relationship advice (kinda)

[Puzuzzu]

Long story short,

I met this guy 3 weeks ago. Our first date was great, our second date I slept over at his, and the third I slept over at his and put out. This happened approx in the same week. The next week we don't meet at all....I thought he lost interest but apparently, I told him im going to be busy studying for a midterm (which mean I needed to cool it with him, not stop seeing him)!!!!
That Friday, I met him and we resolved the issue.
This week (third week), I saw him (yesterday) and made an issue with him because I thought he was cheating (looking) for someone else on manhunt. Now (today), he had his brothers party so he didn't end up meeting me...
I like him a fair amount, and if I don't see him even for a day I begin to miss him in a way (like a void) which my friends can't fill....
I dunno how he feels, he kinda sends me mixed messages
for example:
he tells me that I'm welcome to go to his place, he wants me to meet his family, he invited me to his cottage, and yet I don't think I see him enough...I also feel like he doesn't want to make an effort to see me..what I mean is like at his brothers party, I called him at 4pm, and he never got back to me and it's 11pm...and I don't want to call him again because I feel like that may be too creepy/needy...
I think about him way too much (he's so nice to me, we're fucking compatible..on our second date, his friend had thought we've been going out for months now)..
I think about him way too much, it's hard to focus on much (Including school-which could destroy me), and he OBVIOUSLY doesn't feel that way, so, MIXED messages. I want to break up with him so I get over my feelings, but last time I thought about breaking up with him, I puked from anxiety. I'm caught in a torturous limbo...and I'm so screwed... How can I throw something good away? It may be Very hard to find again... (My friends tell me that too). BAHHHH
This is the first relationship where I'm actually into the guy (not physically only)

I hope I didn't post it in the wrong place, But i'd love a quick reply or two because it's bothering me...

 

[racer2438]

Sounds more like you are insecure, and need to work out some issues b4 the control you.

 

[Comrad]

Sounds like you need to see a psychiatrist, you sound crazy as hell. I don't blame that guy for running for the fuckin hills, he probably dosent even know the half of it. I don't blame him for snatching those panties and running for the hills. Crazy chicks are always easy, and good in bed, but crazy.

 

[voyager1994]

I think you're obsessed and think way too much, possibly creating scenarios that only exist in your mind. You need to control your thoughts and emotions before they control you. It might be a good idea to talk to a school counsellor or psychologist before this whole thing gets out of control and becomes too emotionally painful for you.

 

[Sam Blum]

Why aren't you studying??? You have an examination and you're more concerned with kissing and such?! I have to say that if a guy I went out with told me that he had exams in the next few weeks, I would be disappointed if he were to want to see me (after having dated THREE TIMES) before the tests were completed. You are the one sending bizarrely mixed messages: Study suggests planning for a secure future, potentially with a partner who will be able to rely on your sensible nature, but you are telling him (probably with a slightly higher than normal pitch ) that you would rather devote yourself to a relative stranger than plan for the future. He may well find that odd to say the least and daft to be more forthright. So, pull yourself together and concentrate on what is important for now AND the future. If he has a sound mind, he'll wait a couple of weeks...unless you've freaked him out.

 

[Puzuzzu]

Sounds like you need to see a psychiatrist, you sound crazy as hell. I don't blame that guy for running for the fuckin hills, he probably dosent even know the half of it. I don't blame him for snatching those panties and running for the hills. Crazy chicks are always easy, and good in bed, but crazy.

I probably do need to see a psych for many reasons. I'm pretty crazy, if you dated me, honey, you'd need to bolt your doors and windows if I found your address

I think you're obsessed and think way too much, possibly creating scenarios that only exist in your mind. You need to control your thoughts and emotions before they control you. It might be a good idea to talk to a school counsellor or psychologist before this whole thing gets out of control and becomes too emotionally painful for you.

In my defense, he told me that in previous times he used to juggle 5 guys at the same time...and for the manhunt thing, I have an account, and it doesn't have a picture of me or anything. He messaged that account (I didn't initiate anything or bait him), and I thought he didn't realize it's me and was trying to start something with a stranger, but apparently, he knew it was me and was telling me hi...that only came out when I confronted him soooooo that was a good thing IMHO. I don't know If i'm capable of controlling my emotions..

Why aren't you studying??? You have an examination and you're more concerned with kissing and such?! I have to say that if a guy I went out with told me that he had exams in the next few weeks, I would be disappointed if he were to want to see me (after having dated THREE TIMES) before the tests were completed. You are the one sending bizarrely mixed messages: Study suggests planning for a secure future, potentially with a partner who will be able to rely on your sensible nature, but you are telling him (probably with a slightly higher than normal pitch ) that you would rather devote yourself to a relative stranger than plan for the future. He may well find that odd to say the least and daft to be more forthright. So, pull yourself together and concentrate on what is important for now AND the future. If he has a sound mind, he'll wait a couple of weeks...unless you've freaked him out.

I'm, not concerned with kissing, I wanted to just be around him
Also, I think he's more similar to me than you guys may think, he is so not freaked out, I think i'm the only one who is at all....
But I will try to control myself, and not think excessively of him.
ps: I'm the top and apparently have a fairly deep voice

 

[fetaby]

I don't know If i'm capable of controlling my emotions..

Well, to an extent no one is capable. However, if the results of your emotions are affecting your life negatively it really does behoove you to seek out assistance.

Whether that's psych counseling or mood altering meds or spiritual guidance or meditation, it's all up to you.