Rant: Sister In-Law is being a bitch to me

[palemale]

Greetings fellow Jubber's it's been a while since I've lasted posted on here. But the time from the Hawaiian trip (in December/ January) to Monday (March 21st), was pretty pleasing that the bitch was being not too bad to me.

But yesterday just ticked me off, when I was making dinner for myself that I had really nothing in the fridge to eat. So I went downstairs to grab a box of Kraft Dinner from the Pantry, brought it upstairs and cooked some up. Well after when I had some, the bitch came home when I was on the computer. Came downstairs and bitched at me, "Jason! That's not your Kraft Dinner! You didn't pay for it!" My brother intervened and told her to relax. (I gave her a piece of my mind, threw up my middle finger) My brother was like, "hey that's enough." I told my brother before if a word comes out that I would like to move out, before I truly snap at her. I had enough of seeing her presence around me, even when I rarely see her. It's scary that all of this energy being built up is gonna blow up soon.

About a month ago I almost snapped at my boss at work. Just him bitching at me that I should know where I'm going without a map for 15 minutes. At the beginning of the shift he specifically told us of who needs a map drawn out. Which doesn't make any sense. Anyway it's the useless bitching is what pisses me off the most. I had the thought of lighting the building on fire, and taking the front end loader to pile the trucks into one big pile and lighting that pile on fire. I had to get away from my boss and eat lunch by myself, I was in tears with overwhelming anger. I called my mom that day. She helped me calm down thankfully. I wasn't thinking straight, and I'm not even on any drugs or narcotics.

So I told my mom that I want to look at some condos or houses. So we agreed to look for some on Sunday. Chances are I'll probably will be living by myself to do the things that I would like to do. Or a buddy that I can live comfortably with.

You seem to have some very serious anger management issues. There is very little in life to get anyone as worked up as you seem to get.

If I was your brother's fiance, I wouldn't be happy having another person living with us. A young couple should be able to come home from work and spend time together without other people being around. It's a stressful situation, and since you are in their apartment, you should be more accommodating. Would it have killed you to have apologized to her and said you'd replace the kraft (what the hell are you eating that shit for, anyway)?

You need to work on controlling your anger, even if it means getting some counseling.

 

[JFarm89]

Palemale-

You seem to have some very serious anger management issues. There is very little in life to get anyone as worked up as you seem to get.

If I was your brother's fiance, I wouldn't be happy having another person living with us. A young couple should be able to come home from work and spend time together without other people being around. It's a stressful situation, and since you are in their apartment, you should be more accommodating. Would it have killed you to have apologized to her and said you'd replace the kraft (what the hell are you eating that shit for, anyway)?

You need to work on controlling your anger, even if it means getting some counseling.

For the amount of time that I see her which is rare. My brother actually was the one that offered me to move in with them. I might as well had moved in with my brother and get used to not live with my parents. As a growing up stage to become independent and being able to live out on my own. While the rent that he is charging is pretty awesome compared to the other costs to rent elsewhere, in the city.

And I have tried to be accomodating. I do snowshovelling, I do my own laundry, I clean the bathroom. I say hi to her and etc. There is no reason to apologize for the things that have been done that get her upset. She just gets upset cause she feels like it, she's a diabetic so a lot of her anger towards me have to do with her blood sugar levels being unbalanced. I think she barely eats at all too. And I don't know how her parents treated her or whatever.

Kraft Dinner is an easy meal when you are desperately hungry. I thought about replacing the Kraft Dinner with another box but my brother said it's no big deal.


soreknees-

Whether you move or not I'd do some things to attempt to improve the situation. You need to talk and work on a truce. You may be an uncle one day and she'll be able to control whether or not you get to spend time with them.

Why was is ok for you or your brother to ignore what was in the sink and a puddle in the fridge? Did your mom pick up after the two of you?

I know I'm taking a different tact here, but really. Is this tension worth the ego struggle of who washes containers? When was the last tine you said something kind to her or just surprised the household with some flowers on the table? And why isn't the fucking drywall project finished? I'm getting the sense that you boys feel entitled and she should be looking elsewhere for a husband.

Just little ole me reading between the lines. I hope I'm wrong.

