Remaining friends

[jeffhardylover8472]

There’s a guy I’ve liked for about a year now. This past weekend, we were at a pride dance and I finally told him how I felt about him. He was nice to take me home and we had a good talk on the way. He knew how I felt since at least the dance back in the spring, but because of uncertainties on his end, he wants to just be good friends for now.

It’s been a long time since I last told anyone how I felt about them and I know that even though it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, I know I have to respect his decision. I do want to keep him as a friend.

 

[TX-Beau]

Certainly, you can be friends, but for a while, that needs to come with a good dose of distance.

Having him in proximity all the time won't speed up the process of dealing with this; it will just impede it.

 

[KaraBulut]

There’s a guy I’ve liked for about a year now. This past weekend, we were at a pride dance and I finally told him how I felt about him. He was nice to take me home and we had a good talk on the way. He knew how I felt since at least the dance back in the spring, but because of uncertainties on his end, he wants to just be good friends for now.

It’s been a long time since I last told anyone how I felt about them and I know that even though it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, I know I have to respect his decision. I do want to keep him as a friend.

So, your post didn't end in a question but the fact that you posted indicates that you're not completely settled with how things were left.

This is a common scenario where a straight man and straight woman who are friends or two LGBT friends have a mix of different feelings toward each other.

The way that you friend handled it indicates he's a decent person who treats other people in the way that he would want to be treated.

The question for you- and TX-Beau hints at this- "Is this a mild crush on a friend? Or is this a really strong feeling that would affect your friendship?".

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

So, your post didn't end in a question but the fact that you posted indicates that you're not completely settled with how things were left.

This is a common scenario where a straight man and straight woman who are friends or two LGBT friends have a mix of different feelings toward each other.

The way that you friend handled it indicates he's a decent person who treats other people in the way that he would want to be treated.

The question for you- and TX-Beau hints at this- "Is this a mild crush on a friend? Or is this a really strong feeling that would affect your friendship?".

I’m not really sure. All I know is that I liked him a lot and while the feeling was mutual, it was bad timing. He wants to get financially stable and get a good job before he even looks at commitment with anyone.

While I do want to remain friends, I may need a little bit of time to get over what happened.

 

[KaraBulut]

...While I do want to remain friends, I may need a little bit of time to get over what happened.

That is very insightful on your part.

 

[WWEfan1988]

It's so weird that i happened to find this post. I haven't talked to you in like a decade. We use to talk on lot on messenger haha. Anyways hope all is well dude.