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Hey Guys, I came looking for some advice, Hopefully you guys with experiences can help. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about two-three weeks ago. We were together for a year and 8 months. Unfortunately like every typical situation, for about a week, I emailed him, I called himm, I send stuff to him in the mail. We Haven t talked for a while now. Unfortunately , I still would love to talk with him and work things out. Because of my insecurities and my past, during our relationship, I was a little clingy. There were moments where he asked for space, and wanted to break up with me, said we were not meant to be, but then he would say we were. He would say "that there is something there, holding him from taking the action of leaving me for good." (Clearly, he didnt think of that, and broke it up for good.) its a bit complicated. These moments were tough because I would start crying and going crazy, and sometimes beg him. this only happened when we fought, but when we were good, we had a great time together. He also has a very strong attitude, and well I would really freak out when he said "lets take a break". We would take a small break for couple of hours, and then get back together, it was very weird, but only we understood. In our relationship, I did lots for him, but that's typical. In a relationship you do things for each other, but I feel it took lot of me to do something for me because of the small resources I would have. I would still do what I could. For the time we were together, I took him to school and work almost everyday, I would let him borrow money, buy him, spoil him as much as I could. I did this because I love him. He didn't have a job for a while, so I also always brought him lots of lunches andd dinners. When we fought, he would say some really harsh things. There's is also someone in his family who is gay. His cousin and him are very close. When we first started to get to know each other, He told me, If I could get anybody, I would want someone with the quantities of my cousin because he is very cool, smart, etc person. Since that time, I felt like in a way, I had to push myself to be better than his cousin. The week we broke up, His cousin moved to his city. This was already planned for a while. Before the break up, I sometimes would ask stupid question which I think are stupid now. I would ask "will things change when your cousin comes to live here?, will you not want to hang out as much as we are now?" this would cause conflict sometimes. Because of Facebook, i see that they are hanging out everyday, going to the beach, going clubbing. My ex never really went clubbing, so that was a shock. when we broke up, there was a lot of confusion, because he said something and then he said something else. Btw, He deleted me on his facebook and twitter, I dont have a facebook anymore as i deactivate it. On my twitter, about 5 days ago or more, I put a simple "=)", After, I knew he had blocked me because I wasn't able to see anything on his twitter anymore. A lot of the times we fought was because of me. Because he said I need to work on myself, and find what I want to do with my life. I understand that, and I'm actually talking the steps to be better by reading books, and being very positive, even though i miss him a lot. During the tough break up, maybe the first week, I decide to put 30 dollars into his bank account. Maybe 4 days later, I called his mom and i spoke to her. His family liked me alot. We helped each other a lot. She told me he had left to Mexico with his cousin. So, I decided to put 50 dollars into his account for him to enjoy it. I don't care much about money, so its okay. I also mailed him some dvds, that i had made. His family nor him have cable, so I put some of his fav shows on tivo, like the latest episodes. (keeping up with the kardashians, and damages) lol . I thought maybe all these actions would make him think, that i still care and love him. On 4th of July, He emailed me saying that there was nothing to talk about between us, and that I had been emailing him too much. Also that he was going to send me the money and the dvds back. He also said to not contact any of his family. I had decide to ask for his family's advice, and some did reply, but I guess he got upset. There was only one whom was a bit rude and said "I dont want to his into your situtation with (his name), and that was his cousin. I am not sure if he likes me anymore or what. In this 2 weeks, I also went to two psychics who both told me we were gonna get back by the fall. they also said lots of things about him and me. They said I have more power than him. One said He was not gonna send me the the money nor the dvds either. It's been a week since and I haven't received anything. Now, I don't care if I do get the money or don't, I careless about that. One said that he was being very selfish with himself, and it was all about himself. As the other one said, that he has alot of hurt inside, and he has to heal. Both said I was gonna have the chance to date, but I was gonna push my self away from it because my of ex, and they said the same about him. a little different but in the same lines. Also yesterday, I send him a magazine in the mail of kim kardashian (cosmopolitan, the new issue), but I made it seem like it was from the company and not me, The reason I did it was to make him happy, and perhaps think of me a bit. I dont' know what will happen with this. one of the psyhic's said that he does miss me. As I know its a bad idea, I been checking his Facebook, and he has been putting lots of songs as posts, and also very positive quotes such as "I'm going to make my dreams come true" things like that. Now, I came for you guys for advice, I don't know what to believe. I don't know whats going to happen. I'm sorry for the long post, but I mean, I just wanna be happy, and I would like another chance to show that I can be different. When we fought, I would say "please give me another chance?" after I while when we fought sometimes, He would say something in the lines of "No more chances, to many to give" I feel like the break up was my fault, and I am the only one to blame, but I want to know your opinions on this. I don't know if I should have hope, if not, If he really misses me. things like that. I Also want to tell you guys, that we spoke on the phone as well on 4th of July. I said we should talk about things, like mature people, and said "no, nothing to talk about, nada." then i said "(his name), we been through a lot, I helped you I did lots for you, I even helped you graduate, I took you to school everyday, You wouldn't have able to graduate, in a way because of me" He said " I don't care", the last time we spoke he was anger, and hung up on me. So, Im not sure what to think as of now. anything advice would be wonderful. thank you guys.
:/ I know its a long long message and one of the rules is to keep it simple, but I felt like I had to explain most of it, for it to be understood.
Thank you.
