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Recent change and disconnect from guys

kayman23

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I've noticed that lately once again my attraction towards men have waned, but I've also noticed that this has coincided with my frustration of finding a monogamous guy. It seems as if my ability to connection with women more has caused my attractions to lean more towards them than men. It seems that women are more able to communicate their feelings and emotions which I find so much more easier for me to connect with them.

My female friends said to me that I might be subconsciously annoyed or frustrated with guys in general because of this. I do believe that this might have some truth to this considering I've dealt with a series of guys that seem to only want to have sex with me or don't know how to connect, communicate, emotions with me.

In general I'm wondering other guys have gone through similar changes or phases because of bad experiences with guys?
 
I'm kind of like you. I feel women are more open with their feelings and are better at communicating than guys. Maybe its just the guys I have been around, but women seem to 'get me.' I also feel I am more in touch with my femine side than alot of guys who are straight or bisexual. I'm really into girly things (fashion,chick flicks,beauty spa's and products,and some otoher things in general)When I'm with guys I feel I have to hide this side of me. Yeah, I also like motorcycles, hot girls in bikinis,hockey,video games,and my tech toys so I can balance it out when I'm with guys. When I'm with girls I don't feel I have to hold back. I can be free and me. When I'm with guys, I sort of have to put up a front to make them more comfortable. I have to work on that because I think thats wrong of me. I need to be more me around guys and not just girls. I think now that I am in a relationship with a girl I can do that with more confidence.

I had my days where I was more into guys than girls and vice versa. Lately, that has not been the case although I still can get hard and horny when I see a hot guy. My GF knows this and understands that its just like getting hard over seeing a hot girl. I think going back and forth is normal for us bisexuals. Even when you find someone, even if you get married or find a partner to spend your life with, I think you'll always go back and forth. We, bisexuals, we love both genders. Its just who we are. Don't fight it or curse it. Embrace it,its a part of who we are. It takes time getting use to it and I admit, I have days where I get frusterated. But I also think it gets better as you get older. Anyway, I could be wrong. Just my 2 cents. Good luck!
 
^^ Im hearting you... with guys it is either they´re promiscuous, if gay, or only want to have sex and not relationships, if bi... so for me, no thanks. I´m not risking coming out and disrupting my current society or lifestyle for a quick fuck.

I better stick with women, besides women are by nature, more the nurturing type of person that I need.
 
I know that I don't need anybody in my life either, but if I meet a guy that I do admire and whatnot.

I at least try to be as open and outgoing as possible to see if there is a connection between us. However, most either just want to just seeing if I will hook up with them or nothing but an empty exchange of thoughts if even that. Most guys make it too damn difficult for one to see that they are not any more than one-track minded losers with no personalities. I'm dealing with a dichotomy of polarity when comes to them rather than finding somebody in the middle with a personality, but actually shows sounds interested in getting to know as much I'm trying to get to know them.
 
I have found the old saying that women have said for ages. "Men are Assholes,does not matter,If they are Straight,Gay or Bi. Their all assholes."

But,I personnally think Men in general have a problem with commitment that women do not. The same is true about communication,feelings etc,etc,......
 
ejbonk said:
I have found the old saying that women have said for ages. "Men are Assholes,does not matter,If they are Straight,Gay or Bi. Their all assholes."

But,I personnally think Men in general have a problem with commitment that women do not. The same is true about communication,feelings etc,etc,......
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I share this view fully.

I also strongly believe that men basically have a completely different wiring. Our bio-program urges us to spread our seed as far and as wide and as often as possible. This is how males secure the transmission of their genes to the next generation.

Females have a completely different wiring. Their focal point of interest remains the survival of their offspring carrying their genes. Under such circumstances, commitment is much more of a natural choice for a female than for a male.

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I seem to connect better with gals as well. I think some of it has to do with the fact that I long ago gave up hope of actually "landing" one, so I've stopped trying to even toss a line. My guess is they can sense the lack of "the hunt", and feel comfortable.
OTOH, doing the things I like to do -- hunting, camping, hiking -- I look for guys, though that may be 'cause I've never met a gal who did those things, who wasn't already taken.
I suppose I'll figure it out about the time I'm dying.
 
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