Should I actively look for a bf?

[scmhon]

I am 25yo and have been in 2 not-so-serious shortlasting relationships. Sometimes I feel kinda bored as friends around me are happily attached. They spent most of their time with their significant ones and when we did get a chance to hang out, they would slip in their relationship/loved one into the conversation once in awhile. Personally, I do not mind being single, but all this peer pressure is just terrible. I guess my desperation for a relationship ended me up in both previous relationships with the exes living in other cities - distance relationship destined for failure since the very beginning. We spent most of the time texting each other, rather than actual physical/verbal communication. Curious enough, I just haven't met anyone for me in my town. Should I just be a happy bachelor and wait for 'him' to come to me or actively look for 'him'?

To be honest, I really envy those couples who get to spend their time together. For those couples, please treasure what you have.

 

[dragon08]

If you want to find someone look, obviously something out of the blue would be ideal and romantic but this is the real world unfortunately.

Keep in mind
relationship != happiness
Just because you are dating someone means all your problems go away.
If you are lonely then go looking. Just be open to possibilities.

 

[ckryde]

If you do want a relationship go out there and look for one! It's not likely to just fall into your lap, especially once you're out of school.

I had fun dating when I was between relationships. The online sites worked for me, adam4adam seemed the best here, though it can be really cruisey too. I liked dating, but I also like being a part of a couple

 

[darden]

If you do want a relationship go out there and look for one! It's not likely to just fall into your lap, especially once you're out of school.

+1

if you're out of school and aren't living in an area with a particularly high percentage of gay people, meeting guys is probably going to require some work on your end too, whether that's going out to bars to meet people, joining some kind of social group, or engaging in online dating sites.

 

[maxpowr9]

You have to make an effort to go out and meet people. I'm not a huge fan of the whole dating thing but I put myself out there.

I am a firm believer in that notion that: "things do not come to people who wait."

Waiting around sulking will not improve your potential partners.

 

[Seasoned]

Be active. If the only time you're out is when you're with your attached friends you not likely to meet new people.

 

[deathbylemons]

Meet new friends, mix around. Probably you'll know more people and be introduced to new people and maybe things will go from there.

 

[dereperez]

Make yourself known and available by going out and socializing. The more people you meet, the better chances you'll find a potential partner. Be proactive. Also, you should want to be in a relationship because you want to, not because you feel the peer pressure from those around you.