seriously in need =/

[higuys]

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ok... well first off i have no clue what to do. to start off im gay and only three people know(my bestfriends don't even know) well this is my first year in college and i want to enjoy it and be myself but i don't know if i can. i mean i can't tell my bestfriend... i've known her since 2nd grade and i would'nt know what she would do and i kinda don't want to cause i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know... i also can't tell my roommate well just cause i don't want to make things akward you know and yeah... it's really hard and confusing. so please tell me what you think... it will really really help.

 

[ElMmSM]

You're 21, friends with your bestfriend since 2nd grade, chances are she already knows, or if she doesnt, probably wont freak out. So tell her if you feel comfortable.

 

[Kadratis]

^ I agree fully with El. You should at least tell someone, hun.

 

[mcdaddy]

Concerning the roommate, I know how you feel. Seriously...I wouldn't worry about it. My roommate's straight. I'm not. I told him last year. I asked him if he cared. He didn't. Hasn't changed a thing.

 

[JackFTwist]

and i kinda don't want to cause i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know...

I'd think about that -seriously friend, you will make your life hell if you knowing you are gay marry a woman - now marrying a guy and having kids, that's cool - but you should be an envisioning a future where you will be happy, not one that will be the worst possible for everyone involved

 

[boy0boy]

I did that.. started college as "straight." My roomate was even "bi" and asked what I was... of course I told him straight.

Lets just say.. after the first semester I decided to come out. The whole reason of me attending that school was to be with my friend who went there. And I knew her for years and when I finally somewhat told her, nothing changed.. we're still great friends.

I know where you are right now. It sucks, wondering and questioning. At least you're on this site... I went through that stage all by myself. As for the family thing.. what finally got me to get past that hurdle. YOU CAN BE GAY AND HAVE A FAMILY TOO.

YOU CAN HAVE BOTH. It all depends on how hard you are willing to try. You can get kids in many ways and still have a family, if it means that much to you, then you will make it happen. That helped me when I was finding myself.

best wishes

 

[higuys]

thanks... this really helps alot.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

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ok... well first off i have no clue what to do. to start off im gay and only three people know(my bestfriends don't even know) well this is my first year in college and i want to enjoy it and be myself but i don't know if i can. i mean i can't tell my bestfriend... i've known her since 2nd grade and i would'nt know what she would do and i kinda don't want to cause i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know... i also can't tell my roommate well just cause i don't want to make things akward you know and yeah... it's really hard and confusing. so please tell me what you think... it will really really help.

Are you in need of some hot sex or are you in need of broadcasting your sexual orientation?

Your best friend, a girl, won't do. I also do not see her delivering a dude of your dreams straight to your bedroom, so that you can have your wicked ways with him. Hey, maybe I am wrong? Do YOU see that happening?

Telling some or even all of your friends that you are gay, won't help you get your rocks off in the least. Sure, they may or may not tell you that someone you know is gay, too. That in itself, useful as this info may be, is still miles away from actually landing that dude into your bed, even if he liked you and even if you liked him.

Do not fool yourself. If you need a BF, FB or just a ONS to get your rocks off, you must get going and hunt your dude down.

Coming out won't do it for you. You have to do it for yourself.

Do. Don't talk.

SC

 

[eat-my-goal]

to get married despite being gay is selfish to the woman you marry imo, if you are gay then there is no way you can love her like you should.

just my opinion anyways

 

[Oden_grey]

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ok... well first off i have no clue what to do. to start off im gay and only three people know(my bestfriends don't even know) well this is my first year in college and i want to enjoy it and be myself but i don't know if i can. i mean i can't tell my bestfriend... i've known her since 2nd grade and i would'nt know what she would do and i kinda don't want to cause i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know... i also can't tell my roommate well just cause i don't want to make things akward you know and yeah... it's really hard and confusing. so please tell me what you think... it will really really help.

Well if you want to be gay, then you can't be a family man because most states don't award parental rights to gay couples.

Besides this, you are really at a fine time in your life to explore your sexual orientation. If you are even marginally attractive then perhaps you'll get hit on, have a hook-up (or three) or even have a boyfriend by senior year... that is if you don't waste your time staying in the closet. You don't even have to be totally out either... you can come out to your folks when you are ready but you can be totally out at school and not face some of the negative repercussions at home... that is, if your university is far away from home.

I think if your friend is liberal enough coming out to her is not going to be a problem... test the waters by asking her about her feelings on gays. I think the same thing goes for prospective roommates. A friend of mine from high school (an evengelical christian) was roomates with an openly gay guy... boy was it funny just the hilarity that went along with that pairing... they actually got along pretty well... except when they got into it with religion or politics.

I think being out gives you the most opportunity for meeting other gays... especially if you go to your university's LGBT chapter... it might get you the connections you need to meet other gay students your age.

Good luck.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>to start off im gay and...i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know...

Yes, you don't know. But you're gonna need to start figuring it out. Because there's nothing more selfish and hurtful than being gay, but marrying a woman just because "you want to". It's not good for you, it's horrible for the woman, and it's probably worse for the kids.

You're in college now. Time to start growing up. That means taking responsibility, owning up to who you are and what you do. If you're pretty sure you're gay, start coming out. Tell your best friend. If you're not entirely sure yet, tell your best friend that you're not entirely sure yet. (Odds are she knows that.) Look into the LGBT group(s) on campus. They'll have orientation or "first timers" meetings. Go. Get yourself educated. That's what college is all about, after all.

Lex

 

[dairyking469]

OMG, I totally know exactly what you are going through!

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ok... well first off i have no clue what to do. to start off im gay and only three people know(my bestfriends don't even know) well this is my first year in college and i want to enjoy it and be myself but i don't know if i can. i mean i can't tell my bestfriend... i've known her since 2nd grade and i would'nt know what she would do and i kinda don't want to cause i want to get married one day and have kids but i don't know... i also can't tell my roommate well just cause i don't want to make things akward you know and yeah... it's really hard and confusing. so please tell me what you think... it will really really help.

 

[rareboy]

You're seriously in need of some introspection to sort out whether you just want sex with anything that has a heartbeat or whether you are mature enough to handle relationships as well. jk jk jk