serious relationship

[SilverRRCloud]

Nope. It is not you.

You seem to be more inclined towards creating LTR as opposed to 'playing field'. It is just who you are and there are many men, regardless of age and looks, who have similar inclinations.

Other guys are more into 'playing the field'. It is just who they are. Neither of the two is 'right' or 'wrong' in any way.

I tend to believe that it is only very human to desire something that is more difficult to achieve as opposed to desiring something that is within your reach.

At your age, for most men, it is simple and easy to 'play the field'. Relationships among other things require maturity, which sometimes, certainly not always, comes with age.

You ought to do what you feel is right for you.

SC

 

[smakelijkus]

No, by no means to all gay guys want to fuck lots of other guys (although many do). I was exactly like you two years ago and now, at 25, I'm engaged to my Dutch 27yo boyfriend (who is also like us). The question is where to look. Generally not in bars or on web sites that exist for hook-ups. Join some clubs, play some sports, meet people through friends, but don't try too hard. Just be yourself and pursue your goals. He's out there...there's NO doubt.

 

[freekyguy]

No, by no means to all gay guys want to fuck lots of other guys (although many do). I was exactly like you two years ago and now, at 25, I'm engaged to my Dutch 27yo boyfriend (who is also like us). The question is where to look. Generally not in bars or on web sites that exist for hook-ups. Join some clubs, play some sports, meet people through friends, but don't try too hard. Just be yourself and pursue your goals. He's out there...there's NO doubt.

I like your advice.

 

[Nonimus]

Join the que hun - right behind me!

 

[middlestev]

I want the same thing! I haven't had a boyfriend in a while now.

 

[luminum]

Nope. I'm 19 and all I'm looking for is a serious relationship. Unfortunately, not a lot of other guys seem to be looking for that...

 

[smile86]

nope it's not just you.

after my first relationship ended in heartbreak -({|= !!) i slept around because i really didn't believe there was a relationship out there and that it was either casual sex or nothing. yes i did enjoy the sex but i didn't like having to say goodbye to person after person and i knew then that a relationship would probably suit me better, i just still didn't believe that anyone would be interested.

don't believe that! i'm in a relationship now, i love it and i love him!

it's not just you so keep looking

 

[dcmorgan]

I find that I don't necessarily want something *serious*, just something *regular*. I don't feel the need to get heavily involved, but to have fun with one person you fancy rather than 40 random gnats is always preferable. I think.

As you can see, you're not the odd one out for not wanting to play around.

 

[dw8038r2]

I respect people who care enough about themselves and others not to be promiscuous.

 

[cozmik]

Definitely not just you. I think that in our age group it's more difficult to find though.

 

[micklader]

Don't worry about being the odd one out - I'm 19 (almost 20) and not looking to be promiscuous. Wish there were more people like you around where I am!

Just like the idea of something more stable and someone I could rely on I guess.

 

[luminum]

Don't worry about being the odd one out - I'm 19 (almost 20) and not looking to be promiscuous. Wish there were more people like you around where I am!

Just like the idea of something more stable and someone I could rely on I guess.

I hear that.

 

[jwest]

its definetly not just you...im 23 too, and ive been in a serious relationship... there are lots of other people looking for the same thing you are, just look harder

 

[Soilwork]

Of course not.

I have a BF, and have for most of my adult life.

 

[Aaron]

I feel the exact same way. You're not the only one.

 

[ronboy]

When I got together with my boyfriend, he was 26, and looking to be in an LTR. I was 32, and definitely wanting to settle down.

There's nothing wrong with the "party lifestyle" when you are a gay man who is looking for fun, casual sex and excitement.

By the same token, there's nothing wrong with finding the one person who want to make a life with, and building that life with them. That's what my Dave and I did.

 

[Johnny Yen]

Not just you. Lots of us. I just takes some longer than other. I had to kiss a lot of frogs to find my prince, but I did, and we are together 12 years now.

The real test is how long you stick with your prince once he's turned back into a frrog...

 

[iflookscouldkill]

It's not just you...I'm 19 and feel the exact same way

 

[thehayesman]

^ Awk! There's that bunny again.

I agree. If I start a relationship I want to know the person, to have it last and be romantic for at least a while. Like 6months to a year. I guess I'll know when I'm ready to stay together longer. I don't believe in being promiscuous, though. I've heard lots of dissapointing stories about it, my faith is against it, and I think a guy should respect himself enough to "hold out" and not give away intimacy to anybody.

BTW, me and a guy I met, see Out&Relationships forum, met for a 3rd(?) date with some of my friends. Having a great time. I decided I would start kissing now, slowly.

 

[cocktales]

A truly commendable quality........that of wanting love vs sex!

Hey, nothing's wrong with the complete package either ya know....

Let's hope though that the person you end up with has "sowed-all-his-wild-oats", so to speak and NOT flighty, out looking for the boys while pretending to be the love of your life!!

Hopefully, while in our youth, ALL our fetishes are expelled and we are ready for the LTR at the same time as your partner; for if NOT, there will be trouble in music city!!

You will find that as you grow old(er) with your partner, the lustful/sexual phase will diminish some-what; but the true love will remain and you will be left with a wonderful man you wish to spend all eternity with.....

Here's wishing ALL of you the best of luck finding what I found years ago and cherish every single day of my life, with the man of my life!!!