Sexual assault on men

[jbrown329]

I have a hard fast rule, I NEVER meet a guy at his or my place. It's always in public. If we click, it's a couple more public meetings. Then things proceed from there.

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

Completely understandable...all of it.

The thing about assuming something else might have happened..like drinking too much...I did the same thing except I included MPD in the mix. It doesn't really occur to you instantly that your drink was spiked...

...and loving a person with flaws...very easy to understand. I find in my life...if I love someone already and I learn their flaws...I usually love them more ..not less....

Sounds like complete stupidity to me. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool m,e twice, shame on me.

 

[72-Jay]

Another shocking story.

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I have a hard fast rule, I NEVER meet a guy at his or my place. It's always in public. If we click, it's a couple more public meetings. Then things proceed from there.

Maybe I'm paranoid but I pretty much see meeting in public as the only real option (not just the 1st time, but in general)
I think I'd need to become good/close friends with a guy before I'd go to his place
And well my place...well that would never be an option (so its not something to worry about)

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Reading these stories is kinda scary.
Probably all the better that I'll be forever single anyway...

 

[shawnlx]

This person's name was John Paine. If you can imagine it, its September 1951, you enter the Beverly Hills police department to report a rape, your own. There's a newspaper photographer in the lobby photographing the people that come in and out looking for a story. You have to sit and wait to be seen with the photographer taking pictures of you. Your report gets deemed a false report and you have to leave being followed by the photographer who gets the details of your report to decide of its newsworthy. I don't know, you have to look at the photos and wonder.

That was the 1950's, there should be a much better way to handle this by now.

 

[tomboy87]

One time, I never drink spirits other than maybe one gin and tonic at Christmas, i'm a pint of lager guy. Anyways, met up with a guy who ordered me a taxi to go to his for some fun, got there everything was alright, then he kept giving me vodka and cola, triple vodka and cola in fact, he gave me 8 of those, i went along with it because i wanted to be touched, I get lonely. I agreed to be tied up and blind folded, looking back, why on earth would i do that!? anyways as we were doing stuff the vodka caught up with me and i puked all over his sofa and floor. I was so dumb back then. I was lucky.

 

[eastofeden]

Good..I found this thread!

I want to thank the OP and also TX Beau because I just realized today when I was helping someone else come to terms with a rape (well..three of them)....I hadn't thought about the roofie guys since I left this thread....I used to think about it way too much til it drove me crazy...years of mental torture...

I was thrilled to realize that....

The other guys helped me initially in another thread...you finished the job for me....

That's the thing with advice..you never know when someone is gonna say the thing that clicks...and Tx Beau...you made my years long nightmare go away permanently I think.....

I just wanted to put it in the past but I couldn't for some reason...and just reminding me that I was in a bar and DUH...I "get it" now. What you brought up and I also realized it was a common thing when the date rape drug first appeared...that made all the difference to me.

So...Thanks! ((()))