Scared to fuck my boyfriend...

[Gin&Tonic]

Hey guys,

I am having sex with my boyfriend for the first time tonight. We have messed around before, but I could never actually fuck him. Well, we talked about it, and it's all going down (actually, IN) tonight.

I've only had sex with one other guy; and I am a lot less experienced than he is.

I am just scared that I won't be able to get my cock inside him.

Please let me know the best positions... We are both bigger guys (in body size)

Were any of you guys scared to fuck a guy? Is this even a normal anxiety?

 

[joeG23]

Hey man, why be scared. You're into one another. Just enjoy yourselves, see what happens, take it slow, use lots of lube, have a laugh if it does not all go to plan. RELAX. Its more fun learning to get it right than just doing it right. Enjoy and let us know how it went.

 

[Gin&Tonic]

Hey man, why be scared. You're into one another. Just enjoy yourselves, see what happens, take it slow, use lots of lube, have a laugh if it does not all go to plan. RELAX. Its more fun learning to get it right than just doing it right. Enjoy and let us know how it went.

omg, thank you joeG23.... this is exactly what I needed to hear

-hugs-

 

[Kirbster66]

Great advice. I'd add that you should keep the communication open. Ask each other what you want. Watch his eyes as you enter him to see if it hurts or he wants you to thrust in, or whatever.

And I echo the lube comment...lube is your best friend on getting in the hole!

Good luck. We expect a blow by blow description!

 

[Gin&Tonic]

Great advice. I'd add that you should keep the communication open. Ask each other what you want. Watch his eyes as you enter him to see if it hurts or he wants you to thrust in, or whatever.

And I echo the lube comment...lube is your best friend on getting in the hole!

Good luck. We expect a blow by blow description!

hehe, lots of lube: CHECK!

I will most def. post a blow by blow acct... assuming it goes well

 

[thewiz]

Have I been scared? Hell ya!

When I was coming out, it had been after being in a married relationship and trying to be "straight" for 19 years! Hell I hadn't dated let alone had sex.

I went to a bathhouse and met this great guy -- who was a 10th grade teacher at an all boy's school in Chicago! Seeing and feeling a man's body for which I had longed for so many years (and jacked off to in porn for so long!) lol!

I am kind of "thick" and so was worried about getting it in.

Lots of lube. That's the first.

Make out and enjoy and relax...that's the second advice.

You might try using your finger and putting the lube in his hole so you can stretch it out a bit. Start with one finger -- gently -- and work up to two and three. Don't try shoving a fist in him...be gentle! lol!

I have found with the boyfriend that he had to sit on it to get it in; same when I bottom for him. In that way, the bottom controls and can aim the dick as well as take as much (or little) as they want when they want.

Another way is to have him lay on his stomach and lay on top of him. Gently push it in a little at a time.

Enjoy and work up to legs in the air, on the side, and whatever else feels good!

We expect video! lol!

 

[rareboy]

Stop overthinking everything and planning it like a military campaign.

 

[NineOfClubs]

Stop overthinking everything and planning it like a military campaign.

Ah, yes. That's what I did with my first BF. Total performance anxiety.

Eventually all that passed. All the above suggestions are good ones. Esp. lube.

Best of luck!

 

[KaraBulut]

Stop overthinking everything and planning it like a military campaign.

You can still wear the uniforms for fun, though.