Sex In Public Park Restrooms...

[tbonez]

Public places and almost getting caught is my biggest fantasy. I would go 10 times in a row, with some random stranger if i could.

About getting caught: There is a park in Oakville where we used to play football when I was a wee twink. (Shell Park, bet some of you locals know it! ) A few times (years ago) the police set up sting operations and busted guys bobbing on knobs. Almost all were married and most had kids. Their names were published in the local paper as soon as they were charged (The Oakville Beaver, no less).

A few committed suicide, All were eventually acquitted (the police broke the law) most had their lives ruined. Imagine being the wife of the guy who has his name in the paper? Or far worse yet, the kid! Can you even imagine the damage?

IMO just so wrong on so many levels...and really sad.

I think public restrooms are for peeing...Anything else is a no-no...

No number two?

No, never #2! Not unless you can hover. I just can't sit where all those nasty asses have been since the semi-annual (anal?) seat cleaning. NOW you can call me a prude.

 

[slobone]

When I were a teen I took a trip with my sister to Provincetown. I was so naive I didn't even know it was a gay mecca (even though I knew I was gay by that point). Well, I had to use the bathroom so I went into the one in the city hall.

There between two wooden stalls somebody had sawed a hole about one foot square. And sure enough, there on the other side was some dude jerking off and trying to peek at me through the hole. I don't know if I was more embarrassed or aroused.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Saturday I was at a local public park for a family outing. I went to use the restroom and their were two guys in the last stall going at it....

What do you think?????

If the door was shut... well, not my cup of tea personally, but I suppose it's a free country and I wouldn't complain too loudly.

If the door was open, though, that's just unacceptable.

-d-

 

[fliptrx]

Originally Posted by fliptrx
Being gay has nothing to do with it. Most of the men cruising the parks and johns are straight married men getting any kind of sex they can because their wife has past that point of no return, and he has to get it somewhere.

It would be nice to think that's the case, but I don't think it is. I think most of these guys are just plain gay. Now what might be true is that they have a bf waiting for them at home, and they're just trying to sneak in a quickie.

Video arcades, on the other hand, I think most of the guys really are "straight." See, that way they can justify it by saying, I just came in to see the pussy flicks.

Laud Humphreys and the Tearoom Sex Study

Laud Humphreys, a sociologist, recognized that the public and the law-enforcement authorities hold highly simplistic stereotyped beliefs about men who commit impersonal sexual acts with one another in public restrooms. "Tearoom sex," as fellatio in public restrooms is called, accounts for the majority of homosexual arrests in the United States. Humphreys decided that it would be of considerable social importance for society to gain more objective understanding of who these men are and what motivates them to seek quick, impersonal sexual gratification.


For his Ph.D. dissertation at Washington University, Humphreys set out to answer this question by means of participant observation and structured interview. He stationed himself in "tearooms" and offered to serve as "watchqueen" - the individual who keeps watch and coughs when a police car stops nearby or a stranger approaches. He played that role faithfully while observing hundreds of acts of fellatio. He was able to gain the confidence of some of the men he observed, disclose his role as scientist, and persuade them to tell him about the rest of their lives and about their motives. Those who were willing to talk openly with him tended to be among the better-educated members of the "tearoom trade." To avoid bias, Humphreys secretly followed some of the other men he observed and recorded the license numbers of their cars. A year later and carefully disguised, Humphreys appeared at their homes claiming to be a health-service interviewer and interviewed them about their marital status, race, job, and so on.


Humphreys' findings destroy many stereotypes. Fifty-four percent of his subjects were married and living with their wives, and superficial analysis would suggest that they were exemplary citizens who had exemplary marriages. Thirty-eight percent of Humphreys' subjects clearly were neither bisexual nor homosexual. They were men whose marriages were marked with tension; most of the 38 percent were Catholic or their wives were, and since the birth of their last child conjugal relations had been rare. Their alternative source of sex had to be quick, inexpensive, and impersonal. It could not entail any kind of involvement that would threaten their already shaky marriage and jeopardize their most important asset - their standing as father of their children. They wanted only some form of orgasm-producing action that was less lonely than masturbation and less involving than a love relationship. Of the other 62 percent of Humphreys' subjects, 24 percent were clearly bisexual, happily married, well educated, economically quite successful, and exemplary members of their community. Another 24 percent were single and were covert homosexuals. Only 14 percent of Humphreys' subjects corresponded to society's stereotype of homosexuality. That is, only 14 percent were members of the gay community and were interested in primarily homosexual relationships (Humphreys, 1970).

 

[Kurn]

A handy monthly calendar and paying attention to school holidays, community weekend festivities (including art-in-the-park shows and bike-a-thons) will make the cruising easier and more wholesome for all.

Somebody should invent gaystrology.

 

[Kurn]

"Doesn't matter"?
I guess you could evaluate the "opportunities" on a case by case basis but I have grown quite unsympathetic to the whole situation. Some people seem to lack any perspicacity about the bad impressions they leave in younger people's minds. Or the bad hear-say they confirm in other's minds.
But maybe the ones that seem especially abusive of public facilities are people that have already been branded as such by our institutions and hence have little reason to care.
Rambling: Maybe our society should take an ameliorative approach rather than a punitive approach.

 

[tbonez]

Man Hard-up1, that post was loaded with personal cultural bias: Promiscuity has nothing to do with it! Doesn't matter if it's your wife of 40 years you are going down on.

