Serious question

[justanothershyguy]

I'm only saying that as the title because that's the only thing I can think of that.

First, I've been here before but I finally signed up today so that I could ask this (more or less) anonymously.

With that said, I have learned a lot about myself lately and I'm starting to come to terms about it. That's not the point of this post, though.

The point is, I was recently on Twitter (to which I follow sports teams/players and media) just for something to get me through the afternoon. One media member I follow posted a link about someone who happens to be a student athlete at the university I graduated from this past Spring. After I clicked on the name, I got this weird feeling in my stomach (butterflies, maybe? I don't really know) and I started reading about what this person had to say.

After a while, I still had that feeling in my stomach and I've been sitting here this afternoon, just thinking. What should I do. I didn't get any inclinations about his sexuality, but I don't think he appears to have any significant other. I have a lot in common with him, and I'd really like to meet him. I've never met this person before and I've never, ever felt like this about anyone.

I have a friend who I met in college who appears to know him, should I ask her about him?

I understand this is probably weird to some people, but right now I'd just like some answers/suggestions/comments. I'm sure it's just a crush, but I've never been in a relationship with anyone, so I don't really know.

Thanks everyone. If it's confusing, just ask a question and I'll try to clarify. There's a lot going through my head right now.

 

[justanothershyguy]

Also, it might be worth noting that I am not a risk-taker. Signing up for the site was opening the box. Posting here was stepping way out of the box for me. Please take that into consideration with your thoughts. This is all new to me and I just want my head to be all cleared up.

 

[Benvolio]

I think you should go ahead and contact him, if that is the question. But are you sure it is him? If he is a handsome, prominent student athlete, as you seem to imply, how likely would he be in this position? I would go ahead, but be wary of a possible trick.

 

[justanothershyguy]

Thanks for the reply. I wouldn't exactly say he's a prominent student athlete. I didn't know who he was when I was there (I only graduated in the Spring as I mentioned, and it appears that there were 2 years overlap).

Should I ask that friend if she know's anything about him or just take the risk with him?

 

[Benvolio]

I think you should ask her.

 

[Seasoned]

It's an obvious crush because you are past due when it comes to experimenting. At least that would be my guess. I say go for it, but though your friend.

Crushes serve a purpose. They point us in the general direction of where we should be heading. Oftentimes the object of the crush is uncontainabl, but, nonetheless, tells us the type of person to which we are attracted. If nothing happens try to examine what it is about this guy that caused you to be interested.

 

[justanothershyguy]

Thanks everyone who commented, those were the answers I was really hoping to see.

I talked to my friend (without liquid courage) and she was totally cool about all of it. She didn't know for sure about the guy, but said she had her suspicions. She was really cool about it and said everything that I was hoping for (minus the fact she didn't know if he was gay or not).

If anyone else has anymore ideas at this point, I'd be glad to hear them! As for now, though, the crush is on hold. Thanks again!

~Matt