Sex with teenage neighbour

[RonR18]

I'm 23 and have been tutoring/helping out an 18 year old male neighbour as he is re-taking his English A-Level this year and needed help. Ive got an English degree and as I know his mum she asked if I could help every now and then starting with a few sessions before he goes back to school. He is very cute and innocent and we'd only had a couple of tutoring sessions at my flat when he kissed me, knowing I'm bi-sexual. He said he's not gay and doesn't want his parents to know we then had sex. It was actually amazing sex and he said he was a virgin, not even had sex with any girls. We can't sneak around behind his parents' back can we and he is adamant he's not gay but the sex was great... Any advice?

RE: "He is very cute"

RE: "he kissed me"

RE: "He said he's not gay"

RE: "It was actually amazing sex"

RE: "he said he was a virgin"

Hmm, so you just happened to disclose your sexual orientation to a "student?" How did that cum up...were you trying to interest him in a sex education class?

And a cute straight teen who's 5 years younger than you suddenly kissed you out of the blue? Hmm, if he's that bold, it's pretty hard to believe he was still a virgin at the time. And even though he's heterosexual, he chose a male to suddenly lose his lose his virginity to? Plus, it was "amazing" sex, even though he had no experience? I agree with Jockboy..."sounds like a juicy fantasy."

RE: "Any advice?"

 

[BFizzle]

Somebody's getting fired.

 

[RonR18]

I hate when people try to vilify the act of others knowing your sexual preference. Someone knowing I'm gay doesn't mean I'm hitting on them any more than someone knowing a person is straight.

I hate when people try to vilify what I say without knowing what their talking about. As I can't even crack a joke around here without peeps looking for an excuse to pick a fight with me, due to their deep-seated personality disorders and craving for parental style discipline.


Even if I hadn't used a "laughing emoticon" to indicate I was kidding, I had at least 60 teachers (including substitutes) by the time I was 18, and not a single one of them ever had occasion to mention their sexual orientation. And why do you suppose that is? Could it be because it's just not professional for someone in a teaching capacity to discuss his sex life with students?

 

[Lefty]

Now just fucking stop this drivel Ronnie.

Stop it now.

If you don't it's back in the corner

daily for a fortnight after Big Bertha and I get your attention...

'

 

[RonR18]

I wasn't picking a fight with you. It's just that the whole sentiment of "why did you tell him you were gay? Were you trying to _____?" fails, even as a joke, IMO.



Discussion sexual orientation and discussing sex life is two different things. Orientation is often about who you love, the person you are committed to, etc. Precisely my point. You don't get to play the "it was just a joke" card and then follow with that rhetoric.

RE: "I wasn't picking a fight with you."

I hate when people falsely accuse me of trying to vilify "the act of others knowing your sexual preference," without realizing their nonsensical accusation constitutes an overt attempt to start a fight.

RE: "fails, even as a joke, IMO."

Well you know what they say...opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. As I've grown up and become more mature, I've learned to keep mine to myself when I suspect my criticism will be regarded as baseless, and is likely to start a fight.

RE: "Discussion sexual orientation and discussing sex life is two different things."

In your opinion.

RE: "Orientation is often about who you love, the person you are committed to, etc."

The disclosure of which has no place in a professional teacher/student relationship. In many redneck counties in the U.S., ignorant, homophobic parents would be yelling for a teacher to be fired if they found out he told students he's gay or bisexual.

RE: "You don't get to play the "it was just a joke" card and then follow with that rhetoric."

Oh, butt I do, because it was intended as a joke. Butt even if it hadn't been, I'd still be right if I was "vilifying" the disclosure of an older man's sexual orientation in a teacher/student relationship.

 

[RonR18]

Now just fucking stop this drivel Ronnie.

Stop it now.

If you don't it's back in the corner

daily for a fortnight after Big Bertha and I get your attention...

Alright Lefty, you've forced my hand...drop those pants and panties. (And NaughtyBoy is next.)

*bends Lefty over my lap*

 

[G-Lexington]

As long as it's "just sex", I'd say see what else you can teach him.

Lex

 

[RonR18]

If you aren't prepared to include heterosexuals in that--including teachers who only admit their heterosexuality by mention of their husband or wife--then your views are bigoted.



I don't really make judgement calls on what's right or wrong based on the fears of bigots.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

I really don't see much wrong with it. The whole teacher/student thing here is a bit off here, I mean his just helping the guy out with his A-levels and has not mentioned getting paid. I mean we don't know how long they have known each other, they may well have grown up together!

 

[genthree]

What adults do is their business, however you were his tutor. From a parental point of view, it seems like a breach of trust when you started a sexual relationship with him. As his parents don't know, you'd best prepared to face a standoff between the guy and his parents as well as the parents against you.

I think that 18 would make him legal, but ST is right you are acting in a professional capacity and this could have repercussions.
The catholic church could never get it, but you don't fuck the flock !

 

[BostonPirate]

Its completely unprofessional in every way and the Op knows it or would never have made the thread.

Never shit where you have to eat. There's no nice way to say this. It is what it is, and if one truly can't keep it in their pants within a professional environment, they tend to have very poor success in the Jobs market.

It's not about being gay, or being a certain age.

It's about playing footsie with your bosses kid on his dime. I would quit the job and let the rest fall where it may. When you find yourself in the middle of a moral mine field, quietly look back and step away.

If the kid calls you in a month or a week? Its his game to control and if you play, it will always be by his rules. That, of course, is entirely optional and well...

What was that porn flick Jockboy mentioned earlier?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

The 'kid' can't be very smart if he thinks sleeping with the tutor is going to improve his grade.

That's like sleeping with a meter maid to get out of a speeding ticket.