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*Really* low sex drive

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Hm so this has been bothering me lately. I'm used to have at least a normal sex drive...and when I came out a couple years ago it was definitely extremely high. The first guy I hooked up with actually mentioned it lol. Now while I would *really* love a relationship, it doesn't look like that's going to happen anytime soon...and while there are no options on the table I have no problem fooling around with guys. I've done it many times before and really have no problem getting laid. The problem is lately I've had difficulty maintaining an erection and just being aroused generally.

I don't know whether this is just me being bored/having a low sex drive or something more. I mean I'm not particularly excited about most of these guys that I meet...they're pretty cute but I don't feel much more. Thing is before that wouldn't bother me and I'd still be up for all nighter of fun...so is something else going on or did my inner attitude change? I did take an anti-anxiety medication briefly a year ago and I've been taking adderall infrequentlly lately...so maybe those fucked with it. But I've stopped taking adderall and I haven't taken the anti-anxiety medication for a long time.

I'm a young guy...22...so anyone have suggestions? Am I just totally over the excitement of being gay and the whole scene? I don't know...I just want my old sex drive back when I could have hot sweaty sex all night long. Now I just want to fall asleep =/.
 
Nope not for about 2+ years now...and I definitely had the good sex drive when I did lol
 
My sex drive tends to be (and has always tended to be) quite variable. There are times when once a week is plenty, and there are times when three times a day may not be enough. I've found the best thing is to be atuned to it, and try to go with the flow. If I'm in a "down" period, no problem - I'll just do something else for a bit. Eventually the libido returns.

I wouldn't say that not being able to have "hot sweaty sex all night long" equates to "really low sex drive". Since you're not in a relationship right now, just listen to your body, and give the sex a rest for a bit. Focus on something else. Most likely, you'll be back and raring to go before you know it.

Lex
 
This is hard to explain. It could be any number of things, including the ones you mentioned. A doctor should be able to help you figure it out, hopefully. I lived for over 11 yrs without a sex drive, I didn't care about sex and didn't want it. I even found that I used my weight gain as a repellent for guys, but all of a sudden when I hit my 40's, bam! my sex drive is through the roof, and I don't know why or how that happened. Now I'm trying to lose my weight because I now want it, and I find it all so frustrating. Although, sex feels good and all, but it was less stressful I think, when I didn't have a sex drive. From one extreme to the other....:confused: a happy medium would have been nice.
 
It probably wouldn't hurt to visit the doctor and have them run some blood tests on you to make sure the levels of certain hormones (like testosterone) are normal.
 
See your doc about it.

It could be serotonins or it could be hypertension or all kinds of things.

Overweight, lack of exercise, recreational drug use and a crap diet will not help either.
 
i've chalked it up to masturbating too much and just not being excited about the guy....

i had sex yesterday and it went fine...i was somewhat drunk though so maybe that helped me stop overthinking it.

it was unprotected though =/ and now i'm worried about it. stupid drunk decisions when you're horny grrr.
 
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