Relationship

[MAC-ADDICT]

I just wanted to ask for some opinions...

I have started talking to a guy that lives about a hour away from me. We have met several times and seem to get along really well; however, their are times that he will text me and then not respond... I am feeling that I am being lead on to believe that their is possible relationship just to have sex...

What would be the best way to handle this? Continue building a relationship or move on and keep looking?

I usually always go with my gut feeling but i just have a different feeling about this guy..

 

[KaraBulut]

If you're judging the future of a relationship based upon texting, you're in trouble.

Base your impressions upon the time you spend with him.

 

[altlover85]

I would ask him about the texting situation if it bothers you that much. You should be aware that this may come off as clingy though. Unless you have a relationship, you don't really have the right to know his business to a high degree.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to active membership. I'll tell you to follow your gut always when it comes to relationships which is not the same advice I give about friendships. When it comes to relationships nothing is worse than being unsure of your partner's loyalty. Even if suspicions are unfounded the relationship ought to end if doubt persists and makes your life unmanageable. If this pattern continues in your life you might have dependency and trust issues that need professional attention. If you were well into this relationship I'd tell you to work it out with him in couple's therapy. Take good care of yourself.

 

[sissyboy]

Man,relationships are weird..I found myself in one without realizing it.Don't overthink it, don't try to figure out what he's thinking. If you aren't comfortable with things, talk to him. Ask him where his head is at. If he just wants sex and you're ok with that, great. He could be wondering the same thing...

Hell, I met this guy in a bar 23 years ago and he's still around.Talk about the one night stand that just won't go away...(lol)

 

[TX-Beau]

Text messages have fucked up a lot of guys in here.

There are too many physical factors involved in attraction, and a huge amount of unspoken cues in communication, that you'll never get a accurate read on a guy through pixels. Especially texts which tend to be short and easily misunderstood.

If I get a text message, and it's not from someone I know pretty well, I'll probably respond once, but I'm not going to spend all day tapping away, nor am I going to be happy if I get a thousand texts, then sulking because I didn't drop everything to play text tag.

It's a personal choice, even if I text some one myself, I don't expect a response, certainly not a text saga.

How do you feel when you're together? Is he interested? Attentive? Treat you like a friend? What?

Don't get into a bunch of issues based on text, he texted you, you responded, is he now required to respond to your response? Where does it end.

 

[altlover85]

Whether the guy in question needs to respond or not depends on what he texted, TX-Beau.