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variglog

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Sometimes, I get depressed and I attempt to contemplate a question. Am I really the most unattractive person in the city?

Because I think I live in one of the most homo cities in Canada, and I still cannot find myself someone. I even tried getting so wasted at a party I ended up in the drunk tank of the campus RCMP office.

To conclude my rant, what can I do so that I can become more appealing to others? I even began exercising regularly and wearing really flamboyant items but have had no avail. Its not like I attempt to hide my sexuality, I wear a pride pin (rainbow pin in the shape of a triangle).

Please, any advice would help me on my plight ^^:confused:
 
I would bet that soon after you stop trying so hard and are just yourself with a friendly smile and attitude all sorts of magic will begin to happen. Best wishes.
 
Relax.

Be yourself.

But put yourself into situations where you are likely to meet other guys and keep yourself open to all possibilities.

I have known a number of guys who are moaning about not getting a guy, but when you dig deeper, you find that they likely have dismissed or rejected all kinds of guys who might have wanted to become friends or fuck buddies because the other guy didn't meet their expectations.

Or...they only hang around with straight kids and somehow magically expect that they are going to meet the homo of their dreams (very common in uni BTW)

Oh. And don't get drunk. It just makes you un-likeable at a party.
 
To be honest, no I am not with the traditional "straight" crowds at school. But I'm just not interesting enough to the men in my life, and I guess I'll just need to be okay with that.
 
Or here's a thought - make yourself interesting. Get hobbies. Start reading. Watching movies. TV. Magic the Gathering. Knitting. Whatever.

But in the end, you are as interesting as you think you are, and usually people will pick up on that.
 
If that's you in your avatar, you're attractive, physically.

I think you're trying way too hard. It sounds like you're coming across as needy, clingy, and desperate.

I want to feel like a guy likes me, for ME... not just because I happen to have a cock, and willing to attempt to fill some hole you feel like you have in your life by being single.

Finding someone you mesh well with on multiple levels is VERY difficult, and isn't going to happen over night.
 
Ah thanks :D Yeah, that is me ^^

Its weird, I feel like i'm already sort of doing all those things though, and to be honest, I like being by myself often more than enjoying the company of others.

I love aviation, and is a part of several clubs around the school. I guess its more of a wait and see kinda thing.[-X

Hmm.. It feels weird that I'm explaining myself on the internet.
 
I'm not judging you... and you have no reason to justify yourself to me.

You asked for an opinion, and I offered you mine, based on what I've seen / read.

I think we've all been where you are - Just try to remember to take is slow, and let it build over time.

We get so caught up in fast food, jets,cell phones, reality TV, Internet - "instant gratification" we forget the complexities of people, and the emotions/trust that can't be instantaneous and needs time to develop for anything real.

It's ok to want it all... but enjoy the journey getting there along the way. You're young, and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't be in such a rush. ;)

I'm sure you'll be more then appealing to others, once they've taken the time to get to know you, and you them.
 
Hmm... Its weird.. I guess my biggest problem is not knowing what I want. Now that I've got my pride pin and everything else that makes it obvious what I want to do in the dark, I finally get attention from others, and I realize thats not the type of attention that I want. I guess I am more complex than I thought I was, thoughts?

The other day, my cab driver offered to have me suck him off after his bad break-up. Clean, whitewashed 20 something asian dude who seemed pretty awesome, but I wouldn't be that much of a whore ><.

Is it just my mind telling me that I don't want to be like that or no, sorry for my stream of conscious writing, but I don't know how to phrase this more eloquently.
 
Variglog;

You are gorgeous, and no you don't have to stoop to the 'whore' level, especially in the cab driver scenario.

You will eventually know what you want in life, personally I want to love and be loved, however it takes time and many attempts sometimes to reach your goal.

as long as you love yourself and have self-confidence you will love life, don't fret over sex and relationships when the most important person in your life should be yourself.

That or you can move to Sydney ;) cough cough hint hint.
 
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