Relationship Question

[Martkell2007]

If you tell a guy you love him, but you don't want to be in a relationship if his heart isn't in it.

And you tell him if he wants to break up then just say so. And he doesn't respond and won't answer your calls.

Is his lack of response saying "yes, i want to break up"?

 

[Eagle653]

Perhaps.

Or, it could be "I don't know what I want or how I feel and I don't know how to tell you that."

Leaving you hanging, though, is rude and insensitive. Even if he said he didn't know the answers to your questions and statements, it would be better than silence.

Either way (rejection, or "I don't know what I want"), I wouldn't be optimistic.

Before throwing in the towel, though, sit him down and talk with him and assure him that you'll accept any answer--just articulate something that makes sense.

Good luck!

 

[racer2438]

You both need to sit down and talk it and see who wants what.

Communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. The rest honesty,love, will follow the first. If no one talks it out and left unanswered things get interpeted the wrong way and shit starts to go wrong.

My bf and I will have 25 yrs together this august and we did not get this long together be hinding our feelings.

You have to let each other know how one feels about the other.

So dont give up just yet he may be one that doesnt talk easy and its hard for him to show feelings, our undecided, scared of commitment. Any number of things. So give him a bit of time but make sure that you let him know that you want to talk it out.

Good luck.

 

[Martkell2007]

I text him that I would bring him lunch tomorrow and we could peacefully talk things out. I hope he responds, either by saying he wants nothing to do with me, or by responding he wants to work it out. RELATIONSHIP LIMBO SUX.

 

[Eagle653]

RELATIONSHIP LIMBO SUX.

It really does. That's why it's better to push it to a head and get it all out on the table--even if you ultimately hear what you don't want to hear. At least you have an answer and can react accordingly.

Good luck. Let us know what happens.

 

[rareboy]

What does it take for you to just move on and stop beating this poor dead horse?

It is over.

You may think you're in limbo but you're the one who has put you there.

At least walk away from this with some dignity and self worth intact.

And you tell him if he wants to break up then just say so. And he doesn't respond and won't answer your calls.

Is his lack of response saying "yes, i want to break up"?

As I recall, you are the one who moved out.

Because he was indifferent and looking to cheat which you found out by snooping.

Go back and reread the stuff you've previously posted about this trainwreck of a relationship. If you can't break free after that, then I would suggest that you get some real professional counselling assistance to help you understand passive aggressive behaviour and the origin of your desire to be trapped in unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Is his lack of response saying "yes, i want to break up"?

I think his lack of response is him saying, "I know you'll be back anyway."

You have broken up with this guy...what? Three times? Four? You've moved out of his house, returned his phone, etc etc. And yet I still see "partnered" under your name, and you complaining that "relationship limbo sux". Seriously, WHAT relationship? Did you undo all that, take the phone back, move back in?

I think you know the answers to what you're asking.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Three in a row for "Either get out of this dysfunctional relationship or get therapy or both".