I've already talked a truce already. I mentioned that if the finance doesn't behave and act like a bully. Then I'll move out simple as that. I'm not living with a roommate that treats anybody like shit. I may be a uncle someday, or never depending if they do have children. They said if they do have children they will toss out the children that become handicapped or that something else is wrong with them. So my guess is that they will toss out all of their children because well, Elyse is diabetic so all of their children will have a good chance that they will be diabetic. But that's my guess. What I have done that I have done that's been kind? I talk to her very kindly to her, that is my share of my kindness. The drywall hasn't been finished because my brother wants to wait for some reason. I'm not even bothered by it, because I'm planning to move out this summer.

 

[JFarm89]

Another big thing that happened the day after the Kraft Dinner box incident. Is when Elyse's engagement ring had disappeared sometime from the morning to the afternoon. Now from the morning till the afternoon, I'm sleeping, because I work nights. I heard in the afternoon when I was about to wake up that Elyse was bitching to my brother about something upstairs. I thought what it was about. My brother then called me and said if I had anybody over the night before. I said no why? Bro said because Elyse's engagement ring is gone and we can't find it anywhere. I never had anybody over in quite a while. I told him if it dropped somewhere in their room or if it was in the car that she drives? Or if the neighbors came into our house and took it? Brother said they checked everywhere and doubted the neighbors from taking it. I mentioned did Elyse have her friend's over that maybe they played a prank on her? My brother said she has trusting friend's and that they won't do that. Anyway told him that I don't know what happened with her ring.

So anyway the next day they found it... It was in my bathroom bag. Like how did it get in there hmmm I wonder.. Why the hell would I want to keep her engagement ring in my bathroom bag? All of us know that Elyse and I don't get along. But I didn't even think of that. It would be so bloody obvious that it would be me if I did take it. If it were me, I wouldn't have placed the ring in my bathroom bag. I know that my brother bought it for her, so I wouldn't do that to him or her anything that is a valuable. Maybe Elyse placed it in my bathroom bag to obviously get angry at me. I always have my bathroom stuff in my bathroom bag so when I pull out my toothbrush or something. Elyse would then try to catch me when I say to my brother that I did find it in my bathroom bag. Anyway she just wants me to get into trouble and I know she does. She has nothing better to do, she hangs around the house when I sleep too, because she works part time later in the day. She doesn't want me to live with my brother and obviously I don't want to live with her.

What my brother says is that he might've slept walked so we agreed on that. Elyse seemed disappointed to hear that my brother "did it" and not me.

 

[MindBlast]

She is a crazy bitch. You need to leave.

We live in the same city man. To be honest, it sounds like she's a typical entitled Alberta girl. Probably the kind you'd see at the Oil City Roadhouse (went there once, never going back). You know the ones that show up with no money and expect guys to buy them drinks? Yeah, she's one of those I bet. I feel really bad for your brother, and really bad for you that you have to be around that. It's time to leave.

 

[JFarm89]

She is a crazy bitch. You need to leave.

We live in the same city man. To be honest, it sounds like she's a typical entitled Alberta girl. Probably the kind you'd see at the Oil City Roadhouse (went there once, never going back). You know the ones that show up with no money and expect guys to buy them drinks? Yeah, she's one of those I bet. I feel really bad for your brother, and really bad for you that you have to be around that. It's time to leave.

Funny that you say that, because she is a Roller Derby Girl. She sells drinks, to raise money for their team. There's a crap load of booze that she buys. I do actually feel bad for my brother and myself. Unfortunate that he ended up with a bad apple. I wonder how the wedding will go? I really don't feel like going to the wedding at this point. But looks like I have no choice. lol

I agree with all of you, I'm gonna leave until the snow melts

 

[nsguy2]

Good idea.

Get the hell away from her and if your brother don't have the stones to stand up to her, then tell him "see ya" around".

Make sure he has your adress and cell number...the rest is up to him.

IMO, there's way to much fun to be had in life to waste time on some bitch who has no respect for anyone except herself.

Seriously man, add up the times wasted arguing with her or stressing about it and consider how that time could've been better spent.

 

[ajal]

So they searched your bathroom bag in your bathroom for the ring? Seems kinda nosey to me.

 

[rareboy]

Hopefully by now you've moved out.

Who needs the drama.

