm gay. I also wear my gay pride band on one wrist, and my bear pride band on my other wrist. I have only had one guy mention them. I don't worry about what people think anymore, I am proud of who I am.
 
It won't be a big issue wearing a rainbow bracelet or something like that in downtown Calgary.

On the other hand, if you're wearing an Oilers jersey...
 
Just_Believe18 said:
If you're worried about the message you'll be sending to people... then don't wear one.
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I don't think it's that simple. It sounds like the OP is conflicted about what the message will bring. Wearing a bracelet showing openness of sexuality can open up the benefits of more opportunities to meet other gay people. It makes him more approachable to other gay people than somebody they are not sure about. The flip side of the coin is where I think he's conflicted...being approachable to taunting and homophobes.

I would wear it. It could open you up to meet great friends or even that special someone. A few taunts here and there might hurt your feelings, but if any of them are persistent, that's harassment and you sign complaints against them. You have the freedom to wear a bracelet, they do not have the freedom to infringe on your life, liberty, or pursuit of happiness without consequence.
 
Comtemplation said:
So I'm thinking of getting some sort of a bracelet as a public display of my homosexuality, but not sure if it's a good idea. I mean I realize I could be be exposing myself to danger, but I'm fairly confident that the area I live in (urban Calgary) people aren't too terribly judgemental, but I will exercise caution, worry not. More than that, what I'm more worried about is the message I might be sending to other people, as I don't want to be defined by my orientation, but I would like people to know, so that hopefully by word of mouth, I'd meet other like individuals and avoid homophobic people. Opinion?
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It's Calgary, not the boondocks of hell. Wear whatever you want.

Have you been to Club Sapien yet? One of my friends works there, sounds nice.
 
Well thanks guys, then my decision is clear. :P

Now it's just a matter of finding the materials to make something, or finding something I can wear.
 
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