Reverse Psychology.

[HugeCock888]

ok, so i'm in college, and some of my friends are somewhat suspecting and all that for while, and there's no way i can change their opinions, im bi//curious and there's no way im telling anyone.

because i had a lot of gal friends, and dressed real clean ppl suspect that im gay and ive been really trying to change their point of views. because yes i do care what people think about me. i know its bad but i do.

even though all the rumors and suspecting have low down a little bit, but some people are still immature and being annoying about it.

now i only have like 3 gal friends, and i'm trying to change the way i dress, what else should i do ?

and please dont be well u should accept who u are and dont care what people think of you, blah blah blah, i need like skill. like how i should act, what i should say, what i should respond when people ask if me i'm gay and all that. please please help , i need as much help as possible , this would change my life

 

[StlKj]

This is perhaps the one of the saddest requests for advice I've ever read on here, and there have been some sad ones.

What do you do? You keep lying. You keep limiting the number of female friends you have, perhaps hurting them and confusing them as to why their friend has changed. You keep changing how you like to dress, so you can pretend to be something you're not.

But know this--you could walk around every day talking about how much you love to eat pussy--hell, you could fuck a girl right in front of them--and you will never be able to control what people think about you. Especially if they have an idea that their suspicions upset you. Perhaps even the more you try to prove you're not bi/curious/gay, they'll accuse you of it even more.

You are setting yourself up for a life of hiding, lying and pretending. You will lose yourself, and you will end up hating yourself for it.

But hey, as long as everyone else thinks the lie is the truth, that's all the really matters, right?

 

[hanshansen]

You're 25. How close are you to graduation? Do you plan to do post-grad?

You do realise how much energy you're wasting? Reassess your priorities.

 

[Sebazz]

Everyone should read the title of the topic again.

 

[3x3is9]

The best way to get them off your back is to stop offering it to them. If you want to play the straight guy part and make it believable, then just stop reacting to their bait. A panicky, defensive reaction says way more then just letting it go. You wouldn't act like that if you didn't have something to hide. If someone claims that you're gay, don't try to convince them otherwise, just ignore it. Or, if it's the case when you have to respond, take it as a joke and play with it. You said it yourself - you're not gay. You won't be lying.

So stop limiting your gal pals, keep dressing well, and start ignoring their comments. These days you can hang out with just girls and be prettier than all of them, and still be as straight as an arrow. All you can do is be yourself - it's up to everyone else to decide how they deal with it.

 

[rareboy]

u should accept who u are and dont care what people think of you, blah blah blah

I think you should be far more interested in what you think of yourself instead of what your classmates think of you.

blah, blah, blah

 

[EvilForce]

ok, so i'm in college, and some of my friends are somewhat suspecting and all that for while, and there's no way i can change their opinions, im bi//curious and there's no way im telling anyone.

because i had a lot of gal friends, and dressed real clean ppl suspect that im gay and ive been really trying to change their point of views. because yes i do care what people think about me. i know its bad but i do.

even though all the rumors and suspecting have low down a little bit, but some people are still immature and being annoying about it.

now i only have like 3 gal friends, and i'm trying to change the way i dress, what else should i do ?

and please dont be well u should accept who u are and dont care what people think of you, blah blah blah, i need like skill. like how i should act, what i should say, what i should respond when people ask if me i'm gay and all that. please please help , i need as much help as possible , this would change my life

Oh my. Silly boy, the whole Rock Hudson, get married, dress and act straight, and lie/deny/be sly schtick is sooooo 1975. No, instead the "in" thing to do is to be uber-gay, camp it up, and move in with a female roomate....one you are secretly in love with, but are only playing gay to get near her. That's the way to be straight in 2008. You could redo your life into one of the movies based on this new idea; maybe "Eating Out", "Three to Tango", or "Chuck and Larry".

That or just tell everyone you're a Republican. Republicans aren't gay. Well, except for Larry Craig. Oh and Mark Foley. Oh... and David Dreier. Ack, I forgot about Ted Haggard too. Hmmm...... maybe this isn't a good plan. But if anything they provide a good role model for you. You can live a "straight life", while having your boys on "the side" in airport bathrooms, underage pages/employees, and male prostitutes.

However, I applaud you in your bold convictions to live a life concerned with what others think about you. Think about how much better off this country would be if Rosa Parks, Mildred Loving, and Harvey Milk type people would have been more concerned with what others thought of them. I mean seriously....how dare they? "Rosa....sit yo ass at the back of the bus and shut up!" People these days have lost respect for the institution of "What will the neighbors think".

 

[954dude]

You need to keep it real! You should be living to please yourself, not others. Thinking like this will keep you unhappy. Stop trying to be something you're not.

 

[G-Lexington]

You could always knock up one of your gal pals.

Lex

 

[EvilForce]

You could always knock up one of your gal pals.

Lex

Excellent advice! I think they call that "pulling a Tom Cruise" in Hollyweird these days.

 

[screwnutty]

ok, so i'm in college, and some of my friends are somewhat suspecting and all that for while, and there's no way i can change their opinions,

....im bi//curious and there's no way im telling anyone.

......even though all the rumors and suspecting have low down a little bit, but some people are still immature and being annoying about it.

Okay well I'm going to call you Sam. Because I just can't refer to anybody as HugeCock. Sorry.

