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JUB 10k Club
Gay people have just as much of a right as straight people to hook up without being judged. You're married, you can have sex whenever you want. What are you going to say to lonely single people who have trouble dating and meeting others but get horny at times?
Of course, having one partner that you are committed to is the best situation. But for those of us who haven't met that person yet, another method that seems to be effective at HIV prevention (in addition to condoms) is a good thing imo.
Okay first of all I'm not saying everyone has to be virginal until they find the monogamous love of their life or something. But when I think back to my single days and the single days of my friends, you just didn't go fuck a completely random nameless person when you were horny.
People fell in and out of short-term things, and they started things fast, and they had relationships that they knew were physical rather than being soul mates. Sometimes they even cheated on what was supposed to be a monogamous relationship. But there's no such thing as a "sex emergency." If any of my old crowd, gay or straight, said "I'm having a sex emergency. Bring me a completely random stranger to fuck otherwise my brain will explode from not fucking!" we would have laughed at their mock desperation, and they would have survived until the next weekend. Laughed in their faces. Does that sound judgemental? Oh, well, yup. Because fucking a stranger until you get a disease, or pass one on, is the definition of failing at sex. And that judgement kept us alive.
It's not a moral thing about monogamy or tradition or "my way or the highway" or anything like that. I knew lots of people who had three-ways or different flings throughout the year. But none of them were so random that there was literally no way of knowing if the person even has a disease or not. Even the cheaters I remember knew something about the people they got together with. They were with people known to each other, long enough to know what they were getting into. To be specific, long enough for people to break up and get tested before going back on the market. People knew the names of who to call if they had to break news about an STI. And there was enough time to make that call before they had gone on to sleep with 20 others.
And this thing about everything being risky is just a distraction. Yeah everything is risky. A car could go off the highway and hit me on the sidewalk. Or I could walk randomly down the middle of the highway and hope the cars can dodge me. If my friends did that I would definitely judge them one way or the other because I would like them to be alive.