 

[palemale]

Palemale-


For the amount of time that I see her which is rare. My brother actually was the one that offered me to move in with them. I might as well had moved in with my brother and get used to not live with my parents. As a growing up stage to become independent and being able to live out on my own. While the rent that he is charging is pretty awesome compared to the other costs to rent elsewhere, in the city.

And I have tried to be accomodating. I do snowshovelling, I do my own laundry, I clean the bathroom. I say hi to her and etc. There is no reason to apologize for the things that have been done that get her upset. She just gets upset cause she feels like it, she's a diabetic so a lot of her anger towards me have to do with her blood sugar levels being unbalanced. I think she barely eats at all too. And I don't know how her parents treated her or whatever.

Kraft Dinner is an easy meal when you are desperately hungry. I thought about replacing the Kraft Dinner with another box but my brother said it's no big deal.

She may be angry at your brother for inviting you to live with them, but doesn't want to confront him, so she creates conflict with you. In any event, it's not a healthy living arrangement and you are wise to be moving on.

 

[JFarm89]

Hello fellow Jubber's I finally have some good news. I have officially moved out of my brother's place and moved into my dad's place temporarily for about a month till I find my own place. I just need to head over to the post office to get my mailing address changed to my dad's place. It will be all settled.

Anyway the day I moved all my stuff, I received a call from the bitch. She whined and complained that I had some stuff that didn't belong to me that I should bring them back tonight. Which it was only the house key and garbage can from my room that wasn't mine, and that was it. Dad over heard the conversation, the attitude from her was not necessary and ignorant. He was not pleased with her, my dad was having trouble sleeping actually that night I told him not to worry about it, had already settled my anger. My dad was like "You should just throw the house key at her face."

This idea that I had in my mind actually got rid of my anger. What I did on the last day living there, after work I bought some vinegar and salt, I poured it on the potting soil in the back where she plants all of her plants. I knew this idea won't be very bad. Vinegar only lowered the PH level in the soil. The smell of it was blended in from the cedar smell, while the salt sucks all the moisture away. There's no flowers currently in there. I kinda felt guilty when I did do it. But I made up for it by doing nice things. Shoveled the driveway, vacuumed and cleaned my room and the bathroom. Then I felt relieved.

Nothing wrong with a little prank to fix a broken heart.

 

[Numerwiz]

Good to see you've separated yourself from that monstrosity of a sister in law, and I agree with everyone else here that your decision to move out is the best. Also, I think its good that at least your Dad has realized she is not so nice.

Nothing wrong with a little prank to fix a broken heart.

Exactly.


And, I find it highly symbolic that your brother took the engagement ring and put in your things... which at least to me sort of implies that he may choose you guys over his wife to be. Or it could just me being hopeful.

Hopefully things get better from now on.

 

[rareboy]

God.

Hopefully now that you are away from this trainwreck of a situation, you'll put your efforts into getting a place of your own and avoiding any more of this type of juvenile nonsense in the future.

And seriously? A roller derby skater?

What kind of loser low rent trailer trash reality show were you living in anyway?

Your brother has terrible taste in choosing women, I think.

 

[JFarm89]

Yup, and now I feel like I'm living the dream. Definately feel happier forsure. I like to hopefully continuing my life to the fullest, and one day own a place, which is coming very soon. But for now I like to stick with renting. One of my mom's clinents offered me to check out her place on a acrerage and live in the rebuilt basement suite for 750 a month. It's a 20 minute drive out of town. It's on a 20 acre farm field and she owns 14 horses, and a couple of dogs. I'll see how things go. I'm allergic to horses which is a bummer. But I'm looking forward to check this place out.

Anyway back on topic: I'm so very much relieved to get out, and yeah my brother made a terrible choice. But I don't have to worry much, he tunes her out as if she wasn't there. But he's upset that she's too lazy to find a fulltime job. Thankfully my brother can retain his job and pay for everything if he had wanted to. He is an electrician.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>And seriously? A roller derby skater?

Um, a couple of my friends are roller derby skaters. And great people, or I wouldn't be friends with them. Not saying they all are, of course...

Lex

 

[DeafFoxDemon]

well damn! ur brother need to wake up and smell the rose! if i was in a relationship and they treated my brother bad, i would dump them!