Relationship Envy

[Hot White Trash]

I think I have it. I was watching one of those "buying a new place" shows today and there was a really sweet older couple in Portland. They seemed so perfect together that I got jealous. I always see these straight couples - everywhere. And it doesn't much matter what either the guy or gal looks like cause it seems there is someone (straight) for everyone. I wonder if that is true for gays as well.

I don't want anyone to think I am bitter or lonely. I'm not. But I know I am not going to be 20 forever. And I got an older gay brother in LA who is I think kinda bitter and lonely. He is always telling me how much fun he had in his 20s but now regrets not taking his relationships seriously. I talked to him yesterday so maybe that was in the back of my mind when I was watching that older couple.

Does anyone else get a little bit jealous when they watch those shows?

edit : I am going to beat someone to the punch. I am not talking about being jealous of their new house (although I get jealous about that too).

 

[hotb0d]

The only thing I'm jealous about straight couples is one of them get to wear a wedding dress.

 

[evanrick]

i dont have television but at least you are thinking about relationships

 

[Telstra]

I get that sometimes, seeing couples in the street, at venues, even in movies, but I don't know that it's jealousy so much as an "awwww one day" moment. I'm in my late 30s now and I've never had that relationship, but I will one day. some just bloom later that's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

You're only young mate, don't be concerned about what may or may not happen tomorrow. Have faith that it will happen, believe it and know it. It will. I've no doubt at all.

I remember your "third wheel" story.
Never go to an invitation where you feel uncomfortable and out of place.


Anyway, I don't really get jealous.
I hear on the news how happy they are with domestic violence, murder, divorce ... etc.

 

[GL]

i get jealous and sometimes i get bitter about it. i can't help it when i know i've tried but can't make anything work or find the right person. its even more frustrating when you see your friends fall in and out of relationships like they're changing shoes and you can't get past a first date. its even worse when you have to listen to your friend gush on and on about how awesome their new boyfriend is and how much he loves him and all the awesome things they did over the weekend and...

oops. i got bitter again. sorry!

back to the go go's.

 

[Shepherd 2]

I have had two relationships for nearly fifty-one years of my adult life. In the first instance I was married to my wife (a woman and we raised three children. In the second instance I have been partnered to my gay husband for twenty-six years, and I am not lonely nor do I experience relationship envy. Yes indeed, I am a very fortunate man.

Shep+

 

[IowaGuy]

When you least expect it, you will find the one that's just right for you.

Congratulations Shephard 2 - I'm happy for you.

 

[treanir]

Anyone who's followed my threads knows the answer to this... love doesn't like me much.

 

[FPNY]

it's funny how the grass is always greener on the other side. i and my other half celebrated our 29th anniversary this year. while it's a great milestone it doesnt come easy. relationships are a lot of work. i always thought that the longer our relationship lasted the easier it would get. i was dead wrong. it's difficult. life thorws curve balls, there are younger guys wanting to steal one away from the other, work pressures, family pressures, etc.

i sometimes find myself envying single guys. it would be a lot easier to only have myself to worry about. i could do what i want when i want, with whom i want.

 

[Hot White Trash]

I find it hilarious how guys either don't bother to read or can't understand.

My only question was whether people watch those shows and get jealous. That's all. I ask because it seems they are selling not just a house but the whole happy family thing. Everyone is so fucking cheerful and in love and I think its a bit of bullshit. That was what I was getting at.

 

[SpiritFound]

I think I have it. I was watching one of those "buying a new place" shows today and there was a really sweet older couple in Portland. They seemed so perfect together that I got jealous. I always see these straight couples - everywhere. And it doesn't much matter what either the guy or gal looks like cause it seems there is someone (straight) for everyone. I wonder if that is true for gays as well.

I don't want anyone to think I am bitter or lonely. I'm not. But I know I am not going to be 20 forever. And I got an older gay brother in LA who is I think kinda bitter and lonely. He is always telling me how much fun he had in his 20s but now regrets not taking his relationships seriously. I talked to him yesterday so maybe that was in the back of my mind when I was watching that older couple.

Does anyone else get a little bit jealous when they watch those shows?

edit : I am going to beat someone to the punch. I am not talking about being jealous of their new house (although I get jealous about that too).

I use to feel like that till I got into a relationship and had to deal with BS. Relationships are NOT all they are cracked up to be! I say date and have fun..

 

[FPNY]

I find it hilarious how guys either don't bother to read or can't understand.

My only question was whether people watch those shows and get jealous. That's all. I ask because it seems they are selling not just a house but the whole happy family thing. Everyone is so fucking cheerful and in love and I think its a bit of bullshit. That was what I was getting at.

oh, sorry, do watch sometimes and know better than to think it's all lovey-dovey. it aint. i guess i was trying to share my experience.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

My only question was whether people watch those shows and get jealous. That's all. I ask because it seems they are selling not just a house but the whole happy family thing. Everyone is so fucking cheerful and in love and I think its a bit of bullshit. That was what I was getting at.

Lot cultures tv full shit as much their cultures full shit

but hope eternal

 

[Fire]

When you least expect it, you will find the one that's just right for you.

Nice sentiment, but this is not how reality works

 

[treanir]

Nice sentiment, but this is not how reality works

My experience (consisting solely of seeing others get in relationships) tells me that is how reality works.

So maybe we should stop expecting the Spanish Inquisition?