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Wow!!! Congratulations!!! Feels wierd now that someone knows, huh?

She said all the right things. Very supportive and caring and understanding. I am really happy for you. Slow down and take a deep breath before taking your next step. Don't overwhelm yourself.

;)
 
Great story, great letter, and great pics. Congrats on the new closer friend.
 
Sorry for reviving an old thread, but I thought I'd update you all about what has happened since.

Since my last post, I didn't really tell anyone else. I worked on writing that letter to my parents though. Once I had that done, I placed it in an envelop and sealed it, ready to be sent. I was going to the US for a holiday in December anyway, so I planned to send it to my parents then.

While I was in the US, I was checking back home to see if the letter had arrived. I even asked my friend to call my parents to check for me. Apparently it was still being delivered. Mum ended up calling me to ask what the letter was about, because she was feeling anxious. So I told her.

She basically told me that she had a feeling that I was when I was young. She hoped that it wasn't true... but now that it is, she just has to accept it. She said that things doesn't change just because I'm gay... that she loves me regardless...

Then I asked about dad, because he has expressed his negative views about gay people in the past. She said that she'll have a talk to him for me and that I shouldn't worry about it.

Came back from the US two weeks ago, and dad seemed calm about it all as well. The first thing he said was that I should always remember that I am his son... and that's the only thing that matters. At one point, he was going through the stages of grief (bargaining).

From what I know, my siblings don't know about it. I will tell them in time. I know they won't be fazed that I am.

Told another one of my Uni friends. She also said that she didn't care that I was gay... I've known her for 4 years now. I told her to pass it on to our friend who she regularly talks to. She was shocked to hear about it. But is also happy for me.

A few of my friends in America were glad to know that I was gay too... In fact, they can't wait for me to return so we could all go shopping. lol

It does get easier for me to tell people with each "outing". But I still get nervous about approaching the topic. I haven't even told my best friend (who I've known since Grade 8). He's another one of those who expressed his not-so-nice views on gay people. I also rarely see him during the year, because he works a lot.

So that's the update so far. Sorry again for reviving this thread.
 
By all means, keep us appraised. Not only are we interested, and we care, but hopefully your story will encourage others to take the trip as well.

Lex
 
Yes, that's great work!! And it does get easier with each one.... not that it is necessarily easy... just easiER.
 
I'm really happy and proud of you. Good work! This is something you needed to do for yourself. I don't think you have to tell everyone about your personal life. After all, everyone has there own little secrets and there is no reason for you to give "Full Disclosure". If someone asks and you want to be honest, great but don't feel obligated to be an open book. I applaud you for comming out, there is nothing more liberating.
 
Thanks guys for your support. It was hard for me to do it (especially to my parents), but I couldn't have done it without you all. I would give special mentions to certain individuals, but I think it's more of a team effort here.

Yes, my parents did get the letter in the end (about a week after I outed myself to them over the phone). I was hoping that the letter did the work for me, but either way the outcome was still positive.
 
Are you still being bothered at work? If so, you need to tell them that you can find your own dates and you don't want to be set up or hear about dating at work.

The problem with working at a school, especially if it's junior high or high school, is that sometimes the staff can get caught up in the mentality of the students! When you work around gossipy high school girls, sometimes the staff catches that horrible habit.
 
Work would be the ones who I would never tell... For one, I work in a Catholic school, so my circumstance is frowned upon... I have seen it first hand that the staff joke around about people who are gay. But I don't think that the reaction would be the same if they knew.

They haven't really been setting me up with anyone, because I pretended that I met someone over there and am planning on moving there to catch up with "her". Another lie, but it's just so that they don't bug me about it. If they ask me more information about her, I just pluck info about other people I know.

So now they're more focused in helping me get a working visa over in the US.
 
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