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Questioning my best friend

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Hey guys.
First and foremost, this is a long post, so your warned.
I have a friend who iv known since summer, but we don't hang out too much. But the thing is we both feel as if we have known each other for ever. He already plans on moving in with me this summer, once schools over.
Just today when he was driving me back to my house after a band session of Rock Band, he talked about why one of our friends was late, and how we think hes sleeping with another friend. To make the long story short he said that hes not even that good looking, if he was a girl he would pick me over him any day. Which was random as i wasn't even in the subject. I responded saying "I would pick you over all of them" and we smiled at each other in a caring way and left it at that.
A couple months ago he slept over and we shared my bed in a nonsexual way (not unusual to me and my friends) and in a joking but not joking way i layed down and spooned him for a couple seconds. I asked "This bugging you? haha" and he said "Nope, but is the blanket between us?" and i responded saying ya. than i pulled it out and he didn't do anything, than i waited a couple seconds, and than just went to sleep. He also said he wanted to go to the same college with me, and room together. He picked me over all of his other friends, which im thinking is because he wants to "experiment" or just come out there, in fear of his parents flipping out. He said to us that if he was gay and he came out, his parents would disown him or something. Another time we were leaving MC D's and i was saying that if he was bi, i would give him his first time (along with mine :P) and he responded with, "I dont know, i might be bi, but i don't know." inside i screamed with excitement, but i said to him "Well if you need to find out, im here for you bro" than we ended the conversion. These are just a couple times, but he has only kissed girls, he recently had a girlfriend (who was not attractive IMO) and he says he didn't have sex because she only wanted to kiss. I met her at the movies last week and she was all over him, so i bet he told her he didn't want to go further. Im not even sure if he did anything with her, but one friend says he talked to her and she says they never properly were dating, but i really cant take his word for everything. I mean the pieces fit perfectly into a puzzel screaming "I LIKE MEN!" but im not sure how to take it further. If we say "Andy, your gay, just admit it" he flips out, even though we are joking. If he was straight, he wouldn't be so mad, i mean my other friends who are straight beyond belief even laugh about it and just go "Oh ya i know, cocks are delicious". What do you guys think?
 
Well sounds to me your best friend is definitely at least bi...but not ready to come out yet or still feels confused. I'm not sure how old you guys are but im guessing in high school? it's hard to be sure of anything at this age especially when it comes to your sexuality...give him time...considering that your his best friend...you'll probably be one of the first people he'll come out to when he's ready...sooo for now I would just try to have fun with it and enjoy every moment i spend with him...hope i helped!
 
:P thanks. well it seams he is trying to come out but cant get the words right, as i remember i was like that. but ya im just gonna give him time, and give the times to come out if he wants too. I keep trying to tell him to do stuff for him, and not what people think/say, and to just be yourself. Hopefully he is getting the message lol. thanks for the feedback (*8*)
 
you gys need to spend a bit more time on a sleep over and talk it over more. Sounds more like he wants to come and a say he is gay or the he is bi and wants to fool around with you.

go have a few beers and and get relaxed and play around if you both wnat to. but play safe.
 
Hang out with him and ask him questions about it. DO NOT get him drunk and try to get in his pants
 
actually im out to everyone that asks. my family doesnt mind it, hell my mom even said that she knew when i was around age 3. she is psychic so she can sense things.
 
you know everything you need to know man get in those pants already! Have a good night of partying and then talk with him and see where it goes
 
Just relax a little bit and make sure you get more sleep-over time.

Be careful though, because you could end up being the one that gets really hurt when you lose him as both sex-mate and friend later on.
 
I suspect that- if things continue as they have thus far - that you and your friend will find out the answers to all of these questions.

Probably sooner than later.
 
Thanks guys. The feedback is great :) man i love these forums. Well i think im gonna just take it slow, make him feel comfortable about me keeping secrets and such. Maybe try to snuggle with him when he sleeps over, since im guessing thats not much of "a move" because i would just love to have a best friend whos gay :P regardless of any sexual relationship. Ya ill keep you updated on this, hopefully he comes out before college, because im pretty sure im going to a differant college then him now.
 
Hey man, well you're lucky. The sea seems all nice and quiet for you and I believe it'll be smooth sailing onto a great time :) Good luck :)
 
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