Okay Sam. You've answered your own question in your first sentance. "...there's no way I can change their opinions." There's nothing you can do. Some of the guys have really hit you hard on this question and I'm sorry for that. I know the fear that your going through. Been there. Done that. I know that your scared and freaked out too. But there's no way in God's green earth that your going to get them all to change there opinions. They think your gay. You could go out and become a dad. You could go out and date the hottest girl at your school. You could join the army and play in the mud all day....I don't know what straight guys do for fun! LOL. Point being is that at the end of the day. They will still look at you as "well I think he's gay!"

Really do you want to spend your remaining years on this planet using up your energy trying to get everybody to play ball with you? Those people that are still annoying you and acting immature need to be dealt with....not your bi-curiousity. Why hang out with people that are going to do nothing but make you feel bad and stuff? Your 25 years old. Your highschool days are over. Time to wake up and smell the coffee. Your not a child anymore. Your an adult. This whole game of "I have to be popular!" is such a turn off. Really when you graduate from college, are you really going to see these people in your life again? No. Only the good ones that make an effort to stay in contact with you.

Trust me. After college your friends will be so busy finding a job, getting married, having kids, etc that they'll have there own problems and forget about you and your "oh my god he's gay" or maybe they actually grow up and accept you.

Point is right now. You need to concentrate on finding out who you are. You need to either find a good guy that will understand your fears and help you explore this curiousness that you have or you need to forget about it and get back over on the other side of the fence. Walking a jagged line can get dangerous after away and I don't think you'll survive the stress.

So for right now get out there and find yourself. It's like the old saying.... "Know thy self. Know thy enemy" or something like that!

Good luck Sam.

 

[HugeCock888]

You need to keep it real! You should be living to please yourself, not others. Thinking like this will keep you unhappy. Stop trying to be something you're not.

yeah well pleasing urself is not going to be easy if ppl bashes everyday.

 

[HugeCock888]

you could do like rappers and surround yourself with a gang of drug dealers and ex-cons. works for them, when's the last time you heard somebody out a rapper??

ha funny i live in california, and i really dont think a surfer like me could turn into a rapper , but thanks,

 

[HugeCock888]

You're 25. How close are you to graduation? Do you plan to do post-grad?

You do realise how much energy you're wasting? Reassess your priorities.

i started college late ive only been in for 2 years. i have about 4 more years to go

 

[HugeCock888]

The best way to get them off your back is to stop offering it to them. If you want to play the straight guy part and make it believable, then just stop reacting to their bait. A panicky, defensive reaction says way more then just letting it go. You wouldn't act like that if you didn't have something to hide. If someone claims that you're gay, don't try to convince them otherwise, just ignore it. Or, if it's the case when you have to respond, take it as a joke and play with it. You said it yourself - you're not gay. You won't be lying.

So stop limiting your gal pals, keep dressing well, and start ignoring their comments. These days you can hang out with just girls and be prettier than all of them, and still be as straight as an arrow. All you can do is be yourself - it's up to everyone else to decide how they deal with it.

thanks that prob. one of the closest advice yet. but i need advices like when ppl say some ppl thinks your gay. which is the best way to react to that ?
and i have one gal best friend and the other doesnt matter but i keep seeing myself hang out with a lot of girls and i have all these guy friends that i can hang out with . what can i do to make myself stop drawing into hanging out with girls

 

[HugeCock888]

btw my name is zach

 

[G-Lexington]

Dude, you're in California. You're not going to encounter much homophobia, and you're almost certainly not going to run into any bashing. I'm in Colorado - you know, the hate state? Home of Focus on the Family? And I don't run into any here.

Lex

 

[954dude]

yeah well pleasing urself is not going to be easy if ppl bashes everyday.

I was teased on a daily basis all of elementary and middle school. It hurt, I even went through years of counseling and therapy for depression and anxiety, but I got over it. I was a little kid then, but you're in your 20's. You can put people in their place and deal with a little "bashing".

 

[screwnutty]

yeah well pleasing urself is not going to be easy if ppl bashes everyday.

Life isn't easy. Let the idiots say whatever they want. Trust me. Your friends....your good friends will come to your defence. Plus if that avatar picture is you...then you look quite equipped to handle yourself in a fight.

Anyways about stopping girls from hanging out with you. Why would you want to do that. Besides for the usually reasons that you've listed. Girls can be a gay man's best friend. They protect you and look after you.

I know your scared right now. I know you feel alone and that the world you know is crumbling around you because of these idiots that say these things to you and stuff. But trust me. Most people torment others because they know it bugs the person. However the game is over when you admit it. For example. I knew this idiot through a friend of mine. He keep saying that I was gay and sucked dicks etc when I was in the closet. I came out but he didn't know I did. Next time he started at me, I said...up I suck dick. Big juicy penises.....why you want me to suck yours? He got mad and called me (oh no....) a fucking fag. Suddenly to my friend (his friend too) and my other friends. They stood up for me and told him to get lost.

Never say him again and I still hear from my one friend and he's still says he's sorry for that incident. Man...I told him to let it go!

Anyways. It's up to you man. You come to terms when your ready and nobody here is going to make you change your mind. Sorry I can't help you with your current problem!

 

[EvilForce]

If kids/adults don't have your sexuality to make fun of, they'll just pick on something else. Losing your hair. Fat. Skinny. Short. Tall. Stupid. Bookish. The list goes on forever. Who gives a shit what others think? You can't please everyone, ever. But knock yourself out and try I guess.

If they ask if you're gay just tell them how much you love to eat pussy, and your face looks like a glazed donut when you're done licking box. That should make them ill.....errrr...... shut them up.