Q: How to convince a friend to take some nude pics

[zgbear]

Hi, Everyone:

There's this guy I've been going out for the past few months. So far we've been doing the usual (tame) things like kissing and sucking (no penetration yet though). After seeing all the pics in JUB and other on-line sites I realized that we haven't taken any nude or erotic pics together.

I've been meaning to ask him about the possibility of taking some nude/erotic photos, but I do not know how to make the appropriate approach to asking him. Should I simply ask him upfront or is there another way to ease into asking him without simply jumping the gun with this particular request/question?

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks - zgb

 

[kidwithathorn]

I didn't know that taking erotic pictures was a part of a relationship! Well, damn. I'm behind on what's what now.

 

[mike_n_herrin]

well i can't really think of a good answer to your question, but i do want to say

- mikey

 

[zgbear]

Thanks to Mikey

To - Mikey:

Thanks for the "Welcome" (nice effects too).

- zgb

 

[dr_beat]

Just ask him...

"So, have you ever taken any nude pics of yourself?"

 

[cocktales]

So this is ONLY your 3/4th post?

Then, by all means:

Concerning your question, I think you should just bring up the subject that when you two are NOT together, it helps to have something to remind you of him, and wonder if he is willing to take some "naughty" shots to help remind each other while taking-care-of-business when alone..... LOL!

I think he will probably agree, if you promise NOT to show his photo(s) around to your friends and stuff, etc......

Just ask him, there's ONLY 2 answers........YES/NO!

Good luck!!!

 

[chrisdobro]

How about the subtle approach ?

Ask if you can take a few picture (nothing about nudity yet). If yes, take a few. Then tell him to remove his shirt. ..
Take a few more. Tell him to unzip his pants, a few more.
Tell him to take off his pants. A few more ...
and so on.

This highly depends on a few things. Who's more dominant in the relationship and who likes to be a bit submissive. Is the mood there ? Yours and his state of involvement, and so on. This may not work. But sometimes it does. It worked on ... me !

btw, I feel that there are more than two answers. For example if he says "maybe" it usually means a "yes, but proceed with caution".

 

[zgbear]

How to convince a friend to take some nude pics

To all who have responded/posted:


T H A N K S !

The suggestions posted so far are great, but by all means keep them coming. I love hearing new/other scenarios for persuading my guy to take some nude and/or semi-nude shots solo and with me.

 

[jft245]

It cant help to ask.

And, welcome to JUB. I love your avitar.

 

[evil_danger]

Just drug him to put him to sleep, then have your way with him, no fear of him saying no to all those erotic photos you wanna take.

The best part is, he doesn't even have to know, well untill he joins jub and the pictures are being posted, but that could be ages away.

But seriously, probably best just to ask him outright, he can only say yes or no.

 

[1gayguy]

If you really want to have pics of each other just ask him.
Keep in mind that he may not consider this to be part of "his" normal relationship. Remember that there can be and generally is a difference between what happens on a porn site and what happens in real life. Remember too that porn is supposed to be fantasy. In any case it's something you need to talk about and just expect your partner to do.

 

[Matthew-]

Thats a tough one, as if he isnt ready to do so and you convinced him in getting nude pics, he may regret it later...

 

[Paxton]

Just drug him to put him to sleep, then have your way with him, no fear of him saying no to all those erotic photos you wanna take.

The best part is, he doesn't even have to know, well untill he joins jub and the pictures are being posted, but that could be ages away.

But seriously, probably best just to ask him outright, he can only say yes or no.

We have a winner here!!!!

 

[chrisdobro]

Thats a tough one, as if he isnt ready to do so and you convinced him in getting nude pics, he may regret it later...

when it was done to me the only thing I regretted (or upset about) later was that the guy took way too many. I didn't mind the pics, but I was getting a bit antsy after a while. And he kept taking them. Because he was horny and stuff I guess or whatever. Had I've been more assertive I'd just say that's enough. So if your guy is like that you may want to watch out for his body language a bit more.

Btw the guy who took pics of me and me are now partners

 

[Riverrick]

Its risky to let anyone have nude pics of you these days, what with the Internet.

So don't be surprised if he says No.

 

[Swellegant]

You know, the older I get, the simpler these questions become. You're essentially wondering how you can get Person A to perform Action B; your essential question is "how can I approach a situation that will end in me getting my way?"

And the answer is: You Can't. Everybody has his or her own will, and imposing your will on them is evil. Fairly simple.

On the other hand, there is another layer of your question: "How can I suggest this particular form of sexplay to my partner without sounding like a freakshow?" Well, again, you can't really control how your mister is going to take it, how he's going to react.

So here's my advice: let go of the outcome. With both layers of your question, you have a very particular outcome in mind; but you cannot force or finagle that outcome, so just put that right out of your mind. Once you've removed the answer from the question, the asking will happen naturally enough without dire consequences. Like they say above, it never hurts to ask... what hurts is when he says no and you keep hammering away at it because you want what you want.

The creepiness doesn't come from the question, but from the intent of bending a person to your will. When you have (and demonstrate) respect for other people's boundaries, you naturally come off as not creepy.