That said, I personally see nothing even remotely appealing about having sex in a place designed, designated and predominantly frequented by people taking a shit...to be blunt. The smells alone, (urine, faeces and chemical pucks) would be an overwhelming deterrence to having a good time.

The very act of having sex in a place where one can reasonably expect to be caught is a sign of a mental defect and deep psychological issues that need addressing. It shows (IMPO) contempt for one's self and others.

 

[thewiz]

^ I agree....anyone ever look at those public restrooms....EEEEWWWW! I worry something will try to swim upstream when I pee in them let along sit down, drop my pants or get sexually aroused!

 

[slobone]

That said, I personally see nothing even remotely appealing about having sex in a place designed, designated and predominantly frequented by people taking a shit...to be blunt. The smells alone, (urine, faeces and chemical pucks) would be an overwhelming deterrence to having a good time.

Are you sure you're gay? You do realize it involves one man putting his pee-pee tool in another man's pooper, don't you? And ask your sex therapist to tell you about rimming....

 

[tbonez]

The smells alone, (urine, faeces and chemical pucks) would be an overwhelming deterrence to having a good time.

Are you sure you're gay? You do realize it involves one man putting his pee-pee tool in another man's pooper, don't you? And ask your sex therapist to tell you about rimming....

Actually, not it doesn't. Being gay just means that you are sexually attracted to people of the same gender...What you as an individual do with it is entirely a matter of personal choice. That would include pathological behaviour like having sex in a public toilet.

I have a pretty good idea of how to use my cock,mouth and tounge... Thanks for the note of concern. Complaints aren't something I can say I've heard.

I my dick came out smelling like shit, that would require a time-out and a shower. Likely a change of activities after the fact.

If my honey's ass smelled like a urinal puck, I wouldn't have my face any where near it. If it smells like shit, I'm not eating it.

I don't need a therapist to tell me what it means when men get off on the notion of getting caught having sex in a public place. Any idiot with a functioning frontal cortex knows what that's all about. Not to say some poor souls don't still do it. Junkies do junk knowing it's probably a bad idea in the long run...Alcoholics drive to a bar knowing they will likely still try and drive home even if they are trashed. You get the idea I'm sure.

If I need a sex therapist for thinking having sex in a public shitter is nasty then I wonder who you should be talking to?

 

[fuckmuscle52]

Well for those old enough to remember the days when being gay was illegal, then there were no saunas, clubs, gay bars etc etc. So what was a man to do -- the only place to get off with a man were public loos. I guess guys who are married but have gay yearnings still need the annonymity of the public loo. Not every one is out even today. And there is still lots and lots of discrimination against guys who like sex with other guys.

So don't be too judgemental towards guys who do it.

 

[herenthere]

It's not a matter of being judgemental...Two guys haveing sex, is not the issue...but a public restroom in a family park on a week-end is flat wrong!!!

Go into the woods..whatever but not a park restroom
Thats TACKY

 

[tbonez]

Well for those old enough to remember the days when being gay was illegal, then there were no saunas, clubs, gay bars etc etc. So what was a man to do -- the only place to get off with a man were public loos. I guess guys who are married but have gay yearnings still need the annonymity of the public loo. Not every one is out even today.

So don't be too judgemental towards guys who do it.

It's not that I don't sympathize...Just as I sympathise for a junkie or anyone else who engages in self-destructive behaviour. That said, let's be honest here, people can make excuses for the most reprehensible behaviour.

The year is 2006, not 1956. It isn't illegal to be gay anywhere in the civilized western world. That dog just won't hunt. Just because someone doesn't have a local bathhouse (shudder) it's no excuse to have sex in a public toilet. It does not provide a justification to subject children, minors or even adults to salacious sexual activities in a public place. Quite aside from the legal ramifications, what do you think it does for the cause of pursuing gay social issues when some members of the gay community conduct themselves this way? It's not just about "your needs".

As for the married men, well that's perhaps the most disgusting, contemptible and selfish conduct I could imagine. What about the disease (HIV/Aids, syphilis, herpes, hepatitis etc) you are exposing your wife to by having anonymous sex with strangers in a toilet? How much contempt these men must have for their families. As I mentioned in an earlier post, imagine the repercussions if you get arrested. How is your son/daughter/wife going to live down the shame and disgrace when you are eventually exposed?

Some may see this as an issue of morality, I'm not particularly interested in that side of the equation. For me it is a matter of criminal component, the exposure of children and minors and the damage it does to the gay community as a whole. If these men are married their wives have a right to know, thus the police have an obligation to arrest them.

 

[GayBoyKellyCfan]

To quote one of my fav shows friends.

Monica - You guys did it in the park?
Pheobe - Yeah!
Monica - I can't even get chandler to do it in the bathroom.
Chandler - That's where you go number two!

A park restroom? That's gross. It should be illigal, gay or straight.

 

[hotdog1846]

Only 14 percent of Humphreys' subjects corresponded to society's stereotype of homosexuality. That is, only 14 percent were members of the gay community and were interested in primarily homosexual relationships (Humphreys, 1970).

That's a fascinating study. It would seem to (mostly) exonerate the gay community. However, it was done in 1970; I wonder what the results would be in today's more permissive times.

Having said that, my opinion is the same as for a straight couple with excessive Public Displays Of Affection (PDAs): GET A ROOM!

I don't even like it when I see couples getting all huggy and mushy in church or in the mall. Keep it to yourselves, folks, I don't have a SO and I don't like being reminded of how sad, pathetic and lonely I am (shades of the feud between Beverly Leslie and Karen Walker on Will and Grace )