Q from a curious guy: getting f***ed - what's the big deal?

[SunsetsC]

Alright, here's my thing. I'm generally straight, but I've done some j/o and oral with guys in the past. I'm curious about the next step. From what I understand, just about all gay guys love getting fucked. I'm a bit hesitant, so I got a dildo about the size of an average dick, stripped down, lubed up, and started fucking myself.

Now, I was expecting it to hurt at first, so I took it slow, and finally got to where I was pumping the thing pretty fast without any pain, other than a mild burning sensation from my anus. But here's the hangup: it never actually started to feel good.

I've watched my share of gay porn, trying to figure what it was all about, and they all seem to have this heavenly look on their faces when they're taking it, urging their partners to do it harder and faster, yada yada yada.

But I felt exactly zero pleasure. I kept at it for a good forty minutes. Tried jacking while I did it. Tried targeting my prostate. Nothing. My ass just burned.

So, maybe some of you more experienced fellas can help me out. Am I missing something? Am I just a "born top" for some reason? What's the big deal about getting fucked? I just don't get it.

Havent a clue either... Id just do it if my buddy wanted to... I mean, id do it for him. but at the moment? dont think im lookin forward to doin it generally. if things went my way id probly initiate to do the other dude. but u know, if they want... sure... for them i would. cause theyre speeecial.

--tell ya when i find out. at the moment the only similar experience ive had in that area is tryin to finger meself. like u, nothin, no pleasure whatsoever, and it hurt already after it was a bit further than a couple of centimetres, and this is one fucking finger! so yeah took it out straight off n thought wtf is the deal with that? yeeaa didnt enjoy it at all...