Serious Question. Serious Answers.

[rossignols]

Hey Guys, this is my first post so bare with me.

Here's the Question:

If you had the chance, for some odd reason, to stop being Gay, and turn heterosexual?

I am gay, i love men, because thats just how I am, But if i had the magical ability to become staight I would. No more worries about coming out, being abused mentally and physically etc......

What would you guys do, I want your honest opinion.

 

[WYSIWYG]

I like who I am. If I had the chance to turn hetero, forget it. Besides my bf would be pissed and very unhappy!

 

[NotDarkYet]

Nah, I wouldn't want to change my sexuality just for a more convenient life. There's plenty of things about me besides being gay that make me 'different' from the 'average' person, and although those things have often caused me all sorts of problems in the past, I'm starting to realise that these differences are actually assets and are part of who I am. After years of depression I feel like I'm starting to actually like who I am; I'm proud of my eccentricities and differences.

 

[gabriel1]

I would stay as I am, because from what I see the hetero world is more screwed up than we are.

 

[Soilwork]

yeah... all straight people are happy and all gay people are miserable.

Too many gay guys blame their unhappiness on being gay because it's easier than actually addressing the issues in their lives that need to be addressed.

No, I would never turn straight. Being gay is WAY more fun.

 

[Soilwork]

while trying to understand your post, Soilwork dropped dead of an aneurysm.

 

[Soilwork]

um... I understand what you mean although I think you're wrong.

How's that?

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>If you had the chance, for some odd reason, to stop being Gay, and turn heterosexual?

That's a conditional, not a question.

I'm assuming you mean "If you had the chance to turn straight, WOULD YOU?"

No.

Maybe way back when I first was discovering my sexuality, I would've thought about it. But I've spent almost 20 years as an out-of-the-closet homosexual, I've settled down with a wonderful man, and my life has never been better. How the hell would "going straight" help at all?

Lex

 

[M4P]

I am who I am and I don't believe in messing with what God created

 

[holycrap]

i would turn straight if i could

 

[Soilwork]

i would turn straight if i could

no judgements (exactly) but why is that?

How do you think your life would be better if you were straight?

 

[-live-]

As I dont have the guts to come out, id rather be straight right now. But sure get over it one day.

 

[JustForSee]

i wouldn't.

with all the issues and things that goes along with it, i don't feel the need to change my sexuality.

 

[holycrap]

no judgements (exactly) but why is that?

How do you think your life would be better if you were straight?

because gay world are so fucked up anyway. either sex, or fooling around...have you seen any relationship last for more then a year, if there is, 2 or 3 ? yes i know, some has last for 10 or 20 or years and years.

but, gay life are so fucked up for me...

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>because gay world are so fucked up anyway. either sex, or fooling around...have you seen any relationship last for more then a year, if there is, 2 or 3 ? yes i know, some has last for 10 or 20 or years and years

Mine, for instance. OK, we just hit the nine-year mark, but still.

I think you're judging homosexuality by a small subset of it. Similar to going to a swinger's club and thinking that's what the straight lifestyle is all about.

Lex

 

[rossignols]

Everyone has a different perspective on this issue. I am from a small town of about 600 + and its 100 % anti gay. If someone ever found out i was gay, i would be subjected to a lot of discrimination and abuse. That is why sometimes, I wish i was straight.

 

[ilikefastcars]

I would choose to be straight if I could, but ONLY for my parents.

 

[iah822003]

If someone discovered and invented a way to rewrite any part of your genetic makeup that would turn anyone into something they'd rather be with no side effects, fat to thin, short to tall, dumb to smart, gay to straight etc, if only to make our lives just that little bit easier, I'm sure most people would take it. However until then, people will still bit restricted by the genetic makeup they were born with and will just have to learn to live with it.

 

[luminum]

An old topic, but I'll give the same answer:

If being straight meant that I still was the same person I'm proud to be today, then it wouldn't really matter if I was gay or straight. if it meant I was a different person, then certainly not. Being gay was probably integral to my sense of self, empathy, confidence, and perception of what is and isn't "right" and "wrong". Being on the fringe or marginalized or a minority helps you see what is status quo and what is a basic lesson of life.

Being gay and being straight are about as integral as how you identify with your gender. Asking if someone would rather be a boy or a girl is just as loaded as asking them if they'd rather be gay or straight. Would straight me be as different as girl me would be?

 

[M4P]

because gay world are so fucked up anyway. either sex, or fooling around...have you seen any relationship last for more then a year, if there is, 2 or 3 ? yes i know, some has last for 10 or 20 or years and years.

but, gay life are so fucked up for me...

I see a lot of untidy straight yards out there so I think this is an unfair generalization

Mine, for instance. OK, we just hit the nine-year mark, but still.

I think you're judging homosexuality by a small subset of it. Similar to going to a swinger's club and thinking that's what the straight lifestyle is all about.

Lex

My guy and I got together Dec 1996, moved in together Dec 1997 and have lived in monogamous bedded bliss ever since. We have many friends and there are a lot of others we know of who've had the same success

Please don't paint us all with the same worn out brush