Sensual erotic massage as first experience?

[loinman]

So I have never been with a guy but have fantasied quite a lot. I have been kind of obsessed with the thought of getting a hot sensual massage from a masseuse I found online, who is extremely hot looking and sounds like a great experience, and I am trying to decide if I should go for it or not. I feel like if I don't that this fantasy will keep driving me crazy!

I am in my late 30s and have been with lots of women, but never been touched by a man. I would consider myself straight, though I have had my own anal play with some toys and often think about sucking cock, or being sucked or even jerked by a guy. The closest I ever came was when my best friend and I double teamed a few girls in my past, and I was pretty turned on by the times our cocks would casually touch, or the time we both stuffed our big cocks in his ex-wife's mouth. We have also mutually jerked-off watching porn, but neither of us ever touched the other; it was all straight.

Just wanted to get some opinions and advice!

 

[JNewYork]

Go for it. Nothing to lose.

You simply disrobe and lie down and the dude with rub your back. Lastly he'll probably whack you off. If when that happens you feel nervous, simply close your eyes.

There's nothing to it.

 

[onetwothreefour]

So I have never been with a guy

I don't know if I'd say that

but have fantasied quite a lot. I have been kind of obsessed with the thought of getting a hot sensual massage from a masseuse I found online, who is extremely hot looking and sounds like a great experience, and I am trying to decide if I should go for it or not. I feel like if I don't that this fantasy will keep driving me crazy!

I am in my late 30s and have been with lots of women, but never been touched by a man. I would consider myself straight, though I have had my own anal play with some toys and often think about sucking cock, or being sucked or even jerked by a guy. The closest I ever came was when my best friend and I double teamed a few girls in my past, and I was pretty turned on by the times our cocks would casually touch, or the time we both stuffed our big cocks in his ex-wife's mouth. We have also mutually jerked-off watching porn, but neither of us ever touched the other; it was all straight.

I don't know if I'd say it was *all* straight

Just wanted to get some opinions and advice!

 

[youngnihilist]

Sure, why not, be aware that sensual massage is often just getting jerked off. You seem to want the whole package where you may be better off hiring an escort instead.

 

[Thumper01]

Hey! Loinman!

If you are looking for a woman to give you a massage, she is a masseuse.

If you are looking for a man, he is a masseur.

Read the vocabulary in the ads carefully. You might end up with less than you expected.

Thumper01

 

[loinman]

Thanks for the input. Still haven't had the massage but am going for it.

 

[mbamike]

You are substituting the massage from a man with what you really crave, gay sex. You are in denial that you may actually be gay or bi. That is OK. I was there once myself.

I am a much older than you. I had my first gay sex about two years ago. It was the best sex of my life! And yes, I have had sex with women while living straight.

I wish you well on your journey. Just be true to yourself.

 

[mj2006a]

Late 30's. What the fuck is with this age. Around 38, it is like a mask is taken off and we start living the second half of our lives in a total different way. Our initial strength totally shattered and we "suddenly" give into our years-old fantasies. It has happened to me and many other guys that I have talked to. Deep inside you are longing to touch a guy, who knows suck or go all the way. There is a progression in all this. I know this much: once you try it, and the cap off the pressure cook is released, it is tough to return and NEVER do it again. Sex with men has been the best sex in my life, kissing a man is one of the best experiences I have and returning to my "straight" life has just proven to be agonizing and hard. Be ready for the battle if you want to continue labeling yourself "straight".

 

[HunterM]

Let us know how it went. Don't skip details. lol

 

[mbamike]

Late 30's. What the fuck is with this age. Around 38, it is like a mask is taken off and we start living the second half of our lives in a total different way. Our initial strength totally shattered and we "suddenly" give into our years-old fantasies. It has happened to me and many other guys that I have talked to. Deep inside you are longing to touch a guy, who knows suck or go all the way. There is a progression in all this. I know this much: once you try it, and the cap off the pressure cook is released, it is tough to return and NEVER do it again. Sex with men has been the best sex in my life, kissing a man is one of the best experiences I have and returning to my "straight" life has just proven to be agonizing and hard. Be ready for the battle if you want to continue labeling yourself "straight".

MJ you are right! I have met a number of guys who lived there whole lives as straight, got married, had kids, etc. Then later in life, they began exploring their gay sexual interests and loved in, myself included.

 

[loinman]

Thanks for the comments and I will share the experience once it happens.

 

[loinman]

One more question...Are most of the "sensual" massages done where the masseur is nude or clothed? Is there mutual touching involved?

 

[AlmondMilk]

Well, I've only had one sensual massage. I asked him about what his restrictions were, and he said he didn't mind if I touched him. He politely asked me to disrobe and if I'd be ok if he disrobed as well.

His massage was awesome and last quite long. The sensual part was just a nice way to tie in everything together ;D

Have fun with it!

 

[OpenlyClosed]

So what is the deal with all these masseur/bodywork ads? Are they just covers for escorts, or what?

I am in roughly the same place as the first poster, although in my late 20s rather than 30s and have similar questions.

 

[loinman]

I haven't tried it out yet, but I think there is a difference between an escort and a sensual masseur.

 

[Charmander]

I have gotten a few massages from Craigslist... for free. They are usually older ones or in remoter locations that do it for free though.

 

[loinman]

I appreciate the comments. I don't think I am in denial however. I am struggling a bit with pulling the trigger, yes. I do have fantasies about getting a massage and having a hot naked guy jerk me off and possibly rub his naked body and hard cock over me. I think I am definitely bi, or "bi curious." I don't really care about the labels. I am more concerned with the possibility that I might like being with the man more than a woman.

 

[loinman]

no one has any massage experiences they want to share?

 

[Suburbanite]

I got a rub and tug from a guy on Craig's List about seven years ago. He was 60 (I was 26) and was primarily straight. He was divorced with kids and grandkids and I think had only begun exploring his attraction to men relatively recently. It wasn't a bad experience, but it wasn't that hot, and I finally had to jerk myself off. He wasn't that great at blowjobs or tugjobs, and he was a little too matter-of-fact about the whole thing. It wasn't erotic at all. I was hoping the experience would feel like one of the fantasies I had about my doctors and coaches when I was a teenager, and was really turned on going into it. I was hoping he'd strip me or tell me to take my clothes off in some sexy way, but instead he just tossed his own clothes off as soon as we were in the room and told me I could put mine on the bed by the massage table. He'd sent me a nude photo from the front that was rather sexy, but when I saw his saggy ass, I thought there was no way I was getting hard (I was hitting the gym a lot in those days). I think it would have been hotter if he'd kept his clothes on and made a bigger deal about getting mine off me.

I almost thought I couldn't go through with it, but once we started it was fine. I was on my front to begin with and he covered me in oil and rubbed me everywhere. It was the only massage I've ever had so I don't have anything to compare it to, but I hope that there are much better ones to be had. It was nice enough, but not heavenly. He then had me turn over and massaged me from head to toe before going for my dick. He was good-humored about the fact that I wasn't cumming and kept trying heroically before I took matters into my own hands while he watched and tweaked my nipples.

So, loinman, even though my experience was disappointing, it wasn't at all scarring or regrettable. You clearly don't have this fantasy out of your system (did you ever meet that other guy?) so I say go for it! Maybe correspond with your guy more than I did mine, so you can get more of a sense of whether or not you're going to turn each other on. If I was in LA, I'd jump at the chance to go to town on a late-30s stud