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Saying No to Dating a Bi Guy ?

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seth1979

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Hey I'm in need of some advice I've dated a few guys that were Bi in the past before and it just has never seemed to work out. Anyhow I was wondering do you think it would be wrong to say on a date if I find out someone is Bi to just say no thanks see ya later. I just think after 2 of them left me for a woman it isn't worth it.
 
Well see that is why I wonder but even though they both have admitted to leaning more toward the gay side it seems they are just in it for the sex so why even try with them ?
 
seth1979 said:
Anyhow I was wondering do you think it would be wrong to say on a date if I find out someone is Bi to just say no thanks see ya later.
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i dont know about wrong... it certainly would be stupid, but i guess its your loss.

however, if this really is a dealbreaker for you, i would make sure your potential dates arent bi before you go on a date.
 
I hate to burst your bubble, seth1979, but a lot of gay guys are just in it for the sex too.

It is kind of sad really, but it doesn't have much to do with bisexuality or homosexuality.
 
So what I'm getting from this thread is that everyone pretty much sucks, but in their own way.

It's the person who's bad/good, not their orientation.
 
elvin1 said:
Sorry, but why is it worse if a guy leaves you for a woman?
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For a lot of gay guys it is worse (myself included). I personally would be hurt a hell of a lot more if I saw my ex walking down the street hand-in-hand with his new wife and she's seven months pregnant than if I were to see him walking down the street hand-in-hand with his boyfriend.

To be honest, unless we have experienced it ourselves, we're all fooling ourselves if we say the feeling would be the same.
 
seth1979 said:
Hey I'm in need of some advice I've dated a few guys that were Bi in the past before and it just has never seemed to work out. Anyhow I was wondering do you think it would be wrong to say on a date if I find out someone is Bi to just say no thanks see ya later. I just think after 2 of them left me for a woman it isn't worth it.
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By your logic you shouldn’t date gay men either. Chances are they will leave you too for another. Most relationships end.
 
Thynight said:
By your logic you shouldn’t date gay men either. Chances are they will leave you too for another. Most relationships end.
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All relationships end, in fact.

(or do you go in for that mormon eternal polygamy "sealing" stuff???)

The trick is, if you want a lifelong relationship, that's possible with a bi guy who has his head together and knows what he wants.
 
bankside said:
All relationships end, in fact.

(or do you go in for that mormon eternal polygamy "sealing" stuff???)

The trick is, if you want a lifelong relationship, that's possible with a bi guy who has his head together and knows what he wants.
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I thought people would be smart enough to understand I wasn't talking about the afterlife. I was wrong. Maybe next time I will take it to the pinpoint.
 
I've seen a LOT of gay/bisexual relationships in my years.

Many of them.

But every single one has ended with the bi guy revealing that he had started dating a girl so he could bring women to public/work and family events. But virtually all of the time the bi guy wanted to keep having sex with the gay guy on the side.

Hey, my Bisexual ExBF asked me to be the best man at the wedding to the girlfriend that I didn't know he had.

Are they all like this? Probably not. Just all the ones I've met.
 
JasunStrikesBack said:
I've seen a LOT of gay/bisexual relationships in my years.

Many of them.

But every single one has ended with the bi guy revealing that he had started dating a girl so he could bring women to public/work and family events. But virtually all of the time the bi guy wanted to keep having sex with the gay guy on the side.

Hey, my Bisexual ExBF asked me to be the best man at the wedding to the girlfriend that I didn't know he had.

Are they all like this? Probably not. Just all the ones I've met.
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That's pretty much my experience. Bi-guy goes bye bye to be with new g/f or wive to have 2.2 kids in the suburbs with a white picket fence but is all about kickin it on the downlow.

There is a reason many of us have an unbreakable rule never to date bi guys. Sex? Sure. But dating? Never. Not for me.
 
While I may be naive in saying this...

The only reason in saying no to someone who is bisexual is if you feel you're too insecure for that (meaning: you're scared they'd leave you for a woman more easily than a man). You can't exactly judge each person based solely on the fact that they say they're bisexual.

EDIT: I should probably rephrase that last sentence: I meant that they say they're bisexual but may not be, seeing as a lot of gay men say they're bisexual before they come out as completely gay.
 
lucky7 said:
guess you have bad luck.
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yeah. that must be it.

And every one of my friends over the last 20-odd years that I've been out who've dated bi men have ALSO just had bad luck.


Btw, a lot of "gay" guys are actually bi. There are many gay guys who have at least some attraction to women but just label themselves gay. Looking at this thread.... I see why :rolleyes:
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Oh please. Cry me a fucking river.
 
lucky7 said:
Ok i'll bite
So you're saying of all the successful gay relationships you've ever seen, each member of the relationship was 100% gay? :confused:
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That's exactly what I'm saying, yes.

None of them ever mentioned women, talked about being attracted to women, indicated liking women or were in any way openly bisexual. All have been openly gay.
 
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