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Scare/nervous about my first craigslist meet
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Hi, I hope this is the right section, I'm bi. I'm not open so I looked on craigslist for a guy willing to hook up and i met a really nice guy. Hes genuine and nice, im only looking for the sex (hence hookup... Im such a slut :/ ah well) as is he.
I'm just scared because ive never done this before. Has anyone else ever hooked up with craigslist or any other site? Simmilar experiences? Please share, I'd love to hear. I'm also terrified if anyone ever found out, this would be my first experience with another man.

Thanks for reading! :D i look forward to the helpful responses i know this forum's members give. X
 
Just be careful. Maybe let a friend know you are having company over. Ask him to call in and check on you.
 
Bored19 said:
Just be careful. Maybe let a friend know you are having company over. Ask him to call in and check on you.
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^ This is a very good idea. You don't have to give them details and they will still be able to tell if you're okay or not.

I wouldn't meet up with someone on the intertnet ever, but I'm not jugding you for doing so. lol
 
In the old days tricking or anonymous sex were the equivalents of on- line hook ups. Anytime you are alone with a stranger is cause for being careful. As a matter of course if I were you, I wouldn't allow a stranger to tie me up; I'd watch as any stings were poured or bottles opened; I'd meet in a public place first. I'd have a friend call me at a specific time early into the date so you could make the big escape by telling how this friend needs your help immediately. Keep in mind that this is my paranoia, others may be quite active without incident.
 
soreknees said:
In the old days tricking or anonymous sex were the equivalents of on- line hook ups. Anytime you are alone with a stranger is cause for being careful. As a matter of course if I were you, I wouldn't allow a stranger to tie me up; I'd watch as any stings were poured or bottles opened; I'd meet in a public place first. I'd have a friend call me at a specific time early into the date so you could make the big escape by telling how this friend needs your help immediately. Keep in mind that this is my paranoia, others may be quite active without incident.
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I would advise this as well as the friend check up. Use this to make sure that he is what you expect. People are quite different on the Internet.
 
I'd suggest meeting up in a public place and then heading to a hotel room or something. I would never go back to a stranger's house, nor would I let a "stranger" come to my house (and know where it is). Alternatively, just do it in the car.

Obviously for safety you wouldn't go to their house, but also it means their aren't any hidden cameras or anything so they can post your time online (unless you're into that kind of stuff). Definitely ask someone to check up on you. Don't have to say what reason, just ask them to give you a call later...or something?

Just because he's genuine and nice on the internet, doesn't mean he's not some psychopath in real life. You wouldn't meet up with someone if they were mean, so they have to "lure" you, so to speak. I would be way too paranoid to meet someone from the internet, but that's just me.

Also take a taser.
 
All good advice.
I'll add to give a trusting friend their (hook-ups) contact info, i.e., e-mail, phone number, etc.
Also, sometimes you can tell a lot about a person by how they sound over the phone.
Good luck and play safe.
 
Thanks for the really good advice guys. They've helped a lot, I'll definately have a friend call me and me and hook up will meet in the city centre so its public. He'll take me to his place but i'll be able to get to know him on the way and if I want to pull out I'll tell him in public, before we get to any form of transport.
I've given him my number by email so ill be able to hear how he sounds like before i meet him to make further judgement. Hes come accross as a genuinely nice guy just wanting fun, but i know how the internet works so i'll be cautious.

I'll post updates here as this pans out. Thanks again for the advice, some truly wonderul members here.
 
I have hooked up with guys from Adam4Adam and Manhunt with no problems. I get a face pic and their cell phone number and chat with them a bit to get a feel of what they are like.

I found my current fuck buddy on Adam4Adam. We have been together for four months.
 
I've met up with two guys from gay.com. One was at my house, and the other was at a hotel. The first was hotter than the second (both were just oral, and the first guy was more attractive and better hung.) In both cases, I didn't feel in any danger.
But caution is called for here.
 
I have hooked up with guys off a CL, and never had a problem with safety. The other guy is often more nervous or concerned than I am.....just my experience.
 
cocksucker4use said:
I have hooked up with guys off a CL, and never had a problem with safety. The other guy is often more nervous or concerned than I am.....just my experience.
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Probably because they're married or in a committed relationship.
 
Hey, often that's the case, prolly. NSA offa CL, like a virtual bath house or arcade, but guys feel more comfortable and feel like they know more what's goin on if you have pix and email before hand. Probably the one dude I met up with that was married really just wanted to talk about it....hot guy, kinda sad cuz he was really honest and afraid and confused....didn't mind helping him explore and feel comfortable.
 
soreknees said:
As a matter of course if I were you, I wouldn't allow a stranger to tie me up; I'd watch as any drinks were poured or bottles opened
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Definitely this part! Anytime I go to someone's house, if they offer me a drink I always make sure I watch them open it (if it's a can or bottle of beer) or watch them pour a glass of water. Otherwise, I wouldn't drink it or I would just turn it down. I don't think it's so much being paranoid as it is just being careful. And yeah, I wouldn't let anyone tie me up. Even if that is your kink, at least hold out to after the first few meetings to make sure you can trust the guy.

If you are nervous and you are going to his house to play, always make sure you know where the front door is if he leads you to a back bedroom or someplace not close to the entrance you came in from. I always make it a point to ask, "Is there anyone else here with you?" That usually opens their eyes to let them know you not down for any extra funny business. Like I said, at least not til you've gotten to trust the guy should you choose to come back. Don't let all this scare you if you really are interested in meeting someone to play for the first time. Just use common sense.
 
I'm also wondering the same thing (I wanna try something with a guy) but scared I'll end up with a creep.
 
So sorry for my late reply, i forgot all about this thread!!

Anyway, I ended up meeting the guy and we had the most amazing sex. To put it short, we messdd around, fucked eachother and came on eachother and then we got in his shower to 'clean up' :D

I'm planning on hooking up via craigslist again, already have someone taken an interest. Hes my age this time though.
 
I actually hooked up with the Craigslist killer (Albany and Boston), while he was a student at Albany. I gave him a hot oil massage and jerked him off. I guess I was lucky he only killed women. He was cute as hell too.
 
Glad to hear that all went well ! Just don't get too casual now , do you have " skype " ? its easy to see who you are hooking up with , and less likely for any thing bad if they know you have serious records of contact ,
My first hookup was through a newspaper ( Connections ) long before the internet , i was scared as hell but ended up having an amazing time , my only bad experience ( dissapointment was when i scored a bloke with the hugest cock i've ever seen who came as soon as he put his cock in me and asked me to leave straight away ( i think i still need counceling )
 
write down the phone number, the address, the time & date and put on your desk or bed.

Then visiting their house is fine.
Just be careful and prepare to leave anytime.
 
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