Sex drive is gone?

[LuckysRevenge]

Need some advice and maybe someone here can help.

I'm a heathy guy, just turned 28. A lot has happened this year. Stress with school. Dating. Family. Work. I also suffer from depression and anxiety but I take medication for it and was seeing a counselor for much of the year.

The problem is my sex drive has completely died in the last few weeks. I still get the urge to watch porn. And I jerk off. But it's tough to stay hard and sex is really not an option. I have really intense anxiety and I think the anxiety about my sex drive and performance makes it worse. But I thought it would pass or get better with time. So far, nothing is changing.

Is there anything I can do? I don't have a doctor or therapist I can go to and feel comfortable talking about this.

 

[bankside]

Maybe it's stress/medication/depression.

But losing interest in sex for a couple of weeks is one of those "welcome to adulthood after puberty" things. Look into it if weeks turn into months, but nothing bad will happen if you take a few weeks off, and horniness comes and goes anyway. Usually comes (hah), but once in a while it goes...

 

[LuckysRevenge]

I guess the scary part is the sudden drop off. I've been taking the same meds for years.

And 7 months ago I had to jerk off several times a day to keep my head straight. Now I don't even feel like doing it once.

 

[sixthson]

Stress can lead to dysfunction in this area. The dysfunction then leads to worry. Stress and worry can be deadly to the sex drive. You worry that your penis has given up on you or that it is permanent. If you pause to think about it, you know this is just not true.
Your libido is responding to stress, worry, fear, overwork, troubled relationships, etc, just like it responds to sexual stimulation, only in a negative way. Some people respond to stress and worry by losing their appetite or insomnia or depression. An altered sex drive happens to be your response.
Has this happened before? When deep in depression, what happened to your sex drive? Were you ever hyper-sexual during these times?

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Stress can lead to dysfunction in this area. The dysfunction then leads to worry. Stress and worry can be deadly to the sex drive. You worry that your penis has given up on you or that it is permanent. If you pause to think about it, you know this is just not true.
Your libido is responding to stress, worry, fear, overwork, troubled relationships, etc, just like it responds to sexual stimulation, only in a negative way. Some people respond to stress and worry by losing their appetite or insomnia or depression. An altered sex drive happens to be your response.
Has this happened before? When deep in depression, what happened to your sex drive? Were you ever hyper-sexual during these times?

Hmm. It depends. Sometimes my drive goes down. But sometimes my behavior is more impulsive so it's tough to tell.

And worrying about libido and performance is something that came up first about 6 months ago. So i might have lost sex drive in the pat but this is the first time I've worried about not getting or keeping it up. And maybe the first time I've had this particular convergence of different stressors across different dimensions.

 

[Benvolio]

Lay jacking off for awhile and let your libido build up.

 

[peeonme]

I just went through this, I was on a supplement the Dr. told me to take called Methyl CpG, after a few weeks I lost sex drive, then I had trouble with erections and finally I had nothing going on.
I skipped the supplement for a few days (I wouldn't try this with a prescription med.) I noticed that the headaches were gone and today I was able to masturbate after about a week of no action.
I have had this happen before, sometimes for no reason that I am aware of, I found that worrying if I could do it was anathema to doing it.
I found that by just having some alone time while looking at porn or reading erotica with no goal of obtaining an orgasm or even working towards one relaxed me enough to do the deed.
Sometime just paying attention to our member and not monitoring his response is what is needed.

 

[ndavies]

Stress and meds can be a libido killer.

My husband lost a very close member of his family and his sex drive dropped to near zero for a LONG time, nearly a year. He isn't on any meds, though he probably could use a low dose SSRI if he could tolerate them, which he can't. Most times when he gets stressed, even the mention of penis or ass or a gesture or touch almost makes him angry like it's a dirty word or bad thing. During that year mourning period, he would go in cycles of jacking off, but not sex. Things are better now.

I'm farily well adjusted, on meds, and stresses can and do cause me to lose all desire for anything. It's just gone. Might be a day or a few weeks. At the present moment, despite a lot of stress going on in our lives, my husband and I are synced on hyper-sex mode. We are both enjoying it while it lasts.