Hey Guys, I came looking for some advice, Hopefully you guys with experiences can help. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about two-three weeks ago. We were together for a year and 8 months. Unfortunately like every typical situation, for about a week, I emailed him, I called himm, I send stuff to him in the mail. We Haven t talked for a while now. Unfortunately , I still would love to talk with him and work things out. Because of my insecurities and my past, during our relationship, I was a little clingy. There were moments where he asked for space, and wanted to break up with me, said we were not meant to be, but then he would say we were. He would say "that there is something there, holding him from taking the action of leaving me for good." (Clearly, he didnt think of that, and broke it up for good.) its a bit complicated. These moments were tough because I would start crying and going crazy, and sometimes beg him. this only happened when we fought, but when we were good, we had a great time together. He also has a very strong attitude, and well I would really freak out when he said "lets take a break". We would take a small break for couple of hours, and then get back together, it was very weird, but only we understood. In our relationship, I did lots for him, but that's typical. In a relationship you do things for each other, but I feel it took lot of me to do something for me because of the small resources I would have. I would still do what I could. For the time we were together, I took him to school and work almost everyday, I would let him borrow money, buy him, spoil him as much as I could. I did this because I love him. He didn't have a job for a while, so I also always brought him lots of lunches andd dinners. When we fought, he would say some really harsh things. There's is also someone in his family who is gay. His cousin and him are very close. When we first started to get to know each other, He told me, If I could get anybody, I would want someone with the quantities of my cousin because he is very cool, smart, etc person. Since that time, I felt like in a way, I had to push myself to be better than his cousin. The week we broke up, His cousin moved to his city. This was already planned for a while. Before the break up, I sometimes would ask stupid question which I think are stupid now. I would ask "will things change when your cousin comes to live here?, will you not want to hang out as much as we are now?" this would cause conflict sometimes. Because of Facebook, i see that they are hanging out everyday, going to the beach, going clubbing. My ex never really went clubbing, so that was a shock. when we broke up, there was a lot of confusion, because he said something and then he said something else. Btw, He deleted me on his facebook and twitter, I dont have a facebook anymore as i deactivate it. On my twitter, about 5 days ago or more, I put a simple "=)", After, I knew he had blocked me because I wasn't able to see anything on his twitter anymore. A lot of the times we fought was because of me. Because he said I need to work on myself, and find what I want to do with my life. I understand that, and I'm actually talking the steps to be better by reading books, and being very positive, even though i miss him a lot. During the tough break up, maybe the first week, I decide to put 30 dollars into his bank account. Maybe 4 days later, I called his mom and i spoke to her. His family liked me alot. We helped each other a lot. She told me he had left to Mexico with his cousin. So, I decided to put 50 dollars into his account for him to enjoy it. I don't care much about money, so its okay. I also mailed him some dvds, that i had made. His family nor him have cable, so I put some of his fav shows on tivo, like the latest episodes. (keeping up with the kardashians, and damages) lol . I thought maybe all these actions would make him think, that i still care and love him. On 4th of July, He emailed me saying that there was nothing to talk about between us, and that I had been emailing him too much. Also that he was going to send me the money and the dvds back. He also said to not contact any of his family. I had decide to ask for his family's advice, and some did reply, but I guess he got upset. There was only one whom was a bit rude and said "I dont want to his into your situtation with (his name), and that was his cousin. I am not sure if he likes me anymore or what. In this 2 weeks, I also went to two psychics who both told me we were gonna get back by the fall. they also said lots of things about him and me. They said I have more power than him. One said He was not gonna send me the the money nor the dvds either. It's been a week since and I haven't received anything. Now, I don't care if I do get the money or don't, I careless about that. One said that he was being very selfish with himself, and it was all about himself. As the other one said, that he has alot of hurt inside, and he has to heal. Both said I was gonna have the chance to date, but I was gonna push my self away from it because my of ex, and they said the same about him. a little different but in the same lines. Also yesterday, I send him a magazine in the mail of kim kardashian (cosmopolitan, the new issue), but I made it seem like it was from the company and not me, The reason I did it was to make him happy, and perhaps think of me a bit. I dont' know what will happen with this. one of the psyhic's said that he does miss me. As I know its a bad idea, I been checking his Facebook, and he has been putting lots of songs as posts, and also very positive quotes such as "I'm going to make my dreams come true" things like that. Now, I came for you guys for advice, I don't know what to believe. I don't know whats going to happen. I'm sorry for the long post, but I mean, I just wanna be happy, and I would like another chance to show that I can be different. When we fought, I would say "please give me another chance?" after I while when we fought sometimes, He would say something in the lines of "No more chances, to many to give" I feel like the break up was my fault, and I am the only one to blame, but I want to know your opinions on this. I don't know if I should have hope, if not, If he really misses me. things like that. I Also want to tell you guys, that we spoke on the phone as well on 4th of July. I said we should talk about things, like mature people, and said "no, nothing to talk about, nada." then i said "(his name), we been through a lot, I helped you I did lots for you, I even helped you graduate, I took you to school everyday, You wouldn't have able to graduate, in a way because of me" He said " I don't care", the last time we spoke he was anger, and hung up on me. So, Im not sure what to think as of now. anything advice would be wonderful. thank you guys.
:/ I know its a long long message and one of the rules is to keep it simple, but I felt like I had to explain most of it, for it to be understood.Thank you.
