Relationship Help?

[JustLittleChris]

Hey Guys
So I'm in a pretty weird relationship and I just dunno what to do anymore, so I was wondering if you could help?

Well, we've been together just over a month. We met online on a chat room. We clicked instantly cause we were the only ones there who weren't looking cam sex or whatver on there. He told me straight away he was 8 years older than me and lived about 2 and a half hours drive away from me, which didn't bother me or him.
Things were going great (he's my first boyfriend btw), we swapped phone numbers the day after we meet and we were both crazy about each other.
But one day he didn't talk to me for three days, which was totally out of the ordinary seeing as he usually sent me a good morning message every morning. Finally he spoke to me on msn and he told me he wasn't sure about age and distance etc. I told him I didn't mind about it and we finally got over it, but then after that for about a week things were just not the same.
Then he didn't speak to me for four days and I felt totally heartbroken, but then he finally spoke to me again and things were back to normal, and he told me he loved me and I really believe he does now.
But now he's not speaking to me again since Friday evening...I've sent texts but he's just not replying. I really feel like I'm in love with him and sometimes I can't help but cry when i think about him so much.

When we first met he seemed eager to meet, but after the first silent treatment he just hasn't seemed as eager to meet, and we still haven't even though I really want to.

Should I stay with him? Sometimes I feel like he's messing me around but when we're talking normally he seems like the best person in the world.
Do you think he's messing me around? I just don't know what to do anymore

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, what kind of future do you expect from someone who runs hot and cold and whom you can't depend upon?

He's not ready for a relationship.

Say goodbye. Wish him well. Move on. Find someone else who doesn't play these games.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to JUB. I feel for you having to go through this. It's normal growing pains. A lot of times we glob on to people because of the relative difficulty many of us have meeting people. Let this guy go and learn something from it. You already have learned that it's possible for you to have a relationship. You still need to learn that while compromise is necessary in any relationship, angst ought not to be a part of a health one. Repeated crying followed by bliss is a set up for you to be emotionally abused. Please be careful of this in the future. Remember both the joy and pain of this one as you move on to another in the future. Good luck to you.

 

[JustLittleChris]

It's just so hard to let go...
I feel like I'm never going to meet someone who I connect with so much!

 

[Slips01]

Ok this seems like you are "REALLY" in love with him. You are doing all of the work right now. I really think that this guy dosen't want to jump into this as you would like him to. It not his time to be in this relationship with you. Set down and talk to him and find out where he is coming from. He is not telling you something.

 

[spencer]

JLC, it's so easy to slip into the rationale that every guy will talk to you every day. When in reality, even though it happens, healthy dating means you have your own life that keeps you busy. You don't necessarily need to hang on to someone so tight. Also, dating implies that you've met the guy. How do you even know what he looks like for sure? You may find that in person you just don't click and that could be a problem.

You could be like this guy.

There is a special place in my heart for the first guy that entertained me on the net for the first time, but there is a special place in my heart for the first guy that I actually dated in person.

I know how difficult it is to want to latch on to someone and think every minute about him. Then think that every minute that he's not thinking about you that you take it personally. It's so hard and it's not fair to you or him. Those are some big expectations from both him and from yourself.

Try to put it into perspective and date more than one person at a time until you find the one who you want to call your own. Hang in there.

 

[racer2438]

Your best bet it to say goodbye and wish him well. It's not going to work for him as he has stated. But being your first bf, your gong head over heels for him and you just have to understand this was not meant to be.

the sooner you let this sink in you will be better. So it's time to move on and chaulk this down as a learning experiance and know what some signs are so it dowes not happen to you again.

And in a month you dont know someone good unless your closer together and see each oth more regularly.

So put your pants on one leg at a time like the rest and take one step at a time. Dont be in a rush..

good luck..

 

[SummerBoy]

Awww... I feel really sorry for you.

I know exactly how you must feel right now. I've been in the same situation actually and I understand it's really hard.

I think the best thing to do is to let go - even if it hurts. I mean, that story can only end in tears.

The point about that guy is that (so I think) he never expected it all would be such a huge thing. I think he just wanted to play, without any intentions.

I honestly understand you, because my "ex" just did the same. We met a long time ago and after we were going down for the first time he never spoke to me again. :'-D

I think the point is that they're not ready for taking a part in a serious relationship.

As I said: I know it's really hard, but if you don't try to move it'll hurt more and more any single day. There are so many other guys, so why shouldn't you be happy again with someone else?

I hope it'll all turn clear for you. I wish you the best and good look!