Revenge!

[ben9651]

This is gonna be kinda shady..

I talked in previous threads about a guy who i met and kinda got together with. I`v known him since august and we got really close til now. NOW, on to several facts ::
He has a bf in Canada(he didn`t really tell me about him).
His bf had come for a visit about a week ago and now staying one more week.
He told me that his friends are coming to visit.(without specifying even though i asked).
He lied to me alot .. and i think he`s just using me so he could have somewhere to sleep other than his dorms .. some part of me wants to believe that he`s not using me but lets face it , he is.
Anyhow,He told me that he`ll be staying at his sister`s house for these two weeks .. but i know that he had rented an apt. for him and his bf.
NOW ,being angry and sick of taken advantage of.. i finally snapped and decided to go after his ex-bf.. who i`m assuming still has a thing for him . I did add him on skype and currently we chat ,. flirt.. and we`re meeting next weekend.. we decided that maybe we`ll tell him or maybe we wont.
I guess that my main thing is to make him jealous .. i know i know . its wrong and jealousy is never good but i actually kinda started liking the other guy(his ex) and i`m not doing it to make him jealous anymore. so my question is .. do u guys think its not okay to "date" his ex ??? should i tell him ? do i owe him that?
THANKS.

 

[Rolyo85]

You don't owe him anything if situation is how you describe it. You guys are not together at all anyway.

That said, your motivation is shit, and you're being an [expletive deleted]. Try not to hurt the other guy, he doesn't sound like he's done anything wrong to anyone...

 

[Seasoned]

Retink your plan, please. I'm not sure how hooking up with an ex of his is supposed to make him jealous. It's going to look like you're trying to start a fan club of his casualties. You're not the first person to be burnt. Hopefully your experience will alert you to warning signs in future relationships. Think back. I'm betting you ignored them.

 

[Telstra]

Best not to cause any drama or harm ... not worst it.

He don't have any control over anyone, so having fun with his ex is fine.

 

[maxpowr9]

Revenge never works out the way you want to. You try it once and it doesn't go as planned and you don't do it again like most of life. Let karma kick his swift ass for treating you like garbage.

 

[sixthson]

Your profile says you are 21 years old. Do you really want to start your adult years by plotting revenge against those who do you wrong? If you do, you will find you have a lifetime ahead of you full of pettiness. Be the bigger man.
Talk to him about this if you want, however, but don't be bitter and nasty.

 

[racer2438]

Nothing is accomplished by this other than you will be a angry vidictive person over BS little things.


Just man up and let it go, why waste ur time on petty things. Life is to short, and it goes by fast.

 

[hotb0d]

wouldn't it be funny if you end up liking the ex a whole lot more? maybe even actual chemistry. Path of revenge never has a future but path of love will open up all the possibilities. If you meet this ex for the right reason, you never know....

if you and this guy only get together (I'm assuming for sex, I didn't read your previous thread)...why bother wasting your effort?

 

[ben9651]

Okay let me clear some things up . Me adding him on skype was for jealousy but i have always kinda liked him(his ex) when he talked about him.
And we`re not gonna hook up . we`re just gonna take a walk.. and yes we do have chemistry and he already knows that i kinda stole his skype ID.At the end of the day , he was the one lying to me and i dont owe him one!

 

[ben9651]

I hate to say it .. but you guys were right ! I dont really like his ex . And now i`m stuck in the middle .. the guy wants to meet and I dont . so i told him that we should ask him(the guy who i wanted to make jealous) first.And now its even more complicated.
Christ,now i dont even want to date either one of them.. its too much ..

 

[KaraBulut]

The kind of revenge you're talking about is like you drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

While it probably sounds like a good plan when it's in your head, it's not a healthy way to live your life.

This is why learning to walk away from unhealthy situations is one of life's most valuable skills.