Question...

[savfratguy]

Okay, I've got this friend, he is about as hot as a guy can be - seriously!

He's about 6 feet tall, broad shoulders, blonde hair, blue eyes, he's really, pretty!

He shaves all his body hair (and I mean all). He likes candles. He works out all the time.

He claims to be super religous - he doesn't date or do anything with girls. He seems to be afraid of any close friendships with guys.

Is he gay or just weird?

Help!

 

[M4P]

I'd say there is a pretty good chance this man is gay and is hiding in the back of the closet. He needs a good friend and some time to process his life. Does he know you're gay?

 

[portohottie]

Ummmmm,well.............Yeah GAY!

 

[Roland00]

Could be...does he know you are gay?

If he is a closet case then you need to know that he will need a friend and not a boyfriend right now Prepare yourself okay?

 

[loudmeownow]

hell .. does he know he's gay?

 

[Soilwork]

Super Religious, burns candles and has no body hair?

gay or not, he sounds like a drag and a half.

 

[savfratguy]

Good comments... Particularly, whether or not he knows he's gay... He's odd and one of the most difficult people I've ever tried to be friends with, so much that I've given up...

No, he does not know that I'm gay... He lectured me on jacking off one time... Told me it was a sin... I didn't know how to react... Never heard that one before...

You are right though, he needs a friend, not a boyfriend...

 

[1st love ron]

Using the excuse that he's "super religious" as an explanation as to why he doesn't date (girls) is the oldest trick in the book for closet gays. He's GAY!

 

[trawler69]

The poor bloke, he probably has been brainwashed by religion and is now or will become a seriously unhappy camper. He will have been taught that pretty much everything except married sex to produce children, is wrong. He lectured you about jacking off! and he probably believed it, If he jacks off he probably has to pray for forgiveness. This bloke needs a friend but you may have to be a saint to take on the task. A good starting point might be to discuss why he thinks jacking off is a sin, why does pleasure have to be bad, and if it does, what is the point of our existence.

I fear his life may become a missery as he will have to surpress his Gay feelings and live in denial for the rest of his life. He has the potential to become another Ted Haggard. These overly religious families / schools have a lot to answer for.

 

[savfratguy]

I agree with you... I've never been told that jacking off is a sin or is bad... I mean, that's just too much for me... He doesn't have any close male friends... Just a weird situation... I know girls that wanted to hook up with him that have concluded he's gay so why bother... He seems oblivious...

 

[Roland00]

Baby steps, baby steps.

Okay next time something like masturbation comes up, tell him you wack off and every male that has every lived pass the age of 20 has wacked off. Don't just sit there shocked that someone could actually believe such a thing. Cause him to trust you, while you gentle shatter some preconceived notions.

I wouldn't tell him you are gay right yet. That might scare him off

Honestly, I don't know how you can do much for him. Yes, by ancient Biblical (i.e. Hebrew) teaching, semen is viewed as the "seed" of life. This is more bad science than moral teaching - ancient Hebrews viewed the man's seed as containing all the necessary ingredients, so to "waste" the seed for a non-reproductive purpose was profane. They didn't know about chromosome pairs, obviously, so all of this was, well, "obvious" to them. Trouble is, it really doesn't make a lot of sense to a modern scientist. What you end up with today is a mish-mash of views on human sexuality.

Yept, everything that special was supposedly in the male according to ancient belief, women were just the incubator. This thought process is what responsible for the idea of Homunculus and some other cool myths (wiki it sometime savfratguy.)