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JakeBequette

JakeBequette

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Do you plan on being with a man or woman when the time comes to "settle down"?

Will it just be whoever comes along?

Would you rather date a man or woman, or is a person by person thing?

What are some advantages/disadvantages of dating either sex?

I don't mean to offend anyone, so if I do I'm sorry :wave: ​
 
tried it with a woman and it didn't last.
Now I have a kid and a man, although the latter is starting to wear on me.
 
Do you plan on being with a man or woman when the time comes to "settle down"?
Will it just be whoever comes along?

I've pretty much already settled down with my girlfriend.​


Would you rather date a man or woman, or is a person by person thing?

It's a person by person thing. I'm slightly more into men, but I like women as well. It's probably 65/35%​


What are some advantages/disadvantages of dating either sex?

There are a lot of stereotypes about dating either gender. Most are false, some are true. I don't think there are really any universal differences, though. Women are more prone to drama, but I don't generally date women who are like that. My gf hates drama and is really not a stereotypical girl. She's really femmey, but also quite straightforward and low-drama.​


I don't mean to offend anyone, so if I do I'm sorry :wave: ​

No worries. I hope I was helpful.​
 
1) Probally a man, for on average I find men more attractive.

2) Time will tell.

3) Person thing

4) See above.
 
you know if you wanted to know, you could have just asked for MY pig headed opinion.
 
I've dated bi guys....but they prefered girls more...sucks doesn't it.
 
Whomever comes along, whatever direction the wind blows me.
Though I'd prefer a guy (I've had less bad luck with guys), I won't pass up Miss/Ms Right either (though I'd have some issues in such a relationship).
 
I really don't plan on falling in love. It just happens once in a while. I find that I am attracted to people and their personalities. I prefer to date someone who isnt hung up on a lot of issues and is willing to explore what life has to give.

There are social disadvantages in dealing with stereotypes when dating a guy that I dont have to deal with when I date a girl, but wtf, I have other things in my life that people who are straight and narrow, 9 to 5 office types cant seem to deal with anyhow.

As to offending me personally? not at all. I am not offended by someone asking questions to satisfy a curiousity, even if they are a little personal. (this doesnt qualify). What does offend me is someone thinking they have all the answers for someone like me, or pegging me into a stereotype. To be lumped in with some schmuck who hurt their little feelings some day long ago. I hate the fact that I dont fit into either the gay or het communities. I feel hate almost equally from both sides.

rant over.
 
Very nice rant, spikethecat!

I don't plan; I don't want to look farther ahead than trying to find buddies right now; guys because my life seems so unstable and the last gal who came into and started to make me think things were going to be stable turned on me viciously -- so at the moment I want SOLID fit guys, and no females.

I'm not even interested in dating, at the moment. If someone interesting came along... maybe, if it was a really cute, sweet, compassionate guy who could put up with my current despair and pessimism.

Sexually, my attraction varies seasonally... weird, huh?
 
Me prolly, not, but my friend is bi and has been dating his bf since they were both 17 (23 now), so I guess he's made his choice, surprising to me but considering how they fell in love, it shouldn't be.
 
JakeBequette said:
Another question - When you were young (13 or 14) did you first notice guys or girls? ​
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My first crush was on a guy. Girls followed shortly after. The first person I dated (and kissed) was a guy, when I was 13.
 
JakeBequette said:
Another question - When you were young (13 or 14) did you first notice guys or girls? ​
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I noticed both guys and girls during the early teens. I recongized mentally that I was attracted to girls at that age, but didn't realize mentally I was also attracted to guys until 16, after my first guy crush, and him touching my leg by accident. I was attracted to guys before that, but I thought I was just noticing their bodies, for they were "competition" and such.

How wrong I was, they aren't competition, they are the prize to be sought :sex:
 
Do you plan on being with a man or woman when the time comes to "settle down"?
Just as I didn't plan on being bisexual, I don't think I will plan on who I fall in love with. I don't think anyone can plan on who they fall in love with. As much as we try.

Will it just be whoever comes along?
I hope it is not whoever comes along. The next person who passes me on the street, male or female, I will ask them to settle down with me. The person who it will be, will be who I fall in love with.

Would you rather date a man or woman, or is a person by person thing?
For me, it is definately a person by person thing. I don't really have types, so to speak. I just am attracted to people.

What are some advantages/disadvantages of dating either sex?
It is rather difficult to navigate both terrains. Especially because I feel unfocused and confused when I like two people at once with opposing genders. I feel it makes me more hesitant in making the first move, but also other people are never sure with me either way. Most gay men I have met are not too fond of bisexual guys and either write me off or say that it is just a phase, which I understand... but it does make it difficult. I guess I am still getting used to it (see final answer below), but as I get more comfortable with it, I am learning not to really care what others think. It is hard to "advertise" so to speak. If you are gay or straight, I feel like it would be easier to market yourself. It would be easier to just be one way or the other, but we cannot help who we are.

I don't mean to offend anyone, so if I do I'm sorry.
Please, no offense taken. I appreciate questions like these, most people I have encountered don't take any interest in bisexuality. As I said, most people write me off, or think it doesn't exist. I definately believe in the kinsey scale, in the varying degrees of sexuality.

As far as being first attracted to girls or boys when I was younger...
Most gay men I know have told me they have felt different from a very young age, and been very aware of their sexuality pretty early on. I was not. I never really thought about it, but when I did, I was first attracted to females. I only recently became more aware of my attraction to men. I'm 24 now, but only realized it maybe a year and a half ago. I had always looked at guys too, but I guessed it was more of a envy of their bodies/physical beauty.
 
I'm still confused but I am leaving the door open to both. That still beats living in denial, which was what I have been doing for far, far too long!
 
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