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Relationship Over

cpugh2005

cpugh2005

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So this was my first real relationship I am 23 and not out was seeing this guy for 3 months and loved him to bits i still do, Ok he lives in Stockport and i live in South Wales its about 200+ miles apart but i caught the train up every weekend to see him expect this weekend he wanted to go over one of his friends.

Today I txt him and he says he was going to tell me when i come up friday that its over but told me over a txt i am still going up friday because we get on really well and i wanna talk to him but i feel SO depressed i havent stopped crying yet it wasnt all about sex with us two we would just hold eachother and kiss but know i dont know what to do i feel really bad :( i know everyone goes through it but i know i will never find anyone else now it took me years to find him :( sorry just had to let it out
 
Yes me too - even sorrier that there's nothing anyone can say to make it better for you ({)
 
I'll be alright, it was just a lot of stuff happening at once. To be honest, now I wish I hadn't started that thread. But I needed to kinda lay things out and look at it, I guess.

Hope your Friday goes alright. :)
 
I know i am really upset thats all just have to get passed it i loved the company now i am on my own again :(
 
If it was only the company you loved, more than anything else, then perhaps it's for the best. Take your lessons from this relationship, and apply them to the next one.

Lex
 
yeah g-lexington thanks will do not that easy to find good guys tho is it most of the people online are just after sex :(
 
>>>not that easy to find good guys tho is it most of the people online are just after sex

Depends. :)

If you go to a greasy-spoon, you're gonna get greasy-spoon food. There's nothing WRONG with greasy-spoon food as long as that's what you're looking for. But it's silly to walk into a diner, order a steak, and expect a filet mignon. You're gonna get a T-bone. And it may be quite tasty, but it ain't gonna be a filet.

...why are all my analogies food-based? I don't know. Anyway...

The point is, places like manhunt and craigslist are great if you're looking for a guy to jackoff with. Yes, you MIGHT end up with a great guy and a LTR, but that's not why most folks are there. They're there because they're horny, and they want somebody to have sex with. It's somewhat folly to expect much more.

So if you're interested in a boyfriend, a relationship, then go somewhere where you meet PEOPLE. Dating sites, not hook-up sites. Or sites where you just get to interact with people of all stripes. It'll mean you end up chatting with straights and women in addition to gay men, but you never know.

Better yet, turn the computer off and meet some people in real life. Volunteer. Take som e classes. See if there are some "gay groups" in your area you can join.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
>>>not that easy to find good guys tho is it most of the people online are just after sex

Depends. :)

If you go to a greasy-spoon, you're gonna get greasy-spoon food. There's nothing WRONG with greasy-spoon food as long as that's what you're looking for. But it's silly to walk into a diner, order a steak, and expect a filet mignon. You're gonna get a T-bone. And it may be quite tasty, but it ain't gonna be a filet.

...why are all my analogies food-based? I don't know. Anyway...

The point is, places like manhunt and craigslist are great if you're looking for a guy to jackoff with. Yes, you MIGHT end up with a great guy and a LTR, but that's not why most folks are there. They're there because they're horny, and they want somebody to have sex with. It's somewhat folly to expect much more.

So if you're interested in a boyfriend, a relationship, then go somewhere where you meet PEOPLE. Dating sites, not hook-up sites. Or sites where you just get to interact with people of all stripes. It'll mean you end up chatting with straights and women in addition to gay men, but you never know.

Better yet, turn the computer off and meet some people in real life. Volunteer. Take som e classes. See if there are some "gay groups" in your area you can join.

Lex
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I go by the rule that there is NO rule here.

Yup. No doubt, a huge number of dudes out there want to get their rocks off. There is no point in being unhappy about that life's fixture either. It is here to stay. That much is certain.

However, many of these guys are looking, too. They may not be willing to spill out their beans at once and admit to it, but quite a few would be actually happy to date, make friends with benefits and develop the whole thing into a functioning LTR.

Posting ads and dating profiles with 'I want a monogamous committed LTR' works for some dudes just fine. And for the others, it doesn't.

Because, not everyone enjoys being part of your plan to achieve your own version of marital bliss. And because lots of guys out there have been burnt by their possibly manipulative partners and friends. Telling them that you have a plan and that you want something is equal to pushing all his RED ALERT buttons at the same time.

Finally, a number of dudes out there strongly believe that you cannot really 'look for a relationship' but that you need to build it together with the dude, you somehow clicked with. There is lots of truth in this.

SC
 
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