Sex with Married Men

[arieliam]

I salute all of your opinions. I have been married to both a woman and a man. Both ended but never because of infidelity. I respected them both too much to dishonour the committment I made to them. Do I judge others for their choices, no I can't, I can only be responsible for my own. That is enough work for one life time.

 

[Paladin]

...I met this married guy there who had the nerve to tell me, a then unattached openly gay man, that I was leading the wrong lifestyle.
After that we got into a fight. Go ahead Paladin, and tell me why the hell I have to put up with that kind of crap?

Of course you shouldn't put up with that and neither would I. I'm just saying I've never encountered arseholes such as that - and I hope I never do. I feel bad that you have.

Peace.

 

[Soilwork]

Ronn, I'm interested in why you think that simply because we're gay we should support you lying to your wife?

I'm also intrigued by the comparrison of gay men to old ladies when Im going to go out on a limb and say that I'm more of a man than you and your other gay, closeted, married sex partners will ever be.

And it's not the high moral ground... it's just telling it like it is.

Sorry if you're having trouble dealing with that.


(but like I said before, what are you gonna do? Stand up to me? Who are you gonna borrow the spine from to do that?)

 

[Soilwork]

And you claim to be more of a man than I am! Based on what, exactly?

Personal integrity? Something I think should be present in a man. Call me kooky.

Of all the little old ladies, you're the fustiest. Oh my!

I'm assuming you mean "Fussiest". See, this is what you cloested guys tend to do... you try to make us out gay men feel feminine or girly because you project the idea that if you stay in the closet and marry women it somehow keeps you JUST manly enough to pass for straight.

Sad to waste a life like that.

I'm not looking for your approval, or disapproval. If you don't like it, that's tough.

it's got nothing to do with my approval, it's got everything to do with my distain, which trust me, you have.

Just like my Ex-BF who cheated on me... men with no personal integrity give men a bad name.

So how does your wife feel about all the sex you have with other married men?

I mean you're supposed to be able to tell your spouse about everything in your life, right? Surely there's nothing you tell us that you don't tell her?

 

[kurtwild]

ya i had sex with married men.the one was my ex-best friends dad,
he divorced his stupid wife for me.

 

[jamie_01930]

the anwser is yes but I used to be married also.

It's a starting point.

I wouldn't have a fling with a married guy just to have a fling. I would have to know him and have some chemitsry First.

and besides the average younger guy seems to think it is disgusting that the older guy has sex.

what goes around comes around

 

[Soilwork]

by the way, I should point something out...

IF your wife is aware of what's going on and is ok with it, I take it ALL back.

I'm a big supporter of couples defining the parameters of their relationships without judgement. If your wife is ok with you having sex with other men, then I have no problem with it at all. People need to decide what works for them, and if this works for them, then I'm all for it.

 

[Elwood]

I'm a married man, and not infrequently I've had sex with other married men.

If you don't approve... gee, that's really too bad. The high moral ground you are all taking makes you sound like a bunch of little old ladies, fanning themselves and saying "Tsk tsk."

Well, I never....!

Because you have somehow accepted what you are doing as right you can not expect everyone to agree with you. It has nothing to do with takeing the high moral ground, what you and other married men are doing is wrong unless, your wife is aware of it and is O:K with it. Cheating is cheating no matter with what sex.

And before you say I do not know what you are going through, I was married and yes I cheated on my wife with other men, however I had the balls to admit to myself that it was wrong and I felt terrible. I did not justify it by saying she can not offer me what another man could. Also I had the balls to do something about my situation I got divorced and came out of the closet and I am no longer living a lie! I am a much happier person now!

So after what I have done with my life in the last three years, do not expect any sympathy or understanding from me Cheating is Cheating!! And there is no way you can possibly justify it!!

 

[Danugh]

The only good thing about married men is that you dont have to worry about getting any STD's.

 

[bma1983]

The only good thing about married men is that you dont have to worry about getting any STD's.

You do if they regularly have sex outside of their marriages.

 

[Soilwork]

The only good thing about married men is that you dont have to worry about getting any STD's.

I'm glad that we can always count of Newboy to say the most innappropriate, dumb-ass and misinformed things.

It's like knowing that the sun will rise.

Actaully, it's quite the other way around.

Married, gay, closeted men are SO in denial about the fact that they're gay that they usually don't prepare for encounters with condoms, lube or even education on how to protect themselves.

They often are bottoms, since topping is something that they can do with thier wives.. they like to swallow cum because again... it's something they don't usually do.

Married gay men often get sex from hustlers who are often infected with many diseases... it's an industry problem, after all.

Marrie gay men often get sex in parks, bath houses and rest stops where safe sex isnt' generally practiced and is even looked down upon.

So although Newboy isn't human (he's an alien, I'm sure of it), all of you guys out there who think pounding married gay men is hot need to know that what he said just there is SO dangerous...

And wrong. DEAD wrong.

 

[Soilwork]

yeah, and since they immediately hop up, shower the man-smell of and run home pretending to have blown a fan belt on the turnpike (which is why they're late home), you don't have to make them breakfast or coffee.

(to be honest, I've found that married men suck in bed because having sex with women has taught them to be soft, gentle lovers instead of the rough, manly and forceful lovers that gay men tend to be... go figure)

 

[justsimon]

Open relationships aside (because if you follow the rules of the arrangement, it's not cheating), there's no excuse for cheating or helping someone else cheat.

 

[Elwood]

It's not always easy, but you can depend upon it to be BORING!

Congratulations to all those who choose monogamy (to a wife, to a lover, to a b.f.) and enjoy it. Your world, and welcome to it.

Me, I like variety.

So why did you bother getting married then????

 

[Soilwork]

Ronn... I'm not IN a monogamous relationship.

My BF and I have a great time having sexual relations with other guys, but we do it openly and honestly.

Really, our sex life is anything but boring, and I think it's totally hot to see my BF with other guys.

 

[Soilwork]

So then you’re ok with closet whores?

Closet whores that lie to their families, church, and government so they can stay in the whore closet and still appear to be wonderful members of society while they’re cheating on their taxes, and enjoying many legal benefits that gay couples can only dream about?

And, what if these married people have children to consider?

Not exactly "ok" with it...

I'm a big suporter of allowing people to make their own decisions about thier relationships and not having to answer to anyone for it.

NO, I'm not a supporter of the swinger families who vote Republican and support politicians who vote against gay marriage and such.

But I AM a supporter of allowing married couples to define their relationships without having to ask for permission.

And if there's kids involved it makes it a lot tougher... but I personally would be fine if my parents were swingers... I woudln't have been fine if I ever knew about it as a kid.

 

[sweet_taboo]

Yes, I've had sex with a few. One was a guy I began hanging out with in college, and we continued to hang out after he was married.

 

[Kulindahr]

Once, yes. I made sure he had his wife's permission first, though. And not only did he have her permission, she wanted him to! Her reason? She was turned on by the idea of her husband getting some from her and a man at the same time, and she wanted him to have some experience first!

 

[Soilwork]

Well kinda...

but marriage is - Thanks to those who would keep us down - the only way to pretect many rights that we should all have.

I understand why some straight couples would choose to get married... hey, I'm married myself (legally - in Canada), and I understand why some people are willing to compromise and get married.

But I don't understand how men like Ronn can justify stabbing his wife in her back by saying he likes "Variety".

 

[FREDDIE187]

I think the best way to sum up my feelings on the subject is to say I feel like SOILWORK about it.

I have always stayed clear of married men and always will. I like SOIL, have no respect for them.