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Ok so i have a question for all you people who live with roommates and what not....

i live with 2 girls and their bfs are over all the time...it gets a tad annoying because the place isn't that big and 5 of us with 2 dogs can get a little carried away, not to mention when they are there by themselves

i don't know what the normal routine is for people with roommates but should the bfs be over all the time. My best friend, the one whom i feel the most comfortable with has a douche bag of a bf (whole different story) and i don't like him or trust him worth beans....he is over the most, like practicly lives here. I don't understand it at all....like did he get kicked out of his house or what cause he is always here....

the part that pisses me off the most is he doesn't clean up after himself or pay rent so thats even less of a reason for me to tollerate him...if he doesn't pay rent he is a guest....end of story...

anyways he is just over a lot, like right now i just got off work and got home its 2:30 and he is here...my roommate, his gf won't be hope for at least anoter 2 1/2 hours....why does he need to be here? And who knows how long he has been here...i just think its weird and don't feel comfortable with it...

-Chad
 
Talk to your roommate (the female) about it. I wouldn't complain about his presence so much - more about his messiness. Ask her to talk to him about picking up after himself. That's the least he can do.

In regards to him "almost living over there", not much you can do there, I don't think.

Lex
 
I have had roommates and lived with people. This can be a problem but you should have some ground rules. Here are my thoughts. I guess the main thing is - why does he have a key? Only people who pay the rent should have a key. If he wants a key - start paying. To me that means he is a guest - and if he is a guest then why is he there when she isn't? His being there and living there is being subsidised by you - a bill payer. You have to talk to your friends and explain that there are three people on the rent book - not 5!
 
W10 Chubb said:
I have had roommates and lived with people. This can be a problem but you should have some ground rules. Here are my thoughts. I guess the main thing is - why does he have a key? Only people who pay the rent should have a key. If he wants a key - start paying. To me that means he is a guest - and if he is a guest then why is he there when she isn't? His being there and living there is being subsidised by you - a bill payer. You have to talk to your friends and explain that there are three people on the rent book - not 5!
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Well said, but it may creat some tension but you are right and they are wrong. If you all do pay a part the it will benifit all of you as it will be cheaper. But if they dont pay any rent they SHOULD NOT have a key.

If that does not work then find another with less hassle and more privacy that you are entitled to.
 
Take away the emergency key and divide the bills four (or five) ways. This will usually get the point across. If they have a problem with it, it will provide the perfect opportunity for you all to talk and set some ground rules. It's not fair to you and the other roommate who are practically paying for a space three ways that is being used by five people. To me, it's the principal and not the fact you don't want him there.
 
kick his ass out.
no one lives for free.
just saying.
 
Sorry dude, but you are in a no-win situation. You can get a compromise I'm sure, but no end to it. You can ask that he isn't alone in your house, or use the emergency key, but you cannot ask for him not to be there as much. It will blow your friendship apart with your female friend. He's sticking his dick in her, so he will win my friend. It's why you need to establish firm guidelines when you first agree to start living together.

Then again, think of yourself in the same situation. If the boy/dude you love is over at your house all the time, will it bug you? I doubt it. It's nice having your man with you all the time, and don't really give a shit about anyone else.

I had a roomate that would have a slut, cum dumpster over to the house at least 5 or 6 nights a week for almost 2 1/2 years. I never said anything to him about their loud (but lousy) sex. I was dating Eric for about 6 weeks of him being over at most 2 nights a week, before he "needed to discuss our living arrangements with me". I put up with his banging ugly, fat chicks for years virtually every night, but he felt he was entitled to tell me he didn't like hearing 2 dudes go at it after him only being around a handful of times.

I owned the house and paid the mortgage. Needless to say I kicked his ass to the curb. Him, a fat slob fucking ugly chicks, or my 9 1/2" dicked sex god Eric. Um..... pretty easy choice.
 
there should be "rules" for visitors like they can only visit for 1 hour per day maximum.
 
jeep72209 said:
Take away the emergency key and divide the bills four (or five) ways. This will usually get the point across. If they have a problem with it, it will provide the perfect opportunity for you all to talk and set some ground rules. It's not fair to you and the other roommate who are practically paying for a space three ways that is being used by five people. To me, it's the principal and not the fact you don't want him there.
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Yeah, what he said.

EvilForce has some good points, too. You may have to move out.
 
Have you ever considered moving?

If these people don't have enough sense to realize that their BF's do not live there, I doubt they'll respond in a constructive manner if you confront them.

They'll tell their loafer BF's, make you the bad guy and then you'll have 4 people all mad at you in your own home.

Sounds like the beggining of a soap opera. Get out :)
 
^ Agreed. It's four against one. You'll be the one who's "being an asshole" about everything. To their way of thinking, everything's great. So start looking for another place to live.

It's all well and good to say things like "split the bills five ways". But how? You're not a monarch in your home. If you demand they pay more for rent and utilities, they can just say "no".

Lex
 
Huntneo said it exactly right...
You need to find new roomates or find yourself a new place to live.
It's not fair to you personally or financially to have you living like that.
People will go as far as you let them go with you man. Either lay the law down or move away.
Your roomies don't sound like they really consider your feelings nor thoughts about the situation.
Could be you haven't made yourself clear.
All in all my friend, it's totally up to you. Take it, change it, or leave it.
I wish you the best.
And hope you let us know how it all shakes out.
 
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