Relationship with family member (brother) ?

[BunkerBuster]

Has anyone ever been involved in a relationship with a close family member?

I've started dating a really cute guy from my class. Both he (Allen, 21) and his brother (Hampton, 18 ) are gay. Hampton is just as cute as Allen.

I've become romantically involved with Allen. The other night I met Hampton for the first time, and learned that the two brothers explored their sexuality with each other, and are romantically involved. They live together in one of their parent's houses (his parents don't live there). Aside from each other, they've never had an outside relationship with anyone. They're very close. Allen is deaf, and although he is an Abercrombie store model he's very shy and never explored dating until he saw me lusting over him.

The other night I was in a threesome with the two, and while I had a great time I started thinking about the morality and the ethics of what was happening. This is my first time ever being in a relationship with anyone and wonder if I'm overthinking the issue.

They're both very happy and are extremely welcoming to me joining their family and becoming a trio.

 

[danniflava]

My brother & I are twins, & we're both gay, & I would never ever ever ever touch him, sexually. That's pretty fucking sick.

 

[MCsNo1Fn]

^^True. Although I would never see my brother in that light, everyone is different. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all in such a situation, nor would I feel right "being a trio." I could never share someone I love with someone else. And to compete with a brother, uh, yeah. It seems like it's not a good direction to take, but if you're ready to tackle it, then I say go for it. Just make sure you're prepared for any possible negative situation!

Good luck

 

[StlKj]

Honestly, I don't think morality and ethics should be your concern here. They don't see anything wrong with what they are doing, and since there is no danger they will have to worry about reproducing and having children with genetic issues, then it's really no one's business but their own.

Except now it's your business. This situation has so much potential to blow up. They have a relationship you can never fully be a part of--you had better be prepared to handle that without jealousy. Also, is Allen prepared for how his feelings for you might deepen and then realize he doesn't like sharing you with his brother? Little brother began putting moves on you before Allen got home (in your other thread you mentioned how he was touching you)--is he going to like someone possibly taking his brother away? What if you develop feelings for him over Allen?

Forget the morality of the situation, and ask yourself if you are prepared to navigate the emotional minefield you're walking into here. Know your heart and what it wants, and if/when it seems that everything is going over the cliff, be prepared to get out.

 

[D_Pipa]

im Deaf, im really shy and never explore datings like your Allen, dunno why lol

 

[StlKj]

And one other thing--as you continue to use JUB, you may get more and more comfortable with sharing information about where you live geographically. Consider carefully that you have outed two brothers as having an incestuous relationship. We now know their names, their ages, that one of them is deaf, that they live together and that Allen works at AnF. You might choose to be more discrete as you seek advice on what you should do.

 

[EwanSF]

Personaly, the idea unsettles me quite a bit. I could never look at ma brothers in that light, thought of it makes me shudder. But on the other hand, they're not hurting anyone, so I don't especialy give a shit.

 

[BunkerBuster]

Thank you all for the advice. I realize there is potential for jealousy. I talked to Allen about this some more and learned a little bit more about how their relationship came to be. They lived in a very strict household, and their parents are very baptist. Totally against homosexual and everything else, they were forbidden from hanging out with guy friends and exploring who they were. With the older brother, you cannot tell that he's gay in his behaviorisms. With the younger, though, he's very feminine and is quite apparent that he's gay.

Their parents do not know that Allen is gay, so they shipped Hampton to live with him to try to knock some straight into him. While they were all living together, the brothers started growing sexually and had no one but each other with which to explore. Their parents oppressiveness has left them very shy and uncomfortable with getting out and meeting new people.

I don't know what's going to happen in the future. None of us have ever been in a relationship before. We're all still young and are looking to learn what it's like to love. And while we continue to mature who knows what's going to exist for our futures? Whether only two of us three develop into a more serious relationship, or we all part ways, if we're having a good time right now are we really hurting anyone?

And one other thing--as you continue to use JUB, you may get more and more comfortable with sharing information about where you live geographically. Consider carefully that you have outed two brothers as having an incestuous relationship. We now know their names, their ages, that one of them is deaf, that they live together and that Allen works at AnF. You might choose to be more discrete as you seek advice on what you should do.

The characters and incidents portrayed and the names herein are fictitious and any similarity to the name, characters, or history or any actual person, living or dead, is entirely coincidental and unintentional.

Good call though, the Internet isn't as anonymous as we often wish it were.

And if they've never had anal sex, is it still incest?

 

[EwanSF]

Of course it is.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

Shit, the arrangement sounds hot to me. I'd say you got the hook-up for real if they're both sex-able. I 'aint hating.

 

[cityboi]

I think the three of you can explore your sexuality. Also, you can venture out as a group to meet new people.

 

[elvnguardian]

Damn the circle's just gonna get bigger and bigger. He's gettin more action in "one" relationship than I've gotten in all of mine.

yeah, this is rapidly approaching village status...

actually, that sounds kind of sweet

 

[elvnguardian]

so, you'd need a farmer, a blacksmith... umm, a baker, a butcher... there's no need for a seamstress, I doubt any of you will be wearing clothes

 

[looseliam]

^^ your forgot the candlestick maker.

 

[elvnguardian]

^^ your forgot the candlestick maker.

Well, I figured they'd atleast let the electrician set them up

 

[EwanSF]

thanks! i'll keep that in mind for my next hate rally.

Quality.

 

[darkdreamerx]

I'm almost positive marley is the coolest person on the forum now *love*

On topic: I'd never even think about my brother that way, but he's not gay and we aren't really close at all -- so who knows. I don't really see an issue with it as long as you all play safe..

 

[danniflava]

People say the same thing about homosexuality. All of the parties involved are consenting adults so the only thing that's sick is your narrow-minded statement.

Are you kidding? You think I'm being narrow-minded because I think incest is wrong?

 

[inlovewithblair]

People say the same thing about homosexuality. All of the parties involved are consenting adults so the only thing that's sick is your narrow-minded statement.

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Are you serious? I'm fucking dying right now!

 

[danniflava]

Honestly, I don't think morality and ethics should be your concern here. They don't see anything wrong with what they are doing, and since there is no danger they will have to worry about reproducing and having children with genetic issues, then it's really no one's business but their own.

Except now it's your business. This situation has so much potential to blow up. They have a relationship you can never fully be a part of--you had better be prepared to handle that without jealousy. Also, is Allen prepared for how his feelings for you might deepen and then realize he doesn't like sharing you with his brother? Little brother began putting moves on you before Allen got home (in your other thread you mentioned how he was touching you)--is he going to like someone possibly taking his brother away? What if you develop feelings for him over Allen?

Forget the morality of the situation, and ask yourself if you are prepared to navigate the emotional minefield you're walking into here. Know your heart and what it wants, and if/when it seems that everything is going over the cliff, be prepared to get out.

EW.
Just because two gay brothers aren't able to have children if they have sex doesn't mean that it's okay.
It's absolutely sick.
This is the kind of mentality that puts stereotypes on gay people: pedophiles, incest etc..

I honestly can't believe this. We actually live in a world where people think this is okay.
So I can go fuck my daddy if I felt like it.