Shes Really Asking For It

[HappySmiles]

Today I was watching the View lol, and I agreed that no one should out anyone because its up to the person. However, I am getting really annoyed with my friend and his retarded girlfriend. My friend is a guy that I met over a year ago and since then Ive had a thing for him. Since January we have been messing around and doing all that stuff. What annoys me the most is that he still cant decide if he wants me or her. I even started seeing other guys but that did not go very well for me. I even question myself if I even like him anymore now that he has declared his supposed love to me. This is a guy that is all about words and promises. I just brush them off because he irritates me because he shows no action other than when being intimate.

Moreover, what bugs the hell out of me is his girlfriend. She is really annoying a la Kelly from the real housewives of New York. She even rides the horses and all that shit. Anywho, she is constantly messaging me on myspace. I am polite so I "try" to have a conversation with her. After constant messages, she tells me that once again he has forbid her to talk to me. I tell her that he is retarded and tells me the same thing all the time. I tell her to ask herself why ? She then stops all contact with me but before that tells me "God I loveeeeeeeee him," all retarded in a Kelly Bensimon way.

Like I said, I know its not my place to out him ,but she really pushes my buttons and so does he. The other day I told her "you like her because she looks like a man dont you." I know I should drop both of them because it really sounds all retarded but I cant. I want to believe all that he says but he just does so much to push me away. I kinda want to just cut the damn chord. He could stay with his horse riding man.

P.S I think this was more of a rant

 

[rareboy]

ps I think you're right.

Grow up. You sound like a totally unpleasant person from what your write in your post; childish, churlish and jealous.

I think you should drop both of them because it sounds like you have a totally toxic relationship with both of them. If his indecision is making you this unhappy, then move on and find someone who isn't struggling with their sexual and emotional identity.

You are the one they are both going to drop if you can't learn to be civil.

 

[KaraBulut]

Since January we have been messing around and doing all that stuff. What annoys me the most is that he still cant decide if he wants me or her.

He's already decided.

And you've settled for being "the guy on the side".

At this point, the problem is that you've accepted a dysfunctional situation. You're the one who can end it and will have to end it.

 

[G-Lexington]

Funny how the unreliable, controlling "straight" assholes never have a problem getting gay guys to go to bed with them. And getting them to stay in bed waiting for them while they're off fucking their girlfriend.

The question isn't should you out him lol. It's why you're staying with him. But I think I know the answer lol.

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

...I know I should drop both of them because it really sounds all retarded but I cant.

Sure you can drop him, this comment really means won't. If you won't act, no one can help you, and all the comments in the world are useless.

...I want to believe all that he says but he just does so much to push me away. I kinda want to just cut the damn chord. He could stay with his horse riding man.

1. Always trust what a guy does, that'll tell you a hell of a lot more about him than anything he says or promises. His actions are telling you he has no intention of leaving the girl. And in all fairness, why should he? You're going right along with the situation. Even if you tell him that the situation is intolerable, why should that bother him, you won't leave, does that progression resemble something you might be complaining about?

2. Are you out? I hope so because if you're not, you really have no call to be tossing the dishonesty stone.

 

[rareboy]

I've reconsidered my position.

Given that the guy you're fucking is such a jerk, I think you should tell his chick that he's slipping the dick to both of you and you think you are better at pleasing him than she is.

That should put a cat amongst the pigeons.

 

[TX-Beau]

I did that once upon a time when I was but a lad. Got some spectacular drama, and I admit it was satisfying, but ultimately wasn't worth it. The closet will win every time.

Anyway you're forgetting to factor in denial. The girl flat out refused to believe me, even when I accurately described his nether regions. She said I should stop perving him in the shower, I countered with asking why she would think he's getting boners in the locker room, at which point she figuratively stuck her fingers in her ears and started humming really loudly.

Pissed him off to no end, but he just played the offended straight guy and she lapped it up.

I'm pretty sure she knew, but she sure as hell didn't want to know.

The OP is fucking a guy with a commitment to someone else, not the best ethical ground to stand on in the first place.

 

[MorrisseyX]

I know this won't sound PC but I think you should tell the girlfriend because then you would screw this guy right over. It's obvious this guy is really hurting your feelings and that's unacceptable. Everyone is saying you should walk away but I think you should tell the girlfriend and THEN walk away. Why should this guy be able to screw you over and not get burned? I definitely think you should tell the girlfriend because then it will be out in the open. You let the secret out get back at the guy and then move on.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Why should this guy be able to screw you over and not get burned?

It takes two to tango. Nobody is forcing him to sleep with the guy. To go to bed with a "straight" guy, then to play the wounded bird when he won't ditch the bitch is just plain silly.

Lex

 

[HappySmiles]

I was just mad last night. It really isnt my place to be telling anyone his business. I just feel like he likes having both of us at the same time. I've told him various times to just end it and keep it on a friend level and he gets really mad. He talks me out of it and we are back where we started. On the other hand, I really cant stand her. She constantly annoys me on myspace on how great her relationship with him is and I just laugh. I could delete her ,but its my only way of finding out when he lies. Like yesterday we were supposed to hang out, but I know that he was with her. However, right now she cant talk to me because he forbid her to have any contact with me lol.

All in all, I dont even know if I care. What bugs me more is some other guy. Its like I cant balance anything out. I'll live !!! good thing she leaves in the fall to college lol. Not like thats going to make anything better because for a while now I have been really tired of his little games.

 

[TX-Beau]

Walk the fuck away. If you won't do that this discussion is pointless.

 

[G-Lexington]

If you want advice, I'm here. If this is going to be a "here's what's new with the 'straight' guy and his girlfriend who doesn't know her boyfriend's bi" thread, I'll see you on the other side of it.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

^ I'm with Lex. If this is another 'Dear Diary' thread where you promise to keep all your faithful readers updated on every move you make, don't bother wasting your energy.

I've reconsidered my position.

Go back and read my first response.