Relationships without Anal Sex???

[willycocks]

Isn't nips a racial slur for japanese??

no thats nipple to you!

slit eyes is the kiwi racial slur to japanese

 

[Rex]

I prefer oral, body contact, rimming, etc.

Anal sex is painful.

 

[badgerfan]

i was glad to stumble upon this post. i too am not very turned on or excited by the thought of anal sex. and i have wondered several times how that will affect me and my chances of being a in a long term, committed relationship. while it is something i will try, it is not my favorite thing and something i could and will be happy mostly not doing. and i feel the same thing about being a top, its just not something i am dying to do. now watching porn and seeing other guys having anal sex is a different story. and i do enjoy the sight and feeling of a guy with a really firm, tight, and round ass, i just do not want his dick in mine or mine in his.

 

[willycocks]

i was glad to stumble upon this post. i too am not very turned on or excited by the thought of anal sex. and i have wondered several times how that will affect me and my chances of being a in a long term, committed relationship. while it is something i will try, it is not my favorite thing and something i could and will be happy mostly not doing. and i feel the same thing about being a top, its just not something i am dying to do. now watching porn and seeing other guys having anal sex is a different story. and i do enjoy the sight and feeling of a guy with a really firm, tight, and round ass, i just do not want his dick in mine or mine in his.

perhaps we are both part of a silent majority??? I also would like a long term committed relationship, my first when it happens, and I have wondered about the same things

doing it and not liking it would most likely be more harmful to your relationship wouldnt it???? the sex has to be very mutually enjoyable and good for both so doing what you like is essential

we both feel similarly so other will!

 

[Eyghon]

I'm breathing a sigh of relief reading this thread. I've had oral sex and don't much get into the thought of anal sex -- though, like many in this thread, watching it in porn is another story. Most of my friends who I've discussed my sexuality with don't even count oral sex as experience and would consider me flatly a virgin unless I've given or received anal sex. It's all semantics if you ask me, and luckily I don't listen to them when they try to tell me this.

Yesterday, a friend told me that the first thing I had to consider in the gay dating world is whether I'm a top or a bottom. I told her I don't know because I've never done it before and she gave me a look like I was mentally challenged. Of course you know if you're a top or a bottom, she says. It's a psychological part of your makeup ... Um, okay. (Then she helpfully informed me that I'm a bottom.)

May I ask, when did top/bottom become understood an inherent psychological trait? People treat it like it's right- or left-handedness, like it's something you're born into. Why do people insist on applying so many arbitrary categories to a person's sexuality and then insist on implying them to me? I would like to try anal sex some day, when I'm in a trusting relationship and feel comfortable to give it a shot, but I can certainly imagine a fulfilled life without it.

So consider me also a part of that silent majority. Anal sex -- who needs it?

 

[willycocks]

I'm breathing a sigh of relief reading this thread. I've had oral sex and don't much get into the thought of anal sex -- though, like many in this thread, watching it in porn is another story. Most of my friends who I've discussed my sexuality with don't even count oral sex as experience and would consider me flatly a virgin unless I've given or received anal sex. It's all semantics if you ask me, and luckily I don't listen to them when they try to tell me this.

Yesterday, a friend told me that the first thing I had to consider in the gay dating world is whether I'm a top or a bottom. I told her I don't know because I've never done it before and she gave me a look like I was mentally challenged. Of course you know if you're a top or a bottom, she says. It's a psychological part of your makeup ... Um, okay. (Then she helpfully informed me that I'm a bottom.)

May I ask, when did top/bottom become understood an inherent psychological trait? People treat it like it's right- or left-handedness, like it's something you're born into. Why do people insist on applying so many arbitrary categories to a person's sexuality and then insist on implying them to me? I would like to try anal sex some day, when I'm in a trusting relationship and feel comfortable to give it a shot, but I can certainly imagine a fulfilled life without it.

So consider me also a part of that silent majority. Anal sex -- who needs it?

its not just a fulfilled life, you can have an extremely sensual and exciting sex life also, without anal sex. If it goes in the butt it kind of stays there until they come, if you keep it out of the butt, you can do so much more with it.

also, non anal sex is cleaner and less risky, so you can do more and have more erotic fun times and have more sexual variety. I dont mind my lover putting it around my butt, it doesn have to go inside though

I have taken it and given it, I really find taking it such a chore

keeping it out and caressing and sucking and touching the cock is so much more sexy for me, plus I can see it and I can see my lover, with anal they almost always have their back to you and you just hump them until you're done

I like to face each other and keep it out and see it and rub our cocks together and suck and kiss and play and for me its way better than humping

 

[KnightRider]

This is kind of strange though, if you compare two males together as opposed to the male-female. How many male-female couples who are sexually active never have penetrative intercourse not counting oral? I think that number would be pretty small. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, it's just odd TO ME.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Relationships with anal sex.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Thank you. My bad. And that's true.

 

[willycocks]

Thank you. My bad. And that's true.

well you can do what you want when you fuck!

plenty of guys have responded and agree with me and feel similarly so its all about individuality

for every man who cant stand anal there is another who feels the same. For those who insist on anal then they can have their man

I dont personally enjoy the scent of another mans butthole and dont really want to know what my lovers butt smells like, others dont really mind at all, thought for me its offensive to go in the big stinky ass and get all those germs everywhere

Im not doing it, and my sex life is better off without it, I dont like my cock to smell like my lovers butthole

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Now that's a post and a half. Bravo.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Heh heh. Sweet.

 

[aquadude81]

i'm surprised the numbers of men who abstain from anal are that high. that's pretty interesting to me. i guess everyone has their own likes and dislikes. i know, for me, oral is basically a waste of time. i've only gotten off from a blow-job twice, and once it was because it had been awhile since i had any action

 

[willycocks]

Now that's a post and a half. Bravo.

I was quite full on. Its just a bit like that sometimes and I just have a small part of the brain that likes anal sex

its just my brain structure, thats what it comes down to

anal can feel good to put it in, taking for me is like shifting bricks all day, phew!

 

[willycocks]

lol...i love this convo. personally, ive had anal sex once and hated it. but i love to be rimmed, and getting oral is the best. the guy im hooking up with right now has great sexual chemistry with me, so i mean i might consider being topped by him but im still thinking about it. i also remember that time i got it up the butt and im cautious.
ouch!

mmm for me its not a rule, I just enjoy what I do, I have tried it a few times

I love giving a blow job and love to take one, for whatever reason I love having a cock in my mouth

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

You could always watch two guys fucking. Like your boyf doing your gay bro. Or something. If ya don't like the penetration.

 

[EvilForce]

I think a lot of the people who don't like anal sex don't like the thought of losing control.

It's less a physical issue (ie, pain) but rather a mental one.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Use, like, strawberry flavoured lube.

 

[willycocks]

Use, like, strawberry flavoured lube.

I use organic extra virgin olive oil as a lube