Receiving anal for the first time, need advice

[jayranner5]

Hey everyone,
I’m 24, been straight my whole life, and the thought of kissing/cocksucking with gay men just really turns me off, no disrespect. However, I have in the past 2 months realized that I absolutely LOVE anal stimulation & started watching a lot of femdom strapon videos. I’m always dominant, especially in the bedroom, but I have to say the submission in receiving anal is just incredible. I bought a dildo + butt plugs & have been experimenting ever since. I much prefer the dildo over the butt plugs… once the dildo is in, its just an incredible feeling to have it hit my prostate and then my insides pulled out on the outstroke.
I’m talking to a couple online who want to meet and the only thing is, she likes to watch him top another guy & then play along. We have exchange a lot of pics & they are definitely not giving any pressure… they said we can play it by ear about me bottoming for him. She even does strapon play & then I’m going to fuck her after I receive.
Don’t get me wrong, I want to receive it to see what it feels like, but I’m anxious about receiving it from a guy. It’s really the whole connotation that I’m gay if I try it or that it’s a “bad thing” if I went through with it… I always feel guilty after watch the femdom strapon videos anyway.

My questions are:
1.) Do you think I should try it?
2.) How can I get my conscious mind to accept that receiving anal does not make me gay & it’s not a “bad thing”?
3.) Can you tell me what receiving anal sex feels like for a man? Does it feel better to have a Real Cock in there versus a dildo? Be descriptive as much as you want… I’m looking to make sure it’s definitely worth all the nervousness/barrier breaking.

Thanks a lot everyone!

 

[Corny]

1) It seems you are into it. So why not try it? If you don't like it you have at least tried it and now for sure not to try it again
2) Well .. now it gets more complicated. You didn't say anything about your "gay" side or if there is any. Many people would say that receiving anal sex from a man is pretty gay - that would be up for a debate. If you are not into men, why do you want to receive it from him? Maybe because she is around, or because (you mentioned submission) she "orders" you to? Let's say maybe you are a bit "bi" .. so what? Why should it be a bad thing if you (and they) are enjoying it ?
3) Well you have a preview with dildos. A real cock is much better Think in terms of jerking off vs a blowjob/fuck

 

[sonny10305]

First of all welcome to JUB.
Next, you came to the right place, you should receive plenty of ideas, some nice, some cruel, and some of us will probably just fuck with your head a little.
But hey, you will probably get some good and informative ideas here.

Have you thought about a three way with a chick and another dude?
If you talk about the whole anal thing in advance perhaps the chick could stimulate you there and the dude could as well. It will gradually break you in to the whole having a guy thing do it.
Of course you know that you only need a woman to do this with, she can use her fingers (something I totally recommend while she is going down on you) cause dude, if you haven't had your ass played with while you ate getting head you are missing out. Also the strap on will be fun as well. But I think if you really wanna have the ultimate experience and pleasure you need to try it with a dude. You just have to try it.
Lastly get that "i'm not gay" shit outta your head, A lot of str8 guys get into ass play, A LOT. You have to get the whole gay is bad thing that society has preached for so long and go with what you really think in your own head.
Maybe you are a little bi or curious, so what? enjoy it, go with it
Sex is awesome, find out what pleasures you the most, man or woman and go for it. Be open to new things,

Let us know hoe you make out.

 

[jayranner5]

Thanks for all the replies guys... just took some thinking on my part. I'm definitely not gay or even bi, I don't find guys attractive in the least sense & no offense but it makes me want to throw up.
I just really love anal stimulation. I do have a dildo & I do love the sensation... I've decided that if they want to meet up sometime that I will try it with them.

Can anybody describe in detail what it feels like though? Don't be afraid to be detailed, I really want to be turned onto it so much that I finally just take that leap!

Thanks guys

 

[blackbeltninja]

Thanks for all the replies guys... just took some thinking on my part. I'm definitely not gay or even bi, I don't find guys attractive in the least sense & no offense but it makes me want to throw up.

Wow.

You're completely turned off by guys to the point where it makes you want to throw up but you think you might one of them put his penis, the most manly part of a man and the bit which kinda makes a person a man, up your arse? For his own sexual pleasure as well as yours?

