Question on threesomes

[deserter85]

My partner and I are considering a threesome.

The problem is, we are physically very different.

I - 24 year old Chinese, smooth, slim-to-average build.
My partner - 43 year old Caucasian, hairy, average build.

As a result, we figure that it might be hard for someone to be interested in the both of us.

Also, I prefer someone older (any race, and not slim), he prefers someone younger (any race, and not large).

How do you suggest we proceed to find someone that we're both interested in and is also interested in both of us?

 

[8tomtoms8]

More than likely you won't find someone who is interested in both of you. He'll probably be interested in you or your partner. My current boyfriend was involved in a few threesomes before he met me and he said usually one guy ends up feeling left out. You and your partner need to be prepared for that. It seems there is a lot of truth to the old saying, " three's a crowd".

I always wonder what a couple is trying to accomplish with a threesome. They aren't for me. Good luck.

 

[Just_Believe18]

It is not a compatible situation. I would avoid doing it.

 

[Lube]

We all have preferences; occasionally there's overlap between what you & your bf will like. You just have to keep asking each other if there's someone you both like. So it's challenging.

Also, 3-somes can be fun. It is seemingly rare to have 3 guys who all are into each other, but it happens.

Expect a lot of disappointment before you find someone who works, unless you're really lucky.

 

[sodson]

Avoid it. They get complicated.

 

[TX-Beau]

Add A fourth, everyone's happy!


Seriously, I don't think I've ever been in a threesome where the third was equally into both guys. That's not to say you should do it if the third is ONLY into one guy, but it's unusual in my experience for all the attraction to be equally distributed.

Sooooooooo, Find a guy you both have at least a moderate attraction to - and not a good friend, then see what happens.

It's also been my experience that they're better if you allow them to develop, and don't force things. Keep it in your mind, if a prospect crosses your path, ask your BF what he thinks, move on from there.

I think you'll be surprised at the number of guys who can't do a threesome, I know I was.

 

[Corny]

Add A fourth, everyone's happy!

That's what I thought, too. You (skinny, young - older, average or stocky) are not THAT kind of a rare couple. if you would find a similar couple with the same wish, there would be something in for all of you ..

 

[deserter85]

Thanks guys for the advice.

 

[Lube]

Next time your partner mentions how cute a guy (or his ass) is, and you feel the same way, broach the subject.