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Hi,

I'm a young man from Latin America, I recently had an online relationship experience and would like to tell you the story to unburden myself and move on. I had very little experience with men and dating, so I guess that many of the things I said and did were naive. I met this person online on a local friendship gay chat. We didn't talk much at the beggining. After that I went out of the country to study for 3 months and we started talking online, we hit it of, had many common interest and chemistry, obviously we were only friends as we were in different countries, nonetheless I started to develop strong feelings for him, we agreed to try dating after I returned to the country. When I came back he was never online, his cell phone sounded disconnected, and I though I'd been deceived, but 3 week later he logged in and said he had gone to his country (wer'e from different countries) that there was an accident and he and his mother had been at the hospital, and that he cared about me and wanted to be with me, he had started working in another city in my country we talked on the internet again several hours per da, but when I talked about arranging a meeting he kind of avoided the issue. Two weeks ago he just stopped getting online , and I cannot see his windows live space, what apparently means that he blocked me, he has a new cell phone and I dont have the number. A few days ago I reopened my old Manhunt account, and by accident I saw that he has a profiles that he's looking for friends with "no commitments". He's online in the site every date for several hours, I wrote him a message saying everything I feel and telling him that what he did to me was coward and cruel. From this experience I would advice everyone not to get emotionally involve with anyone you meet online and wait until actually meeting, be more astute and less gullible, because if you dont have common friends with a person he can easily disappear and hurt you
 
There are good and bad people online. Just like in real life.
Unfortunately, you ran into a bad one. People, both in real life and online, tend to give their hearts away too quickly and allow their emotions to rule them. That is your lesson.

The people who will use you online are the same ones who would use you in real life. These users are only out to get what they can for themselves and when they do, they move on. This does not mean that there are no good people in life, either on the internet or IRL. You just need to guard yourself all the time.

You've shared this now, I hope you feel better. Time to move on.
 
Yes,

I undestand that even in person you can be cheated and dissapointed, but I realized that is easier to missinterpret things over the internet, believing you have a connexion that the other person is special.
 
As long as you continue to use the internet, this cannot be avoided to a certain extent, but it never hurts to guard yourself and be wise about the people you start trusting. You can usually tell who's a real jerk or not just by the way they converse with you/how much they choose to reveal about their lives/how much of what they tell you is realistic etc.
 
sixthson said:
There are good and bad people online. Just like in real life.
Unfortunately, you ran into a bad one. People, both in real life and online, tend to give their hearts away too quickly and allow their emotions to rule them. That is your lesson.

The people who will use you online are the same ones who would use you in real life. These users are only out to get what they can for themselves and when they do, they move on. This does not mean that there are no good people in life, either on the internet or IRL. You just need to guard yourself all the time.

You've shared this now, I hope you feel better. Time to move on.
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So true!

Sorry you came across a total jerk. Forget him and move on; you're too good for him anyways. ;)
 
Oh lordy "...my momma was in an accident..." LOL. Not at you OP, at that excuse.

I'm older, I've fallen for them all, as you get older you'll be able to smell the excuses from a mile away.

At 25, I'd have probably tried to send the dear little lady flowers, at 35, I'd have run far and fast from the guy. Always remember, guys telegraph who they actually are by what they do, not what they say.

You'll get the hang of it, the more guys you date, the easier it gets to spot the flakes, and you've learned the most valuable lesson in all of this - don't put any expectations on people you've never actually met.
 
I agree with everything people have said, already. Don't get too attached to anyone too quickly whether you meet them online or otherwise. Get to know them better, and while you're at it, get to know a variety of people so that you don't fixate on one prematurely.
 
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