Sexually Confused

[charlieb95]

Hey everyone,

So as the title says I am confused on my sexual orientation. Throughout my high school career I always masturbated to homosexual porn. The reason being that I am a virgin so I don't know what it feels like to have sex with a chick, but because of my flexability I know what sucking a penis is like (made me hard, but that was probably cause of the BJ, btw cum to me is gross). So ya know through most of my beginning high school thought okay cool I'm gay no big deal... but whenever I actually was dating a this girl in more of my senior year just one kiss from her made me as hard as a rock. Not only that, but the idea of anal is a big no to me. I remember anytime I would watch gay porn if anal came on I skipped that.

Anyway I don't know where I am going with this, but let me try to sum it up. I am a virgin who gets emotionally and aroused by girls that I like, but straight porn only arouses me, doesn't push me to reach an orgasm. Yet gay porn I can actually orgasm, but when it comes to any guy that I have met (except one) the idea of any sexual acts is hell no. Where in the fuck does that put me? Bisexual, gay or what?!?

 

[Seasoned]

One hundred people will have one hundred opinions. The task at hand is self discovery. Many here will tell you to forget labels and it seems to be a growing trend to do just that. Personally, I think labels can benefit some people. You have more work to do with regard to exploration, keeping in mind that some of your turn offs could be societal conditioning and some of the turn ons could be the thrill of what is considered taboo.

 

[jtguy31]

Yeah dude, don't worry about labels.

The most important thing is to just do what turns you on and you enjoy (safely, of course.)

I'm, like, 90% straight. Been with way more chicks than dudes. I'm with you on m/m anal sex: not my cup of tea either way. Girls, yeah, for whatever reason. Cum...depends. Some days I think it's gross and some days it is really a turn on.

The wonderful thing about living in a free society with so many people willing to hook up is that on the days where I just don't like cum, I can be honest about it and tell the guy "look...I'll finish you with a handjob or you can finish yourself or whatever...just not in the mood today." On days when I want it on my body, I can say that. On days when I want it in my mouth, I can get it.

I don't tend to feel sexual attraction to a whole lot of dudes--just a pretty specific type. But hey, that's cool, because there's a lot of dudes of that type out there, and I've found that most of us "straight" guys aren't exclusively hetero, lol. You don't want to be awkward about it, of course, but once I lost my shyness and just started doing what I wanted, I discovered that, with few exceptions, I could get just about whatever I wanted. It's the rare man, even a straight/married one, who'll turn down a handjob or some head.

Keep your chin up, play safe, and just have fun. YOLO, right, so make it worthwhile.

 

[dragon08]

I think that you need to have more experience and do some more exploration of yourself. A while back I thought the same thing about anal, but for me that was just out of confusion and ignorance more than anything. Once I gave it a chance, seeing two guys fuck on a porn was a huge turn on. And Cum I think is the same.

I've had girlfriends in the past too and I have gotten hard from kissing them but for me that was just out of excitement of the idea of kissing more than the actual act brought me physically. I don't want to kiss a girl. That is not my cup of tea.

I think that you actually need to try things before you automatically shoot them down. Even if you don't actually do the acts yourself, you can still give them a shot. Try watching the videos of guys getting fucked and be open minded don't keep the mindset that you already know. Maybe try fingering yourself. The next time you jack off try tasting your cum. What would be even better if you got a boyfriend and just experimented with him (or a girl if you want to do that too).

You should also try doing this for straight porn too. give it a shot too. See exactly what turns you on. Are you looking at the guys in the video or the chicks?

You should try to give things a chance multiple times. You just might not like something because it's a little strange to you and you just haven't been exposed that much.

 

[dereperez]

What you are is that you are sexual. No label can define who you are and how you can act or react to others. Just be yourself and explore and you will discover your likes, dislikes, etc...without conforming to society.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi charlieb95,

First of all, welcome to JUB and good you have created a profile and that you have made this posting. I tend to agree with #4 that you should try to get some experiences (=sex) with girls. Any idea if its at the moment easy for you to get some experiences with girls? And maybe you should as well try to get some more experiences with other guys?

Good luck, and feel free to react and/or ask for more details.

Best wishes & take care.

 

[hylas]

i think youre bisexual.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

One gay friend from school told me about his one erotic dream, his ONE wet dream ... all it took was putting his hand on the school's most beautiful girl's breast. He allowed it to confuse his sexuality for a over a year.

The only problems we have are those situations real or imagined that we consciously choose to make into problems (outside of the obvious, of course). My tomato didn't ripen, I might be gay, MaryBeth didn't say, "good-night," I might not have enough to make rent this month, or should I order the 18oz. T-Bone steak? Once you realize that being gay is not a problem, so much the better. Ha ha, I still laugh that my gay friend's only wet dream was touching a woman's boob! OMG, what Freud would do with that!

 

[Kyanimal]

What you are is that you are sexual. No label can define who you are and how you can act or react to others. Just be yourself and explore and you will discover your likes, dislikes, etc...without conforming to society.

THIS, Charlie!

I've known I was Gay since realizing that I liked getting Naked with my Guy friends more than my Girl friends. I think I was 5, or so!

However, I did my expected "Duty", had more than my fair share of "Luck" with Chicks, during my late teens and twenties. My fascination with SEX, Period, got "Animal" all boned UP with both Girls and Guys!

It wasn't until I was around 30 that I finally went exclusively with Guys.

LIFE is not a competition between THIS or THAT! It's ALL a Journey of Discovery, both of Yourself and Others!

Go with what YOU want, at any given time, even if You might not Fully understand it! Eventually you'll sort out your Own answers, and that's what Really counts!

All the more reasons to ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz