Relationship problem

[pierce123]

Hi guys im just on here because I have nowhere else to turm my boyfriend of 6 months has become so distant but at the same time still communicates about stuff we have planned etc but im on the verge of accusing him of cheating because he seems to be talking to other guys but I have no proof other than he always jokes about cheating and has at times accused me of doin it although I have been 100% faithful I need some help

 

[tarallucci]

Hi. I don't recommend doing anything harsh like accusing him. Just talk to him, tell him that you want to spend more time together and ask him if there is anything wrong.

 

[aaggii]

How old are you two? Is this your first serious relationship? You have to give more details.

Usually this stuff gets fixed by talking with your boyfriend, tell him about your insecurities, about what you expect from this relationship and find out what he wants in the future. Keep in mind that relationships over 30 years can come to an end in a second, while other couples get married after 2 weeks (like my parents) and are still together after 40 years. Don´t accuse him of anything until you have proof, but think it might just be your imagination.

 

[pierce123]

We are both in our late 20's currently dont live together we have had our ups and downs and he has epilepsy which makes him prone to getting angry at times I get it I the neck. This all happened overnight we would message for hours but since sunday he has blatantly ignored me with whatsapp you can see he has read the message and he reads it then doesnt reply but stays online for 20+ minutes which he never did before he always went offline straight away he uses an app called badoo he said he used it to find friends but deep down sometimes I think is that all he uses it for

 

[racer2438]

it's called a good sit down talk between the both of you..you will never know unless you ask.

relationships are built on Love, trust and communication. A break down in that chain leads to many issues..your being one of them.

you need to talk...

 

[aaggii]

We are both in our late 20's currently dont live together we have had our ups and downs and he has epilepsy which makes him prone to getting angry at times I get it I the neck. This all happened overnight we would message for hours but since sunday he has blatantly ignored me with whatsapp you can see he has read the message and he reads it then doesnt reply but stays online for 20+ minutes which he never did before he always went offline straight away he uses an app called badoo he said he used it to find friends but deep down sometimes I think is that all he uses it for

You need to ask him all this, see where it goes from there. Keep in mind that a disease is not an excuse to be a jackass.

 

[Seasoned]

First, let me try to reassure you that no matter what happens, you will be ok. Second, talk with him by letting him know what's going on with you and asking non-threatening questions. Third, don't make accusations. Fourth, talk about your feelings openly and honestly.

 

[pierce123]

Just an update although things arnt the eay they are ive accepted that he is his own person and at the end of the day we still speak everyday at least once we are still making plans together he will obviously talk to other people its not like im the only person in his life