Relationship Questions

[hotbud2012]

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and just have a question about a couple things. I don't have any other gay friends that I can ask advice about things like this.

Is it normal that he constantly checks out and mentions how hot other guys are?

He is close to some girls and they send and/or he will ask them for pics of the guys' dicks they are dating. And they send them to him. Is that normal or okay for a relationship?

And we are supposed to be monogamous, but yet he tells his girlfriend that she should sneak out of her boyfriends room and sleep with him roommate one night. Doesn't this sort of show that he thinks cheating is ok in a relationship or is this just banter or whatever?

I am an insecure guy because I've had ex's cheat on me, so IDK if I am just thinking more about something because of that or if I actually have valid concerns. PLEASE HELP.

 

[sixthson]

Checking out other guys is one thing, but asking for dicks pics from his friends and advising them to cheat is odd, in my opinion.
You might want to be careful before committing too seriously to him. He doesn't sound too trustworthy, to me.

 

[altlover85]

Checking out other guys is one thing, but asking for dicks pics from his friends and advising them to cheat is odd, in my opinion.
You might want to be careful before committing too seriously to him. He doesn't sound too trustworthy, to me.

I agree with sixthson about this behavior being odd.

I wouldn't let his behavior rule out the possiblity of committing more fully to a LTR, but I would evaluate how you feel about him overall, especially when it comes to trust and communication.

 

[aaggii]

The concept of cheating is rather different for some people, from what I´ve learned lately. Rather than accusing anyone of cheating, which hurts their feelings if they don´t actually think they are doing it, you can talk with him about what upsets you. ¨Honey, this attitude/these actions make me feel insecure and I´d prefer you to stop¨. Regardless of the response, talk with him, no accusations, no name calling, nothing like that. A calm conversation with him and you´ll see where he stands when it comes to your relationship.

 

[Seasoned]

He's hyper curious regarding his friend's sex lives. Asking for pics of dicks of guys he could eventually meet is a bit much in my opinion. Has he sent his girlfriends pics of your dick?

 

[hotbud2012]

thanks for the replies, I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks its odd. and yes, he has shown several of his friends pics of my dick. He also says that with all his gay friends that they share a lot of their sex lives and again he sees pics of all their flings.

and I did ask him why he wanted a pic of this guys dick so bad, and he wouldn't tell me. he just said "he's straight, drop it". and regarding the boyfriend's roommate, he says that the guy is just a trick of hers and that the roommate is hotter (in his opinion) and that's why she should hookup with him.

 

[bankside]

My guy and I have been together 15 years. We've both always enjoyed porn, and it is fair to say we're both curious about human sexuality beyond just each other. But the point of that curiosity is to bring us together. We might see something that turns both of us on in porn or in some amateur video that a guy uploaded, and it gives us ideas with each other. It's fun to try.

I don't know why but I get the feeling your guy crosses that line. It does come across as odd. Does it turn you on, for him to flash your dick to people he knows? If not he should have never done it in the first place.

 

[hotbud2012]

no, I told him when I sent him the pic that he wasn't supposed to show anyone (you know, the common sense thing). and somehow it came out that they saw it, probably when he mentioned that his girl or guy friends would show him pics of their guys. and I asked if he ever showed mine etc. I was mad, but luckily its a nice pic of it, so yea lol. but no, it doesn't turn me on at all. and rather hate that they have all seen it.