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Regrets

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I generally live my life with a "no regrets" rule - my view is, as long as the decision is mine, the consequences are mine to bear. Lately though, my mind has turned to a specific event, and a decision I made which if I had gone the other way would have rendered my life quite different today.

In 2004, before graduating uni, I was offered two jobs. The first was a one year internship with the possibility of further opportunities. The second, was a permanent full time position. The pay difference was about $2,000 more, in favour of the latter so it wasn't really a point of consideration.

At the time, I didn't look far enough ahead and opted for the permanent full time job (I am still with that company now). I heard that the person who accepted the internship completed it, and was offered a further opportunity for two years in London...which is something that I am very keen to do now.

With the benefit of hindsight, I think I would have chosen the former. Oh well.

I am curious to know if anyone has similar experiences? Do you have any regrets? Any decisions you'd like to change, or not make altogether? :D
 
Meh.

But maybe you wouldn't have been offered the position.

My regret is that I didn't buy the winning lottery ticket. I could have but I chose not to.

I regret that I've had to put up with some of the stupidest, and I mean intellectually bereft, people on earth in the course of my career.

When I was 26, I passed on the opportunity to become the future president of the firm I was working with in order to return to school fulltime and eventually set out on my own.

Today, I might have been head of that company instead of my own. I might have been richer and more successful, maybe not.

Life is what it is.

At my end, my real regret is that I won't have laughed enough or forgiven enough or travelled enough or met everyone interesting on earth.

You remind me to be grateful for what I have experienced and how life has turned out.
 
We can't turn back the clock.

Regret is a wasteful, waste of time.

Look to your present, and future life when you benefit from all the experiences, that are now encouraging you to better fathom the opportunities that life will offer you.

The Moving Finger writes; and having writ,
Moves on; nor all your Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it.

~The Rubaiyat, Omar Khayyam
 
I should have chosen B instead of A. But if I had chosen A, is there a guarantee that I wouldn't say I should have chosen B?:)
 
voyager1994 said:
I should have chosen B instead of A. But if I had chosen A, is there a guarantee that I wouldn't say I should have chosen B?:)
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It could also be said that in limiting your choices to A, or B you have chosen to deny yourself the opportunities that are waiting for you from A to Z.
 
Life is full of what-ifs. You can torture yourself for ever with "if only I'd..." while you know deep-down that there are no guarantees it would have played out the same way for you as it did for the other guy.

Live, learn what you can from these forks in the road, move on. No regrets.

-d-
 
Back to your point of not being in London right now. I try to live with this, "the things that happen are the things that are suppose to happen." You made the correct decision, and everything has not played itself out.
 
Yes, I have had the choice of staying in DC after college for a position or moving to Houston for a position that was permanent and paid $2k more. I took Houston and have had times when I regretted. But then Looking back on my journey, I have had different choices and made them. It has been 30 years since the Houston choice, I would say I have had a very interesting journey.
 
I would have liked my overall circumstance to have been different.

Then again, the same would be said if they were.

I try to appreciate the meager things that are currently in front of me.
 
derelictdarrel said:
I would have liked my overall circumstance to have been different.

Then again, the same would be said if they were.

I try to appreciate the meager things that are currently in front of me.
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Being grateful for our rich abundance, is so often over looked by many.

When we have good health, and are happy, then the Mercedes and the Rolex are a matter for the insecure personality.
 
Plenty of regrets. I can't help but laugh at them and my own naivety at the time.
 
jubhug said:
I live with regret fairly regularly, esp. now battling anxiety. I left a good bit of my life behind and miss portions of it. The decisions I made not only effected me but caused others lives to move into paths I would consider destructive. What my selfish decisions have done to me and to them is something I live with. I realize I can't go back and I'm generally content but I may have the opportunity to rectify one of them and if so will likely do so. It would mean moving my life back into form and away from the chaotic path I've been on. Regrets may be horrid things in some respects but they can also be learned from.

My therapist would see the above confession as a sign he's gotten me nowhere. :rolleyes:
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Quite the contrary. Owning up to your indiscretions, and resolving to put matters right, is a clear signal that you have regained your equilibrium.

Our journey is all about discovering who we are. That takes our life time to reveal.

In the process of becoming our real self, we occasionally take a fall, only to rise into new life.
 
The ONLY regret I have in my life is not coming out in the late 70's.

But when I look back on it, it WAS a different time and HAD I done so, I'd very likely have died young. So...

Is it really such a regret? I'm older and smarter. I have just about everything I wanted in life. Had I taken the other path, could I sit here today and say this?

I also regretted leaving a (back then) really good job with benefits just to start my own business. I went back just recently.... No more regrets. I TOTALLY made the right decision.

Regrets is something we all have, because we can reflect on our past. I'll probably regret some of the posts I made on JUB.
 
Sadder but wiser?

The past is gone, the future is always uncertain but the present is ours to play with.
 
I don't have any regrets.
Every decision made is my fault or my luck. ;)
 
Audio Tech said:
The ONLY regret I have in my life is not coming out in the late 70's.

But when I look back on it, it WAS a different time and HAD I done so, I'd very likely have died young. So...

Is it really such a regret? I'm older and smarter. I have just about everything I wanted in life. Had I taken the other path, could I sit here today and say this?

I also regretted leaving a (back then) really good job with benefits just to start my own business. I went back just recently.... No more regrets. I TOTALLY made the right decision.

Regrets is something we all have, because we can reflect on our past. I'll probably regret some of the posts I made on JUB.
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You have made the right decision.
If you came out in the 70s you might be no longer here because of aids !!!

I don't regret anything i post. It was full of stupid silly stuff. :)
 
I don't walk around with so many regrets as i do "baggage". That's heavy stuff to carry around - I would be so much better off if i could just shitcan all that luggage !!
If someone - anyone - had taught me "Acknowledge and move on" - around 50 years ago - then yeah, maybe things would be a little bit different.
But you can't look back - cuz things might not have actually happened the way you play it back in your mind.
And often, we don't know why something happened when it did or how it did until 30 years later --
A seemingly uneventful happening in my friends life over 30 years ago was basically something she regretted - then 30 years later -she found out something that hapened as a result of that "happening" and so 'now she knows why" - and is very happy that something good came out of it. Something she never would have expected while it was happening - or even 2-3 years later --
 
I don't feel like I have made any big decisions in my life so far and so I have nothing to regret.
 
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