Ok. Takes all sorts, I suppose.

I mean, you DO realise that he's going to get off on it as much as you are, right? And that while you think of it as purely disconnected "anal stimulation", he's thinking of it as "wahey, look at me! I'm fucking this guy!"

I just really love anal stimulation. I do have a dildo & I do love the sensation... I've decided that if they want to meet up sometime that I will try it with them.

Let's assume you like it, a lot, and you want to do it again and again and again with a man. What then? I'd wager you're going to struggle to spin that as "not being into guys" to anyone, let alone yourself if a dildo makes you feel guilty already. But if you can pull it off then fair play to you. Good luck.

It may seem otherwise from what I've written above, but I'm really rooting for you. Perhaps largely because I wonder if the whole mind-over-matter thing will come crashing down on you halfway through the experience when he says something dirty and it makes you puke all over him when you realise what's going on.

-d-

 

[bounder]

It may seem otherwise from what I've written above, but I'm really rooting for you. Perhaps largely because I wonder if the whole mind-over-matter thing will come crashing down on you halfway through the experience when he says something dirty and it makes you puke all over him when you realise what's going on.

-d-

absolutely hilarious.

 

[wilecoyote]

I've experienced the guilty/shame/made me sick to my stomach stuff when I was younger and coming to terms with my sexuality. It does mess with your mind. I would buy a porno magazine, and after j/o to it once or twice, I'd throw it away thinking I would stop looking at such things only to eventually buy another and throw that away too. At that time I did not want to be aroused by such material. Yet I was drawn to it.

I finally stopped trying to label myself as gay or bi cause I was terribly confused. That would be my advice to you. Don't worry about labels, or how you think you will be labeled or perceived. If you want to experience something, do it without shame or guilt. That can be difficult to work through. It took me quite a time to enjoy visual sexual stimulation without the afterwards guilt and it prevented me from trying sex back then. Don't rush it. Try to realize you can enjoy whatever type of sex you want. If you try something and feel uncomfortable, you don't have to continue. If you enjoy bottoming for another man or for a woman wearing a strap-on, just enjoy it.

Learn to accept yourself for as you are, which can be easier said than done.

 

[Kyanimal]

Before I had my first "getting my butt fucked experience", with a Guy, I'd had sex with both Guys and Girls, and had screwed both. But, it was at a time when I was "expected" to be Str8, and though the Guys were an "occasional thing", I was Very successful with the Ladies!

Yes, I had topped a Guy, "butt" it was many years later before I was topped myself! I had been socially "educated" that it would hurt like hell, and it was a "bad" (submissive, not "Manly") thing to let happen to me. (Boy! Was I wrong!)

All of the experiences, and circumstances, that lead up to my ass getting Fucked, is a long, complicated, story. Let's just say I was drunk, and ended up in a shower, with a Hard, naked, buddy, and a tube of Prep-H!

Before that happened, I hadn't even tried anything anal with myself. No fingers, or anything else, because it was such a "dirty", "disgusting", and possibly Painful, thing to do! Had I had the nerve to "experiment" before, I would have done it much sooner, for Sure!

It was Nothing like what I was expecting! Even though I was drunk, and the warm water, and Prep-H, had a calming, numbing, effect, I was still tense! So, yeah!, there was a little bit of pain when he first slipped his dick past my sphincter, and up into my bowels. We were both standing with my hands stretched out on the wall, feet spread wide, ass pushed out, with him behind me, in the middle. He was stoking my dick as he slid into me. The pain lasted about a microsecond, and then he started pumping ... slowly at first ... and then getting more intense!

Every single nerve ending, from my head to my toes, began firing like Fireworks! It felt like I was taking the biggest, most intense, shit of my entire Life! He was the same size as me, though more muscular, so it wasn't like I was getting stretched, and plowed, by a horse! "Butt" it also felt like I could feel ever single straining vein in his cock! I could feel the difference in the circumference of his cock head, vs., the diameter of his shaft. And then he shifted so slightly, his balls bouncing of the underside of mine, as he rammed himself into me, up to his pubes, and hit my prostate from inside of me!

Normally, when I'd cum, "Animal" would think it was all over, and gently go soft until "he" could "recharge" again. "Butt", this time, with Scott stroking "Animal", and fucking my asshole, at the same time, after I Exploded all over the wall, and tub, with Major, Forceful, Blasts of Cum, and with his dick still Fucking my ass, I stayed HARD as a Rock, even though my knees started to buckle!! And, then, He shot deep inside me! I could feel his dick Pulsing inside my ass! I even thought I could taste his cum in the back of my throat!!

What, usually, would have been a "done deal", turned out to be just the Intermission! When I thought we were done, He said it was His turn, and we swapped places. I was still so excited, that I didn't hesitate to lube "Animal" up, a bit more, and shove "him" up into Scott's asshole! Even though I, then, knew, without a doubt, what it felt like to get Fucked, I was still surprised when Scott began to cum again, and the sensations of his sphincter spasmodically clenching my dick caused me to blow another load deep inside of Him!! Another !!!

We soaped each other up, rinsed off, and nearly had to crawl out of the tub/shower. We dried each other off, and stumbled back into his living room to snuggle up, still naked, to sleep on the sleeper sofa. Did I mention that he was still living with his parents and brother? We "assumed' they were all fast asleep upstairs!

(His Mom made us a great breakfast when we woke up around Noon!)

I worked with this Dude! He was one of the mechanics on my team at the car dealership. It was an "unsaid thing" that what we did in "private" had no place at work. No one ever had a clue that the two of us were "Fucking around" with each other! (Even though, later, we still did "it", at the dealership, too, after hours! "Butt", those times are different stories!)

What I am trying to tell YOU is ... Can the Labels! Go with what feels right for You! And, having a "Real Dick" pumping in, and out, of your ass, is Twenty times better than "merely playing" with a dildo, or anything else, for that matter! Got a chance to get with a chick while a Dude is Fucking your ass?? MAN! Do not pass that up! RELAX and ENJOY!!! Could be the best thing that ever happens in Your LIFE!

Of course ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! *kiss* *hug*
Chaz ;-)

(I do HATE running out of Smilies with our limit of 8 per post! *tantrum!*)

 

[bankside]

random thoughts:

Yeah I get it. I suppose I could treat a woman's vagina like it was some kind of fleshlight and somehow manage to get off.

I have to say I don't get the submissive/dominant thing. At all. To me it is just about pleasure either way.

Anyway, does a straight guy enjoy knowing there are other straight guys out there who like pussy? When you see a straight porn, I suppose you are checking out the woman, but are you also cheering on the guy? Is it a turn-on to see another guy enjoying himself? It isn't so hard to imagine helping him enjoy himself, especially if it turns on the woman in this couple.

I think you should not feel guilty about something fun that you want to do. It is like feeling guilty about enjoying a good movie.

As far as the mechanics of it, if you have played around with a dildo then you probably have a good base of knowledge to give this a try. Think of it as a "live dildo" and don't hide the fact that you are enjoying it. It's not like his arse is any different, whether he knows how to use it or not.

Do yourself a favour though and say that you are bi-curious.

If you hate it, you can go back to being straight, no questions asked. But if you like it, admit it. Nothing about you being a man will change. You don't have to give up anything you like about women. The only difference is that you will know how to enjoy a dick with your ass. Too few men know the pleasure, gay or straight.

Enjoy!

 

[jayranner5]

Thanks for all the replies guys... the biggest thing right now is changing my thinking from "getting fucked in the ass by a guy is a bad thing" to "every now and then I enjoy anal stimulation and even though its from a guy, I'm not gay for doing it." Like I said before, I'm not attracted to guys, but this couple would like to mess around with the wife strapping me on and then maybe her husband doing me from behind. I love receiving anal from regular dildos but I heard having a real dick is incredible, so I'm wanting to try it.
I'm searching the boards for descriptions of how good it feels and the experience (i.e. balls slapping against the ass, how does it make you feel submissive, etc) but they are hard to come by. The more good stuff I read on it the closer I am to saying yes.
Anymore shared experiences on how receiving anal feels from a Real Cock would be appreciated!

 

[CudDULL]

I don't think it would make you gay if you have anal sex even if it is from a guy. Just because you enjoy the stimulation it doesn't mean that you are attracted to that gender. Either way, how else would you get stimulated other than a penis/dildo when its meant for penetration.

I say go for it and find out if you truly would enjoy it. I don't see any harm trying.

P.S. A real dick feels better than a dildo you can actually feeling it pulsing and throbbing inside of you and that always turns me on.

 

[Blueboy369]

If you are really straight find a girl who will use the strap on to stimulate you. If you are curious about sex with a guy, at least admit it to yourself. There is nothing wrong with being bi-curious.

 

[MisterMajestic]

Thanks for all the replies guys... just took some thinking on my part. I'm definitely not gay or even bi, I don't find guys attractive in the least sense & no offense but it makes me want to throw up.
I just really love anal stimulation. I do have a dildo & I do love the sensation... I've decided that if they want to meet up sometime that I will try it with them.

Can anybody describe in detail what it feels like though? Don't be afraid to be detailed, I really want to be turned onto it so much that I finally just take that leap!

Thanks guys

My advice to you is stick with your Female partner using a strap-on and FORGET about having another Guy Fuck you in the Ass...If you allow yourself to get Fucked by another guy you will probably like it and you will want it again & again & again...You will become Bisexual and you'll have to deal with having "cravings" for "Dick" along with satisfying your woman...You don't need or want the extra stress...

Keep the sex act between you and your Woman and don't involve yourself with couples and wanting another Guy to Fuck you...You will thank me later...

 

[blackbeltninja]

P.S. A real dick feels better than a dildo you can actually feeling it pulsing and throbbing inside of you and that always turns me on.

I'm not sure this is a good selling point for our original poster. I think this is the bit he can't quite get his head around - I mean, he has stated quite freely that the idea of mansex makes him queasy to a point, so I can't imagine this is going to swing it.

It is an intriguing conundrum, though. Do keep us posted, jayranner.

-d-

 

[Diodorus]

Consider this. You are dealing with labels. I personally believe there is not gay, straight, etc. It is all part of one continuous stream. Most people would consider cold water and hot water opposites thereby separating them in their mind. The reality is they are degrees of the same thing. It is all water.
Sexuality is the same , not this, not that, not separate parts. Kinsey pretty much says the same thing.

 

[SwitchHit50]

Couple of thoughts here.
Remember that there's a LAST thrust before he cums, tends to drive his cock up a wee bit. For some of us who top whether the receiver is male or female we can't control that , and as I've tried to, nature takes over whether we like it or not.
If he's "tapered" with a bigger base you might get a bit more length/girth when it happens. I like it when I bottom as my man is a quiet cummer and when I feel that final thrust I KNOW what's happening, and for me anyway, again it feels kinda good.

Depending (on your position) you may end up getting some weight ON you once the guy cums. I've topped a few times and warned,if that's the word, my man that I collapse totally after I pop. Just takes it all out of me.
I'm a few pounds plus and you being younger may not have that issue, but it makes for a more intense orgasm for me when I know I'm not gonna crush him. YMMV but above all else,go for it.

 

[SwitchHit50]

Couldn't describe it any better, if you relax enough that feeling is pretty cool. Ditto on the feeling of the cum squirting in , it's quick and over fast, because of body temps warming it up but I can feel the load go off in mine too.

 

[spencer]

Let's say it's supposedly sooo amazing to feel it from a horse, are you still gonna do it? No, you're not. If you want it from a guy it intrigues you at least enought to consider it. If you really didn't want it from a guy period, it wouldn't even be an option.

 

[rock5olid]

This is a good thread.. I am yet to have my first gay experience myself and I know that I would love to suck cock and lick balls.. I also want to be fucked in the ass, but I don't know where to find the right guy for this.. I don't think I'd want a one nighter or a stranger... The anticipation is killing me.. Lately I just watch straight gangbang videos, but imagine that I'm the one on the receiving end.. It gets